kungfu fighting
13 Apr 2009
Love / Polish Guy Trouble - boyfriend previously had affair with older woman. [4]
Ok, so I've been seeing this Polish guy for 6 months now. We're both 21. when we first got together, we were talking about different things, and I asked him about girls he had been with in Poland. He told me he had been with a woman who was 12 years older than him. I was like oh right,didnt think that much about it, was just slaggin him about it. But we've grown closer and he told me the full story, he lived with his family in an apartment block with his family and their neighbours lived below them, husband and wife and 9 year old son.
When my Polish guy was 19, his mother died suddenly. His neighbour, the woman from downstairs started calling over, helping out and stuff. Then he told me, on Xmas Eve, she kissed him, and basically they started an affair which lasted a year and a half and only ended when he left Poland. He told me it was just sex and that she made the first move and also it was the first time he ever had sex and he's never really had a girlfriend. He also told me that she used to get angry with him if he didnt come to meet her when she wanted and started saying, oh do u not want me, do u not like me. He said he tried to end it, cos he was friendly with her husband and son. So it ended when he left.
The whole thing makes me feel weirded out. I don't think they're in contact or anything but I've seen on his nasza klasa page how she has commented on pictures of me and him together. He told me that nobody knows about the whole thing only 1 friend. We've been talkin bout goin 2 Poland in the Summer and I'm just feelin a bit apprehensive about it. I know my guy is really into me and all, but I can't help but think that the woman will want to start things up again with him and if they were able to sneak around for a year and a half without any1 knowin, maybe they could do it again. I think this woman liked having a younger man for a bit of excitement and also liked controlling him cos she wasnt gettin enough attention from her husband.
Do you think I should air my thoughts with my guy or just keep my insecurities to myself??
Thanks x
Ok, so I've been seeing this Polish guy for 6 months now. We're both 21. when we first got together, we were talking about different things, and I asked him about girls he had been with in Poland. He told me he had been with a woman who was 12 years older than him. I was like oh right,didnt think that much about it, was just slaggin him about it. But we've grown closer and he told me the full story, he lived with his family in an apartment block with his family and their neighbours lived below them, husband and wife and 9 year old son.
When my Polish guy was 19, his mother died suddenly. His neighbour, the woman from downstairs started calling over, helping out and stuff. Then he told me, on Xmas Eve, she kissed him, and basically they started an affair which lasted a year and a half and only ended when he left Poland. He told me it was just sex and that she made the first move and also it was the first time he ever had sex and he's never really had a girlfriend. He also told me that she used to get angry with him if he didnt come to meet her when she wanted and started saying, oh do u not want me, do u not like me. He said he tried to end it, cos he was friendly with her husband and son. So it ended when he left.
The whole thing makes me feel weirded out. I don't think they're in contact or anything but I've seen on his nasza klasa page how she has commented on pictures of me and him together. He told me that nobody knows about the whole thing only 1 friend. We've been talkin bout goin 2 Poland in the Summer and I'm just feelin a bit apprehensive about it. I know my guy is really into me and all, but I can't help but think that the woman will want to start things up again with him and if they were able to sneak around for a year and a half without any1 knowin, maybe they could do it again. I think this woman liked having a younger man for a bit of excitement and also liked controlling him cos she wasnt gettin enough attention from her husband.
Do you think I should air my thoughts with my guy or just keep my insecurities to myself??
Thanks x