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Why do Polish Women Think They Know Better? [134]
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szarlotkaszarlotkaThis made me laugh because how true that is.
I'm just about realising the differences between Polish men and English men. I was quite enarmoured with the manners and consideration of Polish men, especially the Polish man I've just been involved with.. a lot different and very welcome change from the English men I have known.
On the downside, English women are not used to "jobs for men" and "jobs for women". I'm very good at handywork, decorating, carpentry, DIY, etc and my Polish friend couldn't come to terms with this. Every job in my house was now his job, and of course he did everything so much better than me, practically calling me stupid and not knowing what to do. Even cooking was his domain, everything Polish was beautiful and woe betide me if I didn't like it, but everything English was ****!! no taste. (not swamped in salt and polish herbs and spices more like!). I have found most Polish people to be arrogant, in the way that they think they are superior and don't mind telling you, whereas English people are a little less forthright, willing to listen to reason, and a little bit more humble.
Unfortunately, I've also come across the man who is definately under the thumb of the Polish woman.. any woman really.
This Polish guy happens to be a married man, alone in England. Not that I make a habit of affairs with married men, this was my first, (and probably the last!!) affair. He had left his wife and come to England, after 25 married years of oppression by his wife. He likes to drink but he's not allowed, he likes to play game on a computer, but he must work etc etc, I'm sure you know the story.
Now to his friends, everything was fine, but his friends wive's thought it was their place to scold him and tell him he was doing wrong. If his friends wive's were visiting, I saw a very different man, a little aloof, but on his own very loving and kind. So it seems a Polish woman can get her nose into other people's affairs.
Now I think us English women are a lot less strict and a little more lenient that our Polish counterparts. Whether this works for Polish men or not is another matter.
In my case, after promising me he was here for 18 months, my friend went home after 4, because his wife wouldn't let him alone. I think he wants to leave her, but I think also that he needs her permission to go, and obviously that isn't going to happen.
Now my friends from work are the same. They are a lot younger, just starting out in married life and relationships, and already the men won't do anything because their wive's say they can't. One young man was so obsessed with the idea that it was his duty to work for and support his girlfriend, when she wouldn't come over from POland to live here with him he wanted to die. He tried to kill himself. I asked him why and it was because he said that it was his duty to buy his g/friend anything she wanted, she must come here and live with him and he must work for her, or his life meant nothing. I managed to talk him out of killing himself, and told him I didn't like what his g/friend was doing (playing with his mind), but of course she won and I'm out of favour.
Although I understand about cultural differences, It also seems to me that men are totally emasculated in Poland. They are not allowed to be free thinking human beings, their autonomy is gone.
Like someone said in this thread, when Polish men are off the leash they go wild, having affairs and drinking to excess. I've just seen this first hand, and it seems to be true.
Polish men when let loose are like balls in a PinBall machine. They bounce off everything, pinging about, crashing all over the place, then totally exhausted and subdued, they slide back home until they are released again.
From the perspective of an English woman, this is how I see it.
