Ken Noddy
30 Jul 2007
UK, Ireland / The true about the British People [51]
Bikini waxing?
Just a thought!
hahaha coming from a Brazilian, your good at football but anything else??
Bikini waxing?
Just a thought!
Ken Noddy
27 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
In a small town not far from the Giants Causeway.
Sorry for the delay in replying, the computer went on strike last night, will hope to hook up with you guys again over the next few days, off to work now, TFI Friday !
for some reason I thought you lived in Cork, so where are you then
In a small town not far from the Giants Causeway.
Sorry for the delay in replying, the computer went on strike last night, will hope to hook up with you guys again over the next few days, off to work now, TFI Friday !
Ken Noddy
26 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
I live up at the top of the country, at its most northerly point, Cork is at the bottom.
Anyway, enough of the geography lesson!
As for my friends, I did hang around with some a while ago but I didn't enjoy their company all that much. We never really got on, I was always the outsider. It was my fault, I just couldn't open up with them, I do come across as very cold and a bit uptight, I don't blame them for giving me the cold shoulder.
In your neck of woods (Cork)
I live up at the top of the country, at its most northerly point, Cork is at the bottom.
Anyway, enough of the geography lesson!
As for my friends, I did hang around with some a while ago but I didn't enjoy their company all that much. We never really got on, I was always the outsider. It was my fault, I just couldn't open up with them, I do come across as very cold and a bit uptight, I don't blame them for giving me the cold shoulder.
Ken Noddy
26 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
I do give off the wrong signals, that's true.
It's also true that you become what you believe.
I know I'm behaving in the wrong way, I know I'm not as bad as I make out but snapping out of it is proving difficult.
It is all a bit of a vicious circle, I have no friends so I don't go out, so I don't meet anyone, so my confidence deminishes, so I retreat further into my shell, etc etc.
If you continue like this all girls or women will think your a looser, but really your not!!!!. Everybody has something about them that is attractive.
I do give off the wrong signals, that's true.
It's also true that you become what you believe.
I know I'm behaving in the wrong way, I know I'm not as bad as I make out but snapping out of it is proving difficult.
It is all a bit of a vicious circle, I have no friends so I don't go out, so I don't meet anyone, so my confidence deminishes, so I retreat further into my shell, etc etc.
Ken Noddy
26 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
I know my place...I'm ugly...I'm no fun...women don't want to be around me, I'm the archetypal loner.
there are no such things as leagues when it comes to men and women, its just personalities and individuals, give yourself a break
I know my place...I'm ugly...I'm no fun...women don't want to be around me, I'm the archetypal loner.
Ken Noddy
26 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
Crikey ! Steady on there Red Lady, I'm Red Ken at the moment ! Blushes
I'm really flattered but I think Angel Eyes is a wee bit out of my league to be honest.
I know this may be a silly question but here goes........can't you ask angel eyes out Ken, 'cos you seem to like one another ? Are you single angel eyes?
Crikey ! Steady on there Red Lady, I'm Red Ken at the moment ! Blushes
I'm really flattered but I think Angel Eyes is a wee bit out of my league to be honest.
Ken Noddy
26 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
Mmmm...well...we'll see...
I used to be indecisive...but now I'm not so sure!
You're spot on. I am put off way too easily I know.
It's all very up and down at the moment too. There are times when I'm out somewhere on my own and I meet couples or run into a girl I once fancied but was too shy to approach and I almost break down in tears and feel really low about myself whereas at other times I revel in my independance and lack of any ties.
The bottom line is that I don't know what I want.
Great post, the advice is most welcome and has been taken on board.
are ya gonna stick with me on this one!!!!!!!
Mmmm...well...we'll see...
I used to be indecisive...but now I'm not so sure!
you're talking yourself out of it again.
You're spot on. I am put off way too easily I know.
It's all very up and down at the moment too. There are times when I'm out somewhere on my own and I meet couples or run into a girl I once fancied but was too shy to approach and I almost break down in tears and feel really low about myself whereas at other times I revel in my independance and lack of any ties.
