Poland has killed my inner child

instead of insulting the thread poster...why not try to understand his situation and try and give a little advice...instead of resorting to childish comments...ok.. he may have said some bad words...but sometimes people do this when they are upset..

someone said something about polish people comind to england to clean toilets...this is just not true...polish poeple come to england and get the same chances as native people here...i wish i could say the say the say thing for poland!!!

enlighten us, G :)

I think that there 2 kinds of people.

People who easily acommodate on emigration and people who don't.
If someone is unhappy in new place and can't settle he gets aggresive, resentful and blames new surroundings.

I think that it doesn't matter if it is Poland, France...or China.

Each country is different has different culture....and I think that it is better to be open for new than whinge.... I admit I sometimes do it but I try to look at myself with critical eyes and stop.

but every person is different and everyone knows within their heart and self where is truly home
that is true ... and that is why decision about emigration is quite difficult

yeah...?

me too...

90% of Poles I know will say that they hate Poland and this country is really hopeless.

I am Polish and I don't think so.

Once is better , once is worse....but hopeless...hate.....quite big words.

I did just that and he came back with smarta$$ remark. If he truly wants advice, then he'll listen to people, but he is clearly hear just to bi*tch. He doesn't want to do anything to change his situation so he'll get what he gives.:)

All you people that went and cried to your mommy and had the "Why are Poles so Racist?" thread shut down... It shows that you can't defend your viewpoints using logic or writing skills.

It's the final argument in the white nationalists' favor: You admit that your views are weak and indefensible. By this action, you tacitly admit you are wrong.

The worst part of this is that I have to live in the multi-cultural cesspit that you help create. Promoting subversive values and then YOU suffering the consequences is one thing. Unfortunately, others who don't share your misguided values have to live in this unworkable multicultural society that you help create.

If your not happy in Poland,you should consider going back to the UK.

Here in The U.S when Americans are not happy in one area they continue to move until they are happy someplace.

Poland is not for everyone,and even though I never been there,I feel a strong connection and love for the country :-)

:)


Dont hurt or harm yourself in this way. Tell you wife how you feel about staying in Poland, which is undoubtly also a result of marrying her.

Polish society and way of life will not change suddenly because one englishman is having difficulties, and feels as if his inner child have been killed! I suggest you should give you inner child a grave in UK, it will be good for it.

It is unclear about how your innerchild always wanted to live. Maybe like a playboy, or a drunk man under a lamp-post, or maybe dancing and playing cards every evening!... Unfortunately, life is not all about that. For a peaceful, happy and prosperous life, still many Poles look towards privacy and stability. More seriousness. Which is right in many ways, and the greatest reason why Poland is different than UK.

It seems you only married her because you felt like it! You saw her, and wanted to marry. Just SAW her... thats all. Because, if you would know her-understand her, then only you could relate yourself more with her to initiate any kind of relationship which would not result in catastrophy.

However, if you dont have any children as yet, let her free .... tell her about you real self, and also about your inner baby.

BARX

Do you sometimes feel you are worthless and deluding yourself,get a grip on yourself and make it happen, it all honesty Poland is not the place for you, return back home and start afresh. Lets face it apart from a weekend root, you have nothing in common with poles... true..

LS - great advice:)

Miranda, what on earth are you doing up young lady?? were you waiting for me to come back..ha. :)

ha, ha......actually I have been standing outside your window:)

I hope you are, you can help me finish laying this floor so i can be finished in time to watch the rugby.. Beer and food will be provided.. :)

ha, ha - just have to finish that batch of cookies, load all my pictures into Photobucket and I will be right over - shell I bring my tool box?

Nah just yourself will be fine... :) and maybe a few cookies..

coming right over, I hope the floor is done and we wil not be canned for highjacking the post:(

:(... u r very hurt after that arent you?.... its not fare that they did it with you. I read your post, and it was not offending at all :(.... but dont worry :)... Miranda never breaks :) :)...

Wow...I was just surfing the net looking for info on Poland since me and my family (group of 8 in total) are going there in July and you're freaking me out.

I'm really looking forward to it!! even though we're a bunch o plish decent...non polish speaking canadians and one scottish dude.

Lighten up guys!

Is the original poster for real?

I went to Poland for 3 weeks and by the end of it I had made loads of friends with blokes aswell.

By week 3 it was at the point where I'd walk down the street and see someone I knew. I really fit in there and everybody was really friendly.

Theres loads of parties and such in Poland, you've just got to talk to people and go to the right places. I think you'll find that some people are actually very intellectual. I've had loads of meaningfull conversations with people. I know you said your sick of parties but parties are the best place to find new friends.

For a start your from another country, and meeting someone from another part of the world is always interesting. I'm told even more so in Poland because 99% of people there are Polish.

Please dont take this wrong, but , when you married, and moved there, did you
expect yourself to make it your home, or did you decide before you left that
nothing will take the place of home?

when you say inner child, it almost sounds like you wanted it to be a fairy tale
marriage with all the comforts of home.

in any marriage, its alot of work, it sounds like you are just a follower and not
a leader and so of course your going there , you would become home sick
because you maybe didnt want to let it become your home?

I know, my move from one city to another, when we first bought this house
I hated it. nothing was easy, i had to drive the kids back to their old schools for
2 weeks before school let out for the christmas holiday, I was so busy cleaning
I didnt have time to fix up a christmas tree, I went shopping late, due to the move
and was literally exhausted. I really hated this house alot.

its been three years now, I am making it mine, its very hard to adjust to something
your not used to.

Maybe if you take over the man your supposed to be, and find some type of peace
you might be able to find ways to make Poland your home. sitting back and letting
it get to you when you could be taking over your life and doing things and finding
more then surface beauty?

or Perhaps you should have thought about marriage before you put that ring on
and made that big move. I am not trying to get a rise out of you, more so just
inquiring on some things and suggestions-thoughts.

I hated moveing in this house with my husband who loves this house.

I happen to love it too now. I found some peace .

Perhaps he's just a misanthrope. :)

no , I dont think he hates mankind, only poland. but hes not letting himself
get over the vacation part of it.

I know theres a few of those "misanthrope" on the forum and we all know who they
are without mentioning nick names on here :)

a misanthrope with a grudge then? :)

lol huegel :)

Yes, the perogies must have not had enought saurkraut in them :) lol

Patrycja19, I don't mind mentioning who they are, you are the number one misanthrope? Please stop putting down other people

Patrycja doesn't put anyone down. She tries to help.

Let's face it , Barx thread sounds like outburst of little spoilt child...."I hate here I want go home".....he doesn't look for advice he wants people to say ..O , yes you are right Polish, Poland is hopeless ...we are so symhatetic to you ...come back...

There are few more people on this forum who have polish girlfriends , buy properties in Poland but their attitude is much more sensible and mature.

Today's Quote

The man who can't dance thinks the band is no good.

-Polish Proverb

:) That says it all!

Well, I fell kind of a similar to Barx. I live in a big city, far from home, tried to make some friends, but the truth is that everybody here have already their pals and a Pole won't fit in there and is rather omitted. I go out sometimes to the gigs, pubs, libraries, botanic gardens etc., but I'm disillusioned about any socialising with people here. Therefore I locked myself inside, and am now focused on myself - egoism is probably the only solution suitable for me in this situation of desertion and loneliness.

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Hi Bartolome - If you are living in Scotland, have a look at this site. Lots of people in the same situation.
I'd recommend "Polished" in Edinburgh for a good night out too.

I appreciate its more easily said than done.