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Albanaich   
11 Nov 2009
Love / Personal issues with two women, they want to be my friend - a Polish thing? [49]

Ive been around a while and managed friendships (including long term dance partnerships) with women quite succesfully - but then again, the women didn't phone me up at work to say they were lonely and they were missing me.

That's way beyond friendship. . . . .there are rules. . . .
Albanaich   
11 Nov 2009
Love / Personal issues with two women, they want to be my friend - a Polish thing? [49]

Took you're advice and squared off with them about what they wanted from me. . . . . .

I've now got a Polish girlfriend 20 years younger than me :-) and she's the nicer one personality wise.

Perhaps more amusingly , the awesomely beautiful one who 'just wanted to be friends' went absolutely ballistic when she found out her competitor was willing to come across :-)
Albanaich   
8 Nov 2009
Love / Personal issues with two women, they want to be my friend - a Polish thing? [49]

Well, I'm happy with just friendship - never planned things to be this way, but if something else is on offer. . . . . I'll take it :-)

That's why posted, it just seemed so ludicrous two young doctors might be attrracted to someone in thier 50's. One you could put down to a mistake but two ????

That's why I thought it might a cultural issue.
Albanaich   
7 Nov 2009
Love / Personal issues with two women, they want to be my friend - a Polish thing? [49]

Well, I never wanted a sexual relationship. . . .but trust is one thing, and phoning someone up daily to tell them that they miss you is, in my culture, a long way beyond friendship.

It's not so much that I'm abusing their trust as they are abusing mine.

I don't mind being friends, but friends don't phone you up daily because they are lonely or tell you they miss being with you (I wouldn't dream of phoning up a young woman to tell her I'm lonely) . . . . someone who is doing that is not looking for friendship.. . . .and I've said, no, you don't do that. . . . but it continues.

And, I regularly go dancing with a 19 year old German girl, and its not an issue. She knows where the line is and we don't cross it. The Polish women don't.

Natasia. . . . .

I think the problem is that while the sex thing doesn't bother me, and it probably doesn't interest them, the kind of relationship they want can't be achieved without physcal intimacy.
Albanaich   
6 Nov 2009
Love / Personal issues with two women, they want to be my friend - a Polish thing? [49]

I've got two major personal issues with two women.

Is this a Polish thing - or women just being women.

Firstly there is a 20 year age gap between me and them, secondly they are professional women in there early 30's, (money/power is not an issue) thirdly we've got along very well as friends. . . .. . but.

The first woman got friendly with me after we met on business. We went for a walk together one evening, went dancing. Seperated for few days, then met up again - this time she pushed her telephone number under my hotel room door (I didn't know she was in the hotel) asking if we could go out together. So we went out most nights for a couple of weeks, cinema, long walks, meals, sight seeing great fun (like we were dating) it felt really good - but no hint of anything sexual at all.

I moved to the other end of the country, so we couldn't meet up, but she still sends me emails asking if we can meet up, tells me our friendship is very precious and she loved the time we shared together.

Follow to a few months later, another girl, in a fairly unpleasant situation, I did the father daughter thing, got her sorted out, then she starts phoning me (daily) and sending me emails to say 'I miss you and we have a very precious friendship' (almost the same words) again, no hint of anything sexual.

I had a bit of an arguement with her and told her you can't send emails saying 'I miss you' to a 55 year old man and I didn't want to see her, but we patched it up and we meet up to go dancing as friends - but its wierd. I picked her up on Wednesday night and when I met at the Hospital (they are both doctors) she ran across the parking lot to greet me and her whole face lit up, and she told it had been such a long week without seeiing me.

They both say that want to be friends, and friends only and that's ok with me - but they don't act like friends,

Confused is not the word for it. . . . .