The bottom line is that I don't know what I want.
tornado2007
Great post, the advice is most welcome and has been taken on board.
Ken Noddy
26 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
This isn't mission difficult, its mission impossible. 'Difficult' should be a walk in the park for you.
This message will self destruct in five seconds!
iv made it my mission to help u find a woman...... (smiles)
This isn't mission difficult, its mission impossible. 'Difficult' should be a walk in the park for you.
This message will self destruct in five seconds!
Ken Noddy
22 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
Wow thanks, you're like my guardian 'angel' !! It's great to have you around again.
Yeah, I registered with one and even had my photo put on it (something I'm not comfortable with at all) but I think it's about £60 to become a full member and I just don't think it's a worthwhile investment at the moment. Still have some insecurities which I need to get on top of before considering dating.
PS. Hooray for Harrington! - A great day for Irish sport.
hi ken i havent been around in a while but i have been catching up on ur progress from time to time.
Wow thanks, you're like my guardian 'angel' !! It's great to have you around again.
anyway my main reason for replying is to tell u to join some dating site
Yeah, I registered with one and even had my photo put on it (something I'm not comfortable with at all) but I think it's about £60 to become a full member and I just don't think it's a worthwhile investment at the moment. Still have some insecurities which I need to get on top of before considering dating.
PS. Hooray for Harrington! - A great day for Irish sport.
Ken Noddy
19 Jul 2007
Love / Ok GUYS....THIS is what women want...stop acting lame [238]
No worries W.
Thx for that next compliment Ken;) But better shh! Im getting red on my face o.O
No worries W.
Ken Noddy
19 Jul 2007
Love / Ok GUYS....THIS is what women want...stop acting lame [238]
Yeah, 18 is definately an adult in my book too.
It's funny though, I know some who could be considered adults at 14 or 15 while some others never seem to mature even into their 20's or 30's.
I consider 18 to be adult actually, you've gotta have that mindset before you get chucked out into the big bad world :)
Yeah, 18 is definately an adult in my book too.
It's funny though, I know some who could be considered adults at 14 or 15 while some others never seem to mature even into their 20's or 30's.
Ken Noddy
19 Jul 2007
Love / Ok GUYS....THIS is what women want...stop acting lame [238]
You're no kid W, you're a young woman (and a very beautiful one at that!)
You scared me when you said you were a kid. In my country, anyone 15 or 16 would be considered that. (breathes a collective sigh of relief - I'm safe from the authorities - for now!)
Hmm maybe its cuz im a kid O.o
You're no kid W, you're a young woman (and a very beautiful one at that!)
You scared me when you said you were a kid. In my country, anyone 15 or 16 would be considered that. (breathes a collective sigh of relief - I'm safe from the authorities - for now!)
Ken Noddy
18 Jul 2007
Love / Ok GUYS....THIS is what women want...stop acting lame [238]
Perhaps? I have taken previous comments on board and when I saw this avatar I thought it would be quite relevant seeing as I am keen on becoming more assertive (I want to be more of a tiger and less of a p u s s y!)
We'll see how it goes.
Perhaps? I have taken previous comments on board and when I saw this avatar I thought it would be quite relevant seeing as I am keen on becoming more assertive (I want to be more of a tiger and less of a p u s s y!)
We'll see how it goes.
Ken Noddy
18 Jul 2007
Love / Ok GUYS....THIS is what women want...stop acting lame [238]
Oops!, sorry, I had no idea, it was mean't as a compliment, you look in you're early 20's. Hang on, there's someone at the door, its the cops, oh fuc.......
Shhh! Thx Ken buuuut watch out. All users will think ure paedophil. Im kiddo, remember? O.o
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Oops!, sorry, I had no idea, it was mean't as a compliment, you look in you're early 20's. Hang on, there's someone at the door, its the cops, oh fuc.......
Ken Noddy
18 Jul 2007
Love / Ok GUYS....THIS is what women want...stop acting lame [238]
Yeah, but under the surface I'm still just a big p ussycat really!!!
