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rowan   
22 May 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

oh moj bog - he came back! i was just leaving my house to walk the dog and there he was coming up the street with his cousin!!!!

I'd been hoovering and stuff all day and looked like crap - no make-up, too many clothes on for the weather which was warmer than i thought... i could hardly speak, i was a like a bird who has just flown into a window.

Anyway, he's working here for a bit. I saw him again the next day and we have swapped phone numbers but he is working nights and he hasn't called me yet. Maybe he never will - i dunno.

We'll see?!!
rowan   
20 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

I'm still here! Still in love and still waiting for an email or something. I don't think this will happen but i haven't given up hope.

I have been learning Polish - don't think i can type the special letters so that you can see them so i'll stick with words that don't have krescas: Jestem bardzo trudny. Does this make sense?
rowan   
3 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

Shewolf, Yes i aggree that having a young child and probably loving his country stops him from seeking his fortune here like his cousin. I would hate to be reposible for upsetting a childhood, even one where the father already lives elsewhere.

I just wish he would let me know how he is and whether or not he feels the same.
I had cut any kind of love out of my life (except for love of my animals and plants) for so long and life was simpler. Then - BANG - i am hit by a Polish truck of a man and turned into jelly!!!!

i thing u have beatifull smile

Who are you talking to, Ary?
rowan   
3 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

Is this what you meant by 1950's English sexual morality?

No this is not what i meant: a slow seduction or 'wooing' as we say in English, is always better than jumping straight to sex. By 1950's morality, i am refering to the idea that good girls become bad girls (and therefore worthless) by going to bed with a man too easilly and/or quickly. Whereas a man is not judged one way or the other for this.

In the case of what happened here, there was no time for wooing. And sometimes things simply happen and only afterwards you think to yourself - how on earth did that happen. Like fire.
rowan   
3 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

I know i am not a slut, some of you know i am not a slut but it is whether he knows this or not that is the question.

Basically, I fell in love and it looks like he didn't. So, that's it

My dog loves me and she doesn't care whether i am slut or not.

The sexual politics of the 1950's suited men better than women - this is why they had to change.
rowan   
3 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

Thankyou Ranj. Yes i aggree that the ball is in his court and i am not going to make a fool of myself pursuing him. I am sorry that your guy disappeared without a trace. Men seem to be better at doing this than women. Are we just brought up with better manners? Or greater courage?? And, thankyou, i don't feel like a slut - although what i think about myself is not going to make him email me.

I will not ever get into bed with a man from a country where the sexual politics are stuck in the 1950's. It's like the sixties never happened over there, thanks to Comunism and the Pope.

So perhaps they can't help it.

But you don't watch a great film or eat a great meal and then run away screaming "Look what you made me do! I have no respect for you!!!"
rowan   
2 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

NIE!!! Rafik was quoting the post from a young guy called UK who told me, from his wealth of experience, that i had made a mistake and then insulted me with his next question.

The polish man iofell in love with was also in his 30's. But thankyou for your long story yesterday. To answer your question, Lonewolf, the reason i 'bring it in here' is that i suspected i had offended the morals of Polish man by responding to his desire and as i don't know any Polish people I thought i'd go to Polish forum. If i could speak to the man in question i would but i can't - because he won't answer my emails.

Rafuk - thankyou very much for your post.

Eurola - we are both inlove WITH Polish men !!! hahahah!!:)

sorry - i mean Rafik
rowan   
1 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

Thanks Shewolf and Kaka. I feel quite a lot more realistic about stuff now and really quite angry about the confused sexual morals.
Will post agian if anything miraculous happens!
rowan   
1 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

I am sorry to be so defensive. That is a very kind offer.

okay - what do i do first??
I am on Apple Mac - not sure if this download will work. What is it for exactly anyway?
rowan   
1 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

I was shy to ask for number in case he gave me false one which would have hurt. I did not want to appear needy. I do not have his address either. He has my numbers, address and email - it's up to him. He knows i wanted to take things further.

He lives in Lublin.

hey Babylon - that is really sweet of you but are you sure you will not just meet up for beers to talk about the English slut he f****d?
rowan   
1 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

Looks like i have been very, very stupid doesn't it? I had stopped believing in love and kept myself alone for a long time. Now the minute i meet someone, the whole thing is ruined before it even began.
rowan   
1 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

No i do not sleep with men on the first date. This was very unusual but i have no way of proving this to the man even if i could speak Polish

Babylon - he asked for my telephone numbers. I was too shy to ask for his.
rowan   
1 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

I am very happy for Polish people all having the internet and someone to come and fix their computer the second it breaks down and then lie about all this just because they have had the honour of sleeping with a single woman who is no better than a slut, apparently.
rowan   
1 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

It's ok Babylon - thankyou for your honesty and Polish man's point of view. I am praying for the 5 % you mention.
And in my defence, without meaning to sound arrogant, I am actually pretty gorgeous like Juliette Binoche!:)

well why does it hurt so much, Wroclaw, so that i can't eat or sleep?
rowan   
1 Jan 2007
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

Yes i am worried about this, Maati - about his possibly old-fashioned ideas about how women should behave and what to call them afterwards regardless of who seduced who and the fact that we were in it together.

He told me he had an ex-wife and young child but that they weren't together anymore. Surely if they were together, he would have brought them with him to his cousin's baby's Baptism which is why he was here in the first place?

Feral - have you never fallen in love with frightening rapidity? It is the most powerful feeling the world.
rowan   
31 Dec 2006
Love / Help me! I fell in love with a Polish man! [137]

Hello everyone. I am an English woman aged 38 and on Christmas night i met a Polish man aged 31. He knew a little English but i knew no Polish; he came back to my house and we stopped trying to speak and made-love instead.

He visited me 2 days later, the evening before flying home - he was only here for Christmas, staying with Polish relatives. We attempted to talk more this time - i had learnt some words on an internet site. I had fallen head over heels in love with him. We exchanged email addresses. He said his computer was broken but could go to an internet cafe.

I have emailed him but heard nothing yet. I am in limbo not knowing if i will ever hear from him again. I swear there was love and sadness in his eyes when he left.

What i would like advice on is this: will he be thinking that i am just a dirty. loose English tart? And therefore not worth staying in touch with? He asked me what my religon was before he left and seemed pleased we are both Catholic despite what we had done together.

Are there any problems sending and receiving emails between here and Poland? Or Apple Mac issues? He only left here on Thursday - perhaps the cafes are all closed. I understand that there is more poverty over there and probably less cyber awareness.

My Polish learning kit is on it's way from Amazon - i hope to Bog i get to use it with the very beautiful man i met. I am so sad that he has gone.

Moje serce jest chore.