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Being remarried in the catholic church poland after being divorced [16]
I have a feeling that this is going to be a controversial post...
I am a divorced man from a civil marriage (outside of the Catholic Church). I was divorced 3 years ago. I was brought up catholic but would be considered a "lapsed" catholic since I stopped practicing my faith.
Last year I met my now fiancee who is polish. She reintroduced me to my faith again. We are engaged to be married. We would like to be married in Poland but we are not sure whether we will have problems being married in a church setting due to the fact that I am divorced. After talking to my parish priest where I live (not Poland) that because I was not married within the Catholic Church there is a path to be married again with the approval of the Church - after the relevant documentation has been submitted and verified and after spiritual and emotional counselling within the Church.
My priest says that from his experience it will be very difficult to find a priest to marry us in a polish church despite the rules that have been defined by the Church. (By the way, his negative view of the polish clergy stems from experiences that he had in the 1960s so maybe things have changed since then). If we were to get married in the UK for example it wouldn't be a problem provided we follow the correct procedures which may take some time (not a problem) - my parish priest has already offered to do this. But we really would like to be married in Poland - my fiancee is from Poland and we are planning to live together as husband and wife in Poland so for us to be married in Poland makes sense to us.
Has anyone been in the same position? What were your experiences of trying to be re-married in Poland? Outcomes?
Thanks.
Polite note - I realise that some people may consider that it's morally wrong to be getting re-married at all, which is a perfectly valid theological argument, but could we save those discussions for another thread if possible. (i'll be quite happy to start a seperate thread if someone wants to discuss other aspects of the question). Thanks.