UK, Ireland / English husband cannot live with his Polish wife and child in the UK [19]

zip3..........perhaps you have said it all! I'll work my fingers to the bone and yes if God will bless us i'll look out of our bedroom window below the mountains and say "it was worth it"!

god bless you all

UK, Ireland / Integrating Polish people into the British society [150]

I'm thinking of throwing the towel in and moving to Poland to be with my Polish wife because she cant come here.

Doing my sums here i reckon that this would save 2 places in the UK. So thats 2 "free" places for more immigrants to fill!

Great meat and tomatoes in Poland by the way! Thats 2 reasons to go there! Had 2 weeks in Tri cities and never saw a coloured face, with trying to be level headed here its only when i arrived back to the UK that the true horror of open door policy hits home. Maybe i'm bitter cos i've gotta take a cut in overtime because there's not enough work and the reason is..............yep! Another story!

UK, Ireland / English husband cannot live with his Polish wife and child in the UK [19]

I think so but ther'e strong evidence to suggest its a another way of telling his ego that he's doing his best. Unfortunately the contact is spent with the child sat in the back seat stuck in traffic for 2hours out of the 3hrs he has twice a week. During the contact the child is usualy stuck in front of a DVD. Quality of life and routine, the midweek contact is a major gripe because the childs education is suffering as fatigue sets in, surely a good father would want the best for his child and not using it just to argue with the mother. Anything suggested to the father is thrown back, the level of control is massive, to the detriment of the child. I'm not a father yet i can see the child is used as a pawn. I totaly agree with you that its a tough one and i think i will almost deffinately have to go to Poland.

Many thanks for your opinions tho', and good luck to you too.

UK, Ireland / English husband cannot live with his Polish wife and child in the UK [19]

I hope so but i cannot help thinking that he cares more about his ego!

UK, Ireland / English husband cannot live with his Polish wife and child in the UK [19]

Yes there will be tears but i just cannot understand how my wife cannot start a new life and one that will be better for the child too. The child and its mother have been in limbo for years while the cheating ex has been living with someone for years. The family home lies empty and falling into ruin. The mothers home is a studio flat and soon she will need more privacy, even if she cannot come to the UK she needs to move to a bigger flat yet the ex will not allow the sale of the house because the property market in Poland has fallen and he wants a certain amount, just stalling tactics. I really hope the ex starts afamily with his wife.

What really gets me is that i though Poland is part of the EU, freedom to move etc. If i moved to Poland and went to the furthest part away from the ex it would take at least 7hours by car. The UK is 2-3 hours away by plane!

The child needs specialist healthcare and would recieve world leading support in the UK. I'm sorry but the child's needs should come first and the reason the ex doesn't want to give permission is because he will lose control over his ex-wife. Its complicated.

I have never in my life heard such access given by a woman to her child's husband. The child see's its father twice in the week and every fortnight for a weekend with him and his girlfirend.

So what were really saying is that i will have to move to Poland?

UK, Ireland / English husband cannot live with his Polish wife and child in the UK [19]

neutral is tough but getting my say in totaly impossible. I have an opertunity soon, i would like to more exact but i must not say too much about court hearings etc. The mother has applied to court there asking for whole custody but the lawyer advises that they will not split the child up from the father as they have regular contact. Its a good point about holidays but we have already said that we will offer Skype contacts and 2 weeks summer holiday

The child has just started school and the child keeps asking his mummy why we cant go to live in UK. Its hard and i'm very concerned about my wife. I have to wait a month to know if she can come but he will keep delaying it. He has told the court he will never let the child leave.

Sorry but i have to go and work but please reply and i'll be back in a few hours

UK, Ireland / English husband cannot live with his Polish wife and child in the UK [19]

thanks!
The custody was joint and decided before we married. He left her for a younger woman 3 years ago! I thin Polish courts favour Fathers and i have seen that its the complete opposite to UK

good luck too :)