Yeah, but under the surface I'm still just a big p ussycat really!!!
Ken Noddy
17 Jul 2007
Love / Ok GUYS....THIS is what women want...stop acting lame [238]
Wow, just noticed the photos in your profile W, you're a very sexy lady.
Wyspianska
Wow, just noticed the photos in your profile W, you're a very sexy lady.
Ken Noddy
10 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
Tell me about it. It's okay at times but definately does get tiresome. I have to hand it to women, they do tend to have a much wider spectrum of subjects on which to converse.
Thank you Eurola, find it daunting but will endevour to get out more.
male conversation tends to revolve around football and sex.
Tell me about it. It's okay at times but definately does get tiresome. I have to hand it to women, they do tend to have a much wider spectrum of subjects on which to converse.
You sound like a sensitive, good guy... you're young, get out of the house and things will happen!
Thank you Eurola, find it daunting but will endevour to get out more.
Ken Noddy
10 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
Our family are lucky, none of us have ever suffered this terrible disease. My mother and father don't drink and I gave up alcohol about six or seven years ago, never was a heavy drinker anyway but just got fed up with the nasty hangovers after a night out.
I certainly feel alot better since giving up and have a good deal more cash at my disposal but the downside is I have drifted away from alot of the friends that I socialised with when I was drinking. I tried for a while but there is nothing worse than being sober amongst a room full of drunks and I don't bother going out nearly as much as I used to.
Alcoholism is definately a problem in this part of Ireland and I fear several of my friends are affected. What can you do? They can't see it for themselves and your attempts at advice fall on deaf ears or causes friction. I find it very sad.
Is there alcoholism in your family? Have you ever battled it yourself? If "yes" to either of these questions, it could be significant.
Our family are lucky, none of us have ever suffered this terrible disease. My mother and father don't drink and I gave up alcohol about six or seven years ago, never was a heavy drinker anyway but just got fed up with the nasty hangovers after a night out.
I certainly feel alot better since giving up and have a good deal more cash at my disposal but the downside is I have drifted away from alot of the friends that I socialised with when I was drinking. I tried for a while but there is nothing worse than being sober amongst a room full of drunks and I don't bother going out nearly as much as I used to.
Alcoholism is definately a problem in this part of Ireland and I fear several of my friends are affected. What can you do? They can't see it for themselves and your attempts at advice fall on deaf ears or causes friction. I find it very sad.
Ken Noddy
9 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
That's a good idea, I'll try that cheers.
Yeah, it's a bit like a whirlpool, sucking you deeper and deeper down. My situation isn't too bad, it was alot alot worse maybe six months ago. I've learnt to fight the destructive thinking so as not to let it win. It is a daily battle, probably not dissimilar to alcoholism in many ways.
Sometimes you feel that you've conquered it...others that you've made no progress at all. I'm probably in the latter at the moment but it will go by.
a job and when your interactive with people it must come naturally, now try to think about bringing that quality out to other people.
That's a good idea, I'll try that cheers.
a downwards spiral is the worst thing anyone can face.
Yeah, it's a bit like a whirlpool, sucking you deeper and deeper down. My situation isn't too bad, it was alot alot worse maybe six months ago. I've learnt to fight the destructive thinking so as not to let it win. It is a daily battle, probably not dissimilar to alcoholism in many ways.
Sometimes you feel that you've conquered it...others that you've made no progress at all. I'm probably in the latter at the moment but it will go by.
Ken Noddy
9 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
In the words of Michel de Montaigne 'My life has been full of terrible misfortunes most of which never happened'.
Definately the confidence and self-esteem need to be raised off the floor. This I've known for some time but just can't manage to make it happen.
Both my thoughts and those of others on here is that I need to start feeling good about myself before I should really consider finding the right someone. How can I expect others to like me when I don't even like myself.
In the words of Michel de Montaigne 'My life has been full of terrible misfortunes most of which never happened'.
