Love / English Husband, Polish Wife... Going out together/not together? [35]

if its fake then just read the thread mate, and leave the post space for someone with something decent to add. I only post here because I hope my wife will read it and see it from my point of view as well as hers.

Or maybe my wife should talk to you in polish instead of trying to write english eh? maybe then you will shut up, as you are way off the bat.

Love / English Husband, Polish Wife... Going out together/not together? [35]

You two should definately become detectives.. you'd be very successful.

Sigh... yes this is real "Unfortunately"... Why would i slag my wife off as you put it and then show her it?

Because she asked me to ask polish people... to confirm that what she was doing was normal... that polish couples only go out together... and i guess a means to justify her stopping me going to my mates birthday.

Let me reclarify the situation:

1. I would like her to come along with me..
2. However if she says she won't go I will not stop going to my mates birthday party... yea perhaps i'm being over the top if i partied every week.. but as i said I aint been out with the boys for a 'drink'... on my own for well 8+ months... and this is her problem i guess.

3. It is difficult for people to mix, if my friends dont like her I cant make them like her... but i cant also just dump all my friends because she doesn't like them or get along with them. I know she's tried. We've had this conversation before... it ended in her admitting we could go out sometimes seperately... it was her turn first she went out with a girl friend drunk till 1am in the morning and I picked them both up and listened to how they talked to men etc. I didn't go off on one and get possessive/controlling. Now its my turn.. she throws all the stops out to stop me. I come home early from work as suggested by an earlier poster.. and she leaves.... so much for talking

I feel depressed and down, because i feel my wife is trying to control me to the point I cant even go to a birthday party (with or without her. cause if she cant go neither can I is how i see her world).

This post was never meant to go this far, my wife asked me to ask polish people if it was normal. I guess she expected you to all tell me off and listen to her.. but you didn't so now she has extended it.

I've tried being gentle with the situation with her, but if anything is ever wrong she wants her space and storms off... leaving me feeling frustrated and down, i.e now im sat here come home from work 1 hour early and for what? so she could storm out?

Love / English Husband, Polish Wife... Going out together/not together? [35]

Even my explanation is twisted or misunderstood....

"I never meant I didn’t care if you went". - I did NOT mean I didn't want you to come. I want you to come I just said I wasn't going to allow you to stop me going if you didn't want to go.

Like talking to a brick wall.

And if I couldn't go x birthday party last week you still would've gone without me... its one rule for and one rule for me.

Love / English Husband, Polish Wife... Going out together/not together? [35]

Against me going out drinking it seems oO.

Love / English Husband, Polish Wife... Going out together/not together? [35]

Shes always been a tad sensitive me going out for a drink with friends.. she believwes men are all the same and will cheat when they go get drunk. I know here ex cheated on her previously, could be some reasons why. I don't want to cheat lol, and dont really want to go out every weekend or anything but special occassions like my best mans birthday... i'd say warranted an excusrion out.

She had just gone out with a girlfriend 2-3 weeks ago.. I let her go drinking, took her there and picked her up at 1am int he morning. They both stunk of vodka so i feel a bit badly done to that she keeps chaning her mind.

I feel like its one rule for her and one rule for me..... she's perfectly happy going out with friends, doesn't start spouting this seperate lives nonesense when she goes out. But if i even want to go out once for a special occasion she gets very moody and this is just another excuse i've seen. Essentially i know its not culture, but something else.

It saddens me she doesn't trust me to be honest.

Love / English Husband, Polish Wife... Going out together/not together? [35]

So other polish couples go out say once a month or two months for special occasions?

Thanks!