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Joined: 4 Apr 2008 / Male ♂ 		Last Post: 11 Apr 2008
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Posts: Total: 44 / In This Archive: 44 		From: branford ct usa
Speaks Polish?: no
Interests: was a professional hockey player now i own mortgage company i love to play hockey and run riding mountain bikes

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eddiea19   
4 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

I was wondering if any polish woman could help me understand? My girlfriends dad died when she went to poland to help him with a illness she came back after the funeral and shes been mourning for 30 days and i respect that! but shes been very distant and angry towards me and wants space saying she doesnt know herself anymore. Can someone help me understand if this is common for polish woman? and how should i approach this
eddiea19   
4 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

thanks z_darius, i have been giving her space just dont want to get to far away. but tomorrow is the 30 day mark and then sunday shes having a dinner with family and all his polish friends here in states i wasnt invited but i understand. are you from polish desent?
eddiea19   
4 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

thank you for all your advice i guess time will tell

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how long is the mourning process of polish women when they loss thier dad

my girlfriend has been in mourning for 5 weeks is thier anyone who could explain the whole process? polish women please
eddiea19   
4 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

hey VaFunkoolo, if you could read and its pretty evident you cant i was asking to understand her situation and her traditions ... It has nothing to do with self centerness! man child? only a self absorbed person would come out and say something negative because they feel like they arent worth much. i was here for help not hurt
eddiea19   
4 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

dude? yeah and i need the grip. This is coming from a guy that cant possibly have a girlfriend just from your words you can tell that your probably just a miserable person that needs to put down people because it makes you fell better when your sitting at home with a dirty t shirt on in your childhood bedroom cause you still live at moms, Thats the reality. You couldnt even percieve how iam to my girlfriend just the mere fact that i wanted advice is proof that i love her. I love to be loved and i understand to be understood. You might not get that cause of your ignorance, it means you have to give to recieve
eddiea19   
4 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

i never met her dad, she said it was for family and his friends when he was living here. also everyone speaks polish and she siad it would be very uncomfortable for me. i really didnt give it thought just thought she should be with her family and respect the man which i have never met?
eddiea19   
4 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

look shes never lied she has told me since this all happen that her main focus is her child and her mom and right now she doesnt have the thought or energy for a relationship while shes stressed about the last 4 weeks. i believe thats valid
eddiea19   
4 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

lol i dont think so thanks for your help

some advice on polish relationship

my girlfriend is polish and at times gets so cold and distant when i want to know whats going on with us. her dad just died 4 weeks ago and i know thier is a mourning period but know she has backed off alot saying she doesnt know herself and cant handle a relationship right now how do i approach her or what could i do
eddiea19   
6 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

There is no set time for grieve to end. It takes some ppl a lifetime to get over the loss of somebody dear. Just be patient with her, be there when she needs you and give her the space she needs. Just act like a good friend and in time everything will be ok. If you instead act like a little child and push her, you will most likely lose her forever. Just act like a good friend, it's the only thing you can do at the moment.

Im being patient but it seems to be a losing battle im felling like i shouldnt call cause i dont want to push but in the meantime im sitting here wondering? i will give it another week then i need to ask if i should part ways or not, I love her very much if this situation has changed her feelings i have no control of another person. its very unfortunate
eddiea19   
6 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

Give her time to start missing you. Don't worry, it will very probably happen ;-)

well the party is going on and i do believe her sons father is thier whom she wasnt married too but, he always tries to get back with her over last 3yrs and he is polish from poland as well and knew the father, this is know making me wonder even more...
eddiea19   
6 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

Face the facts:

i appreciate your input but the fear of the unknown is killing me, i understand her head is in another place, but i guess the key is to dont call and let her miss me if she does and stay put. On the flip side what if she doesnt come missing me and what time do i confront her? without being pushy or selfish
eddiea19   
7 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

I agree with Magdalena. Your girlfriend's world has fallen apart

thats what i have been doing but the way the conversation goes it semms that im bothering her and its hard to keep calling it makes me fell im pushing her away more.
eddiea19   
7 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

maybe so, but she seems to not be pushing the ex. consider all that when you're thinking about this situation eddie.

she needs him in her sons life i cant pass judgement on that i talked to her today and said that she would be honest if she wants me to move on and she would tell me and not string me along....
eddiea19   
7 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

But I think plk123 has a good point. If the two of you had been very close before it would make sense that she would need you right now. Were you very close before? Has she let you visit her or spend time with her since the death

i was thier the day she got back she was a mess went over for easter for dessert we have gone to lunch twice and shopping... we had a little bit of a hard time before she left though but nothing out of ordinary
eddiea19   
8 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

eddie sure hasn't come across as demanding.. some of you, on the other hand, come across as ice queens.

thx for your input plk123 but she broke it off this morning

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thanks for all your help with my girlfriend who lost her dad

I just wanted to thank everyone that gave me advice as well as different views on my situation. My girlfriend has told me that i was to over the top concern and careing it it pushed her away and were down... I know i di what i though was right and its just the way it goes. Thank you again for trying to help me though...