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English Husband, Polish Wife... Going out together/not together? [35]
Come on guys. Give me a break!!!
My husband just sent me a link of that’s forum.
Its difficult to give right advises if people know only one side story, isn’t it?
When I and my husband first time started going out together he was going out every weekend (Fri and Sat). I didn’t like it. Come on who would like it??? Then my present husband stared saying I try to control him. I didn’t like it and I was saying its not polish culture to go out so often, doesn’t it?
My ex – boyfriend cheat on me as well. So it was quiet difficult as well.
I tried to meet and know his friends. They always go out together. There are girls and boys. We went out few times. However they didn’t put much effort to know me I think. When I tried to make any conversation they have been polite and answered me but never carry on any of my conversations. I have been drunk very quick. It was only one thing what kept me busy. Then we went to the night club, I was dancing. My husband doesn’t like when I get drunk and dance. However what can I do on the night out when nobody wants talk with me. We always argue. He always says I don’t put much effort to know them. One of his friend got birthday. I baked cake for him. He hardly talked to me that night. Next day he txt my husband to say thank you for a cake. Then one of his friend got new girlfriend. I said to my husband shall we invited them for a meal. They came. I cooked and tried to talk to new girl. She didn’t talk to me much. I try to asked her what is she doing etc. she didn’t asked me back about anything. After one hour she was nearly sleeping on one of my sofas. Then I got txt msgs on my phone. I was answering. It took me about 10 minutes. My husband gave me a hell after they gone. He says it was rude. I have enough of all this. I can’t make his friends to like me but I think they should accept me. My husband always says I m not putting enough effort. He can’t see they are doing something wrong or he is saying it is the way they are. He also saying he can’t make friends with my polish friends because they can’t speak English. Which is wrong because my friends put more effort to try to talk to him even they don’t know much English, they never let feel him down about it.
I told him I don’t like his friends. I am not feeling comfortable with them. He protects them. He also says if I can’t get along with them I don’t need to go out with them anymore but I cant him stop seeing them.
The thing is last time he went out with boys. That’s ok. It was difficult for me because my ex partner cheat on me. I gave him a lift and I picked him out. Now, its birthday party, I would love to go but my husband says I know you don’t like my friends so I will go. I didn’t like it. I think he should support me to go with him. He says I don’t care if you go or not, I am going.
I am getting depressed and very moody about it. I have been four years in polish - relationship before and I never had problem like that. I don’t know its culture problem or age problem. My husband is tree years younger than me. I am a first girlfriend of my husband. I am feeling lonely, miss my friends in Poland.
