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amoeba   
3 Jun 2009
News / Child with Polish ex, is 275 Euros a normal amount for child maintenance? [53]

Hi all - not sure if I am in the right forum here -

A couple years back I met a Plish girl here in Ireland, we began a relationship and seemed to be getting on fine. She got preganant and dissapeared back to Poland - told me that she was staying there and not coming back. I naturally felt hurt and angry and ceased communication with her. As soon as the baby was born she began looking for money, i refused to pay anything as i felt that I had been used and deceived into something. She then began legal proceedings - the court awarded here €200 per month plus €75 per month to pay off the back dated monies... also they awarded her 3,600 PLN lump sum for when the child was born, Im just wondering does this seem a large amount of maintenance for me to be paying? I earn approx 2,200 € after tax per month. Im married and have a mortgage, as you probably know - Ireland is not cheap place to live, and I am under the impression that Poland is quite a cheap place to live.

So do you think im getting a raw deal or is that quite a normal price to pay?

Appreciate feedback

Aa
amoeba   
3 Jun 2009
News / Child with Polish ex, is 275 Euros a normal amount for child maintenance? [53]

why do you want this little man to pay for your and her mistakes?

To be honest im dont fancy taking the odd trip over to poland to see a child who cant understand a word i say - its like this girl used me as a donor, its been a long and hard legal battle to get to where I am today (she initially tried to take me for €600 per month.)

Plus I am not the paternal type
amoeba   
17 Aug 2009
Genealogy / DNA Test Poland [29]

Hi All - you may recall that I posted this a while back which gave me some useful thoughts and also heated debate - https://polishforums.com/archives/2005-2009/news/child-euros-normal-amount-35605/

But only a couple people really tried to answer my question :)

Well things have progressed a little since then and I really want to get a DNA test done once and for all to know if I am defintely the childs dad. Problem is the lady in Poland will not answer any of my emails - I have sent her links (in Polish) for DNA home kits that we could do - but she ignores everything I sent. So it looks like I need to take this to court! - which means more expense etc - but i think thats what she wants - to cause me trouble - or maybe shes scared that the baby is not mine and she may have to pay back monies - I dunno - Im finding it difficult to get straight answers from Polish lawyers - is anyone aware of the process to get a court ordered DNA test in Poland? And will I have to pay the OP's legal expenses if the test results do indeed indicate that the child is mine?

Thanks in advance
amoeba   
18 Aug 2009
Genealogy / DNA Test Poland [29]

aphrodisiac
Because I assumed I was the father in txt messages , that she kept and used in court,.
amoeba   
18 Aug 2009
Genealogy / DNA Test Poland [29]

Harry
No - I wanst - i appointed a Polish Lawyer to look after it for me, the fact of the matter is that I initially accepted that I was the father. So the court didnt order a DNA test, so now I want one - but it was just "to know " for definite - Like I said even one of the home DNA kits would have been sufficient. But She will not cooperate -

- on a side note - I just had a phone call from social services informing me that she is now claiming child beneift €166 from Ireland - due to the fact that I am working here - so that brings her monthly total up to €275 (my maintenance) + €166 (irish giovernment) + €40 (irish government) = €481 = 2,005.08 PLN- not bad for someone who doesnt work.

aphrodisiac
thats what Im going to do - but if you look back at the original question - does anyone know the process :)

I am in Ireland - she is in Poland.
amoeba   
18 Aug 2009
Genealogy / DNA Test Poland [29]

Does she know you are married? If so , you have a problem.

Does she know you are married? If so , you have a problem.

WhY?
amoeba   
19 Aug 2009
Genealogy / DNA Test Poland [29]

delphiandomine
yes - if i dont pay the maintenance - i could end up in prison - remember - we are all in europe now!

markskibniewski
Dont quite undestand what being married has anything to do with???
amoeba   
19 Aug 2009
Genealogy / DNA Test Poland [29]

Harry
Hi Harry - they wont stop paying her - as long as i am paying maintenance to her - they will have to pay her too from the government, its the way the system works here.