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Needhelp

1 Apr 2009

Love / Questions about Polish women [17]

Thank you all for your answers. I appreciate you taking the time to provide insight on my questions. A few comments to a few questions:

Miranda - American girls can be suspicious especially if you have money. Was doing a compare and contrast. I imagine she would like me for me. I am a pretty great guy :)Thank you for your insight.

Joland: She sends her own money. She does not ask me for money. I took her clothes shopping for her birthday, bought her a few outfits. She got mad and said she doesnt like people giving her things. It is embarrassing. Thank you for your comments.

Torajima- You are correct her situation is a little difficult. Excellent point about life being a gamble. You only live once, but sometimes you want to make sure you mitigate the risk before taking the chance. Hence, asking questions on this forum. Thank you for your short answers. Very helpful. Thank you for taking the time to respond.

Peter_olsztyn - She is treated like a princesss. Is introduced as my girlfriend. I tell her she is smart, funny, her opinion is important, and she is beautiful. Most definately not treatred as a second class person. Thanks for the reply.

Steer4omdarear - Thankyyou for the answers. The insighted was helpful. It seems congruent with all the other answers I have heard and seen.

Needhelp

27 Mar 2009

Love / Questions about Polish women [17]

I am an american man dating a polish women who happens to be in the USA illegally (Visa recently expired). The girl who is 10 years younger than me (in her mid 20's) she and I were friends first and started dating (She had a crush on me). She says she really likes me for me and is not looking for a greencard. I do know for a fact that she has outright turned down other men who were specficially looking to date her becuase she is dating me. So here are a few questions. I have:

1. She can complain alot / can be negative. - Common or no?

2. Talks about family, but says how bad things are, not loving, mean, but then calls mom and sends money home on a regular basis to help out?

3. Wants to leave the country, but committed to renting a room and helping a friend. She is very unhappy with situation, but doesnt want to leave for a EU nation. Says she promised a friend to stay. Loyalty a strong traight?

4. Sending money home to supposedly help for food and clothes -Sounds fishy -Common or no?

5. Common in the culture for money NOT to be the most important? She said she would sign a prenuptual and give up all rights if she married someone. Said she would only marry for love. Common or no?

6. Educated with a masters degree in EU law. I hear college is limited for the few in Poland. Is this true?

We dont want to see her leave and look for options. She seems to have a lot of very good charecteristic that would make a good wife. Have not dated her long enough, but am considering it as an option in a few months.

I have no interest in ending up as a divorcee with a because of a polish gold digger looking for a greencard. Not to be pesimistic, just realistic.