Definately the confidence and self-esteem need to be raised off the floor. This I've known for some time but just can't manage to make it happen.
Both my thoughts and those of others on here is that I need to start feeling good about myself before I should really consider finding the right someone. How can I expect others to like me when I don't even like myself.
Ken Noddy
9 Jul 2007
Ken Noddy
9 Jul 2007
Ken Noddy
9 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
So, you could say things DEVELOPED very well ! lol.
Sorry, couldn't resist that.
But seriously, I understand the message you are trying to get across: that life is unpredictable and even though at the moment I feel that there is little hope of finding someone, you never know what or who is just around the corner.
We became friends, did some photography together
next thing I know she's telling me how badly her marriage is going and that she knew it was a mistake right after she'd made the vows. Well, this guy who was off women was by then madly in love and we've been together ever since.
So, you could say things DEVELOPED very well ! lol.
Sorry, couldn't resist that.
But seriously, I understand the message you are trying to get across: that life is unpredictable and even though at the moment I feel that there is little hope of finding someone, you never know what or who is just around the corner.
Ken Noddy
9 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
Forgive me if I remain sceptical.
For years I've been in cloud cuckoo land, dreaming that something like this may happen. Recently I have realised that it hasn't happened and it is unlikely to happen, certainly not in the way I imagined. I blame the movies for this, they paint a very false picture of life. I was expecting someone like Penelope Cruz or Marisa Tomei to appear in my life and fall for me. Everything would just fall into place and we would live happily ever after. Embarassing but yes I believed that. Now I realise, my twenties are behind me, I'm still single, everyone else has got on with their lives and I'm still stuck in this dream. Now I realise, I'm not Tom Cruise, Brad Pitt or anything remotely like and if I'm going to make anything of my life, I'm going to have to get up off my butt and do something for myself instead of hanging around waiting for it to happen.
I've been too much of a dreamer in the past, I've got to wake up and smell the roses but its oh so easy to slip into old habits once more.
I have found that the right person comes along when you least expect it. They are there from one moment to the next. It's better to wait for that person.
Forgive me if I remain sceptical.
For years I've been in cloud cuckoo land, dreaming that something like this may happen. Recently I have realised that it hasn't happened and it is unlikely to happen, certainly not in the way I imagined. I blame the movies for this, they paint a very false picture of life. I was expecting someone like Penelope Cruz or Marisa Tomei to appear in my life and fall for me. Everything would just fall into place and we would live happily ever after. Embarassing but yes I believed that. Now I realise, my twenties are behind me, I'm still single, everyone else has got on with their lives and I'm still stuck in this dream. Now I realise, I'm not Tom Cruise, Brad Pitt or anything remotely like and if I'm going to make anything of my life, I'm going to have to get up off my butt and do something for myself instead of hanging around waiting for it to happen.
I've been too much of a dreamer in the past, I've got to wake up and smell the roses but its oh so easy to slip into old habits once more.
Ken Noddy
9 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
I'm very impressed Rakky. Moe would indeed symbolise the way my life has developed.
Couldn't put it better myself.
Quoting: Rakky
think it's interesting that you selected the image of Moe, the consumate outsider and lonely heart, as your icon. Is that simply an expression of how you're feeling right now, or how you feel about yourself in general?
Very insightful observation, Rakky.
think it's interesting that you selected the image of Moe, the consumate outsider and lonely heart, as your icon. Is that simply an expression of how you're feeling right now, or how you feel about yourself in general?
Very insightful observation, Rakky.
I'm very impressed Rakky. Moe would indeed symbolise the way my life has developed.
the consumate outsider and lonely heart
Couldn't put it better myself.
Ken Noddy
9 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
Yeah, I'm fed up being single too. Being single is definately the easy option for me to take as it avoids the pitfalls of rejection etc. This is not the option I want but at the same time I don't want to fall for the first girl that shows any sign of interest either. I need to be careful, my circumstances have left me in a vunerable position emotionally.
From what I know of you Ken, your not happy Single. Your posts show that much and I can relate to it as I am currently getting real tired of being single myself.
