Im an English man getting married to a Polish girl. The idea is to get married in Poland. We have found a nice venue for the reception. The problem is the church.
Im English, non Catholic and I was not christened. Does anyone know are chances of being able to get married in Poland.
COuld I pretend to be Catholic or christened?? Any ideas will really help.
No you wouldnt be able to do that and why would you pretend anything thats like not being true to yourself! Normally you get asked questions and maybe you will get asked where you did your baptism ... when was your holy communion and when did you have your confimation possibly .... so you may be tripped up on this score!
Have you sat and spoke about any of this with the person you intend on marrying surely that would be the logical thing to do?!?
If the person you are marrying is Catholic then you would have to conform to the Catholic faith prior to marriage and attend church each saturday and sunday at least 6-8 weeks prior to the date of the wedding.
maybe someone else will be able to give you more an insight on the legalilties of marrying etc
I used to go to church (Church of England) a lot as a kid, was taken by my grandparents, but my parents never had me christened as they are not religious.
My girlfriend really wants to get married in a catholic church, 6 of her ciblings have got married at the village church. Her parents will not go to a civil wedding!
Do I have to be catholic to get married in a polish catholic church. We are ggetting mixed stories from the church there. DO I have to be christened?
hello EnglishKing. One does not have to convert inorder to marry, and you do not have to be baptised in the Catholic Church to marry either. My husband was never baptised and he just signed decree that he would allow me to raise our children in the Catholic Church. The U.S. and Poland have different ideas but the best thing is to talk to a Priest.
this is where religions mess with the people of the planet. Can't do this because of that and can't do that because of this etc.....preach intolerance, but yet the followers hate ppl that are not like them, and think differently.
this is where religions mess with the people of the planet.
exactly yet another part of the world where religion interferes, love, when will people realise that Religion is not the answer and that it serves no purpose
hello EnglishKing. One does not have to convert in order to marry, and you do not have to be baptised in the Catholic Church to marry either. My husband was never baptised and he just signed decree that he would allow me to raise our children in the Catholic Church.
I am an English guy and I was married in a Polish Catholic Church, and the information above is correct because I had to do the same thing, along with getting special permission from the Bishop. But in our case it was easier because the Priest was my wifes uncle lol
I may be Roman Catholic sweetie but this has no bearings of any kind on the decisions i make in my life never has and never will.
Of course it does!!!! Religion sets rules, you follow the rules of god, so it does in some way determine what you do. Your one in millions of people who are religious, look how many people are brain warped by religion or religious beliefs :)
I dont want to argue with you ... but i was baptised RC .. but nearly 30 years old now Torny and i havent been to church in over 15/16 years so how the FK does tha mean i follow anything.
I AINT WARPED .. sorry but i have just been offended by your comment. JUST BECAUSE I HAVE A RELIGION DOES NOT MAKE ME INDIFFERENT TO YOU .. in that statement alone you have just offended CATHOLICS .. CHRISTIANS .. JEWISH .. MUSLIMS .. and every other religion well done on becoming public enemy number one.
look how many people gain comfort from their religious beliefs. One size does not fit all
Its very true that billions of people worldwide are comforted by there beliefs. I myself am catholic. And a believer.
But its also true that millions have died. Some brutally. Because of there beliefs. And that Wars have been fought across the centuries. over religion.
Lets NOT Start one here.......... :)
God doesnt make rules. He gave commandments. And the free will to choose to follow them or not.
I do really want to marry my beloved girlfriend. But I was not brought up as religious as she was. In her village church where her family really want to get married in Poland they are being funny about me not being Catholic or being christened. I will do anything to make her happy, and she and her family want to get married there.
They dont even seem to entertain a wedding there. And the whole thing is causing massive issues with her and her family... I cant help not being christened when I was a kid! nor can I suddenly become catholic!!
Talk to the priest, promise to allow any children to be brought up in the catholic faith and don't take any notice of the neighbours.
If you are not in Poland find a Polish church in your country, England I assume, and talk to the priest there. But do it soon before you have any more problems.
I understand your predicament English and I really hope all turns out well for you. I will be going through the same problems as you when I get married to my girlfriend. I have the added difficulty of being divorced. I don't know if it will be possible to get married in a Catholic church in Wroclaw or not. I have a friend there who is engaged to be married and he said to me one time that there is a way, he is also divorced. Let me know how things go for you. How soon do you plan to be married?
Torny, I know you have your own beliefs and opinions on religion, I have seen you speak them on other threads before and that is ok. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and if people want to believe in a faith, that is their choice. I happen to agree with Firestorm and I think he really put it best. Anyhow, all I wanted to say is that no matter what your beliefs are on religion, English just came here to get some helpful suggestions on his obviously frustrating situation and your criticism doesn't help him any.
Talk to the priest, promise to allow any children to be brought up in the catholic faith and don't take any notice of the neighbours.
Agreed, worked for me (Edit: here in Canada). I was never baptised / christened either, but a very kind Polish Priest went to bat for us, and made it happen in an RC church.
If the village church cannot open their mind far enough to consider it, could you find a church in a larger city, preferably nearby?
But seriously, you must keep your end of the bargain about the upbrining of the children. Our kids are in and will continue to be in the Catholic school system. We also send them to Polish Language school here in Canada...
You dont need to be a catholic. From what I remember we just got some sort of doc from our local polish priest (in London)which gave the go ahead. I had to pretend to him that I thought Catholicism was a really good idea and that I didnt think it absurd to live my life by the morals of several millenia old Jewish myths and legends. He lapped it up, well that and the bribe my wife had to give him.
I'm not sure he saw the irony in him giving us a speech on our future children being brought up with strong christian morals and the fact that we had to bribe him to make it happen.
It's complicated I believe. I think there has to be an annullment issued by the Catholic Church first but maybe this has changed. There was the high profile Nicole Kidman case where she remarried in a ctaholic church and it was said at the time that her previous marriage has been annulled. As it turned out the Catholic Church had not recognised her previous marriage as it was at a Scientology church.
You do not have to be Christened. I got round the problem by having a Polish catholic friend vouch for me that I was not married before. Then with my fiancee we had to sit and answer a whole load of stupid questions (one of which was "are you marrying your girlfriend so that you can get your hands on her farmland").
It was a pain in the ass, but I guess they can set whatever rules they like in their church.
You are supposed to go to the marriage guidance class but can get out of it by saying you dont speak Polish or that you are back in the UK working etc.
By the way, if your inlaws would not attend a civil ceremony, take it as a warning sign that they are mentalists - trouble brewing there for the future.
So, a bit of a hassle, but worth it for a good wedding and for the woman you love.
