the only one missing is the bookshop with coffee
Doesn't Empik do basically that? At least in the Stary Browar one in Poznan, the English language section isn't too bad and there's a cafe section...but I may have misunderstood this.
We'll be in Warsaw for two winters! If need can I find decent winter clothing locally as well?
Where do you think the Poles get their winter clothing from?
Those crunchy hippie coffee shops? (I'm from Seattle so maybe that's not an American thing)
Sure. Poland has cafes everywhere, catering to your every need or desire.
One stop grocery shopping?
Of course. Poznan has something like 12 large supermarkets and countless small ones - and I imagine Warsaw to have significantly more. Again, they can cater for your every need, from bargain basement quality right through to high end.
REAL pizza?
You can't move for pizzerias in Poland.
Mexican food?
No idea about takeaway/restaurants in Warsaw, but it's easy to pick up the ingredients to make it yourself.
Hamburgers? It has a game taste to it here, not Cow!
Is 100% beef enough for you?
Milk? I am tired of Long Life Milk!!!!
Of course.
How does the cheese fare for any American expats?
You'll be spoilt for choice.
What about pepperoni and salami?
Likewise. You'll be spoilt for choice.
Oh how about olives, green or black that are sliced and canned (maybe what is called tinned?)
Olives are cheap and plentiful, though you'll probably have to do the slicing yourself.
Toys?? My son doesn't even know what a toy store is..
Exactly the same as you'd expect from the States, except possibly with the exception of no Toys R Us. Countless small shops catering for toys, along with a decent selection in supermarkets.
Kids clothes?
Poland isn't Africa. You can find clothes at countless tiny stores along with all the usual retailers that you'd expect.
Ice cream?
More choice than you can shake a stick at.
Soda flavors besides Cream Soda and Coke? Like how about a Dr. Pepper or ROOT BEER?
Sensible people in Poland drink real fruit juice which is cheaper than soft drinks. I've seen both Dr. Pepper and Root Beer - at a price.
Guinness?
Freely available, at an extortionate price designed to lure in ex-pats.
Is that the general quality of what things are there for things like kitchen ware etc?
Poland is a developed country. Whatever you want, you can get. If you want ridiculously priced furniture, it's there to take. If you want cheap nasty Tanie Meble, it's there too.
Shoes? I need a variety outside dollar store quality, please!
What do you think high flying Warsaw businesmen are wearing?
And the night life? Any good bars (pubs)? Preferable a nice Irish pub or two?
Irish bars exist for one reason in the world - to fleece the tourist and the expat. You'd be far better off going to the bars that locals go to - as they'll certainly be more like Irish bars than any Irish bar itself.
Dance clubs? Of course, Warsaw is a major European capital!
I'm sorry to be narky, but Poland is no different to Western Europe and indeed America when it comes to what's available. There may be small differences, but really, the world isn't so small anymore.