Yeah, I'm fed up being single too. Being single is definately the easy option for me to take as it avoids the pitfalls of rejection etc. This is not the option I want but at the same time I don't want to fall for the first girl that shows any sign of interest either. I need to be careful, my circumstances have left me in a vunerable position emotionally.
Ken Noddy
9 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
That is the key word in all of this. We all make choices in life, whether we realise it or not. Some choices are easy, others hard but at the end of the day it is our choices that determine who and what we become.
choice
That is the key word in all of this. We all make choices in life, whether we realise it or not. Some choices are easy, others hard but at the end of the day it is our choices that determine who and what we become.
Ken Noddy
9 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
And another thing, (sorry for yet another rant) people come on here and post topics such as 'handsome man looking for Polish marriage' or 'good looking American looking for Polish girl'. No offense but are they really that dumb that they think this is really going to lead to something of any substance? I notice it's nearly always men too, how pathetic. I mean there are alot of us on here who are single and would love to meet someone nice but at least we have a little bit of intelligence to understand that in order to find someone special, it takes a bit of effort, simply not just typing a few words into a computer and then expecting the offers to come rolling in. Ridiculous.
And another thing, (sorry for yet another rant) people come on here and post topics such as 'handsome man looking for Polish marriage' or 'good looking American looking for Polish girl'. No offense but are they really that dumb that they think this is really going to lead to something of any substance? I notice it's nearly always men too, how pathetic. I mean there are alot of us on here who are single and would love to meet someone nice but at least we have a little bit of intelligence to understand that in order to find someone special, it takes a bit of effort, simply not just typing a few words into a computer and then expecting the offers to come rolling in. Ridiculous.
Ken Noddy
9 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
True, but Ranj made a good comment:
Alot of people seem to feel that if they are single and unhappy, the solution is to be in a relationship and all of a sudden their worries are over. It is similar to many people's dreams of winning the lottery, that money guarantees happiness and the grass is always greener on the other side etc.
It is unrealistic thinking and it is probably a factor in keeping many people in unhappy relationships as they may believe that being single would be even worse.
Up to you Ken, From what Ive seen of you your definately not happy leading a single life
True, but Ranj made a good comment:
People can be miserable in a relationship as much as they can be miserable alone
Alot of people seem to feel that if they are single and unhappy, the solution is to be in a relationship and all of a sudden their worries are over. It is similar to many people's dreams of winning the lottery, that money guarantees happiness and the grass is always greener on the other side etc.
It is unrealistic thinking and it is probably a factor in keeping many people in unhappy relationships as they may believe that being single would be even worse.
Ken Noddy
9 Jul 2007
Love / Which is better? Being single or being in a relationship? [92]
I know what you mean, but this is exactly my conundrum. Most people are social animals, yes, but what if you're one of the minority who aren't? What if you know that, as a result of many factors, the single life is your best bet but by choosing this route you're going to miss out on some of lifes wonderful experiences and also you won't really be accepted by a society that regards people who aren't within the 'norms' of their group as a threat or open to ridicule.
It is overcoming this idea that we need to be accepted within society that is the key, for me anyway. I want to be in a relationship with the right person for me, not just to feel that this is what society expects of me, I'm not going to be another sheep following the flock but in the same respect I don't really like the idea of being ostracised either.
the human race were not made to live a solitary life. We are social creatures and therefore should mix socially.
I know what you mean, but this is exactly my conundrum. Most people are social animals, yes, but what if you're one of the minority who aren't? What if you know that, as a result of many factors, the single life is your best bet but by choosing this route you're going to miss out on some of lifes wonderful experiences and also you won't really be accepted by a society that regards people who aren't within the 'norms' of their group as a threat or open to ridicule.
It is overcoming this idea that we need to be accepted within society that is the key, for me anyway. I want to be in a relationship with the right person for me, not just to feel that this is what society expects of me, I'm not going to be another sheep following the flock but in the same respect I don't really like the idea of being ostracised either.