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I was also picked up by my first polish gf.She told me she liked extremely the fact that I looked very shy and that my hands were shaking while talking to her.
I've had similar experiences. A girl I once had a thing with told me that she didn't like me at first because she thought I was too sure of myself, but later she realised that I had 'insecurities' and wasn't such a confident person....that was when she started to become attracted to me.
After reading that comment of yours I stopped two girls in Krakow today and did like you did, pretended to be shy. I even told one girl that my Polish was worse than usual because I'm very shy around pretty girls. Well...you seem to be right. They were both very friendly - got one number (from the hotter one), the other told me she had a boyfriend but was friendly nevertheless.
A man can have many edges. Perhaps beyond just ordinarily accepted good looks, there are other factors like responsible, caring and affectionate.
It is not about looks - not for me. I accept that some girls will not find me good-looking while others will. It's about the whole package, including humour, lack of neediness, independence, uniqueness, ambition, coolness, etc. Of course a low value guy is going to be 'caring' and 'affectionate' with a high value girl.
As for your statements on 'love', there is a difference between love and attachment/dependency. A low value guy in a relationship with a higher value girl is obviously going to be attached - his self-esteem depends on it - without the girl he's gonna feel like a loser/nobody again. IMO, 'true love' can only exist between two people of equal self-worth.