MattT
4 Nov 2009
Love / Help-my polish bf doesn't fancy me! [94]
I agree with the point that its not always that men have changed, but that women expect more - the first times they say 'i love you' it is extra special, after a couple of years guys need to keep thinking about how to do more to have that effect (believe its called law of diminishing returns!).. The same will be true the other way round. You want to do new things to spice up your relationship, but sometimes it feels like you've reached a dead end and run out of ideas!!
Its very possible he's stuck in a rut and happy there.. you need to make him realise he needs to make an effort otherwise he could lose you..
You need to be careful with pushing things too hard though.. it could be that due to whatever stresses (work?) that he doesn't feel up to taking too much initiative. Also there's nothing worse than hearing that your girlf wants you to make more of an effort/show more initiative, and then you feel that you are constantly being judged..
Doesn't help at all I realise.. just giving my tuppence worth!!
I agree with the point that its not always that men have changed, but that women expect more - the first times they say 'i love you' it is extra special, after a couple of years guys need to keep thinking about how to do more to have that effect (believe its called law of diminishing returns!).. The same will be true the other way round. You want to do new things to spice up your relationship, but sometimes it feels like you've reached a dead end and run out of ideas!!
Its very possible he's stuck in a rut and happy there.. you need to make him realise he needs to make an effort otherwise he could lose you..
You need to be careful with pushing things too hard though.. it could be that due to whatever stresses (work?) that he doesn't feel up to taking too much initiative. Also there's nothing worse than hearing that your girlf wants you to make more of an effort/show more initiative, and then you feel that you are constantly being judged..
Doesn't help at all I realise.. just giving my tuppence worth!!