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Joined: 4 Apr 2008 / Male ♂ 		Last Post: 11 Apr 2008
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Posts: Total: 44 / In This Archive: 44 		From: branford ct usa
Speaks Polish?: no
Interests: was a professional hockey player now i own mortgage company i love to play hockey and run riding mountain bikes

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eddiea19   
11 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

if she says why cant I keep it.. then tell her after her
greiveing is thru and she is ready to be fully with you then she can have it.

your right she is very cold and mean which means it will probably get worse. i dont think this is the woman that i should give all i have too. cause ive done so much and it hasnt come back to me
eddiea19   
10 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

'd say you have some pretty stellar reasons not to trust her. She wasn't honest with you from the start and it's painfully obvious that she's decided to play the victim and rationalize self-centred behaviour on those grounds. Insulting someone after they give you a gift is sign of poor character. Accepting the gift also shows her ability t

good point
eddiea19   
10 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

t does to extent.. but she was upset that he asked for the necklace back
and called him cheap, yet she broke it off with him and accepted that 1200.00$
worth..

Look she went to poland cause her dad was in hospital for 3 months and finally told her it didnt look good so she went to poland to make sure he was getting all thwe care he could , you know in poland you need to pay and bribe for things. when she been thier a week he died so she in turn had to have the burial and all arangements all of a sudden,and she wasnt expecting that. so i know it was a tragic trip not one of enjoyment i gave the necklace to her which i bought while she was thier and gave it to her 3 weeks after she came back when she was saying i dont know what i want or who iam anymore then came the decsion to break up cause she said right now she cant be a girlfriend or do things have sex... basically she doesnt think its fair to be my girlfriend if shes incapable of doing girlfriend things right now . she said she wants to heal and get though her dads passing without stress of thinking she needs to balance our relationship.. sounds like a fair request. Im backed off last 2 days and shes been calling but trying to act like she has something to asked... so for now???? up in the air
eddiea19   
9 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

Ok man, you gotta get a grip here. You got that? YOU are a Man and we are at our most MANtastic when we don't give a flying FCUK about the weather as long as we get done whatever it is we have to get done.

Not being invited to the dinner w

its time to ignore and moved on she has called me today already and i havent returned it, ineed to play it right give her time time is what shell get, i should go sport f...king!!!!!
eddiea19   
9 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

i asked her today she said no doesnt that she just wants to spend time with mom and brother wants time to heal and said she doesnt feel like being in relationship or having sex or being accountable to a man.. so she said it was to hurtful and not fair to me cause she cant give me anything.. she opened up and said she needs time to think cause she had plans for her dad to come live here and now hes gone
eddiea19   
9 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

when you are in the arms of someone else? do you think this means something?
It does to you but not to her.. so therefor she doesnt deserve it..

i dont think thiers is anyone else i asked her and she gets mad saying that she cant beliebe i would think that i cant get anaswers its just to sensitive right now i got to let time go by and then ask later i dont know anymore when i really feel its done ill make my move then
eddiea19   
8 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

Sorry to hear that things have ended

I love her thats why? i figured her dad died shes emotional, so... I talked to her and told her i got all her stuff in bags and shes like wow your not wasting time and i said igave you all the time you asked for but now i cant have your memories in my house.. taking her to lunch tomorrow to say goodbye any advice on what i should say?
eddiea19   
8 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

Did she ask you for the 4 weeks of space? If she did, what did she say when she asked for it?

i did what she asked and i even held on to the necklace for 3weeks so she could get the space she wanted we went had lunch then she took the gift I asked her tonight for it back and she said im cheap and she cant believe i would ask for it back so i told her i cant believe your that classless to take it.....
eddiea19   
8 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

i guess its too bad when she got back from poland i gave her space for 4 weeks i sent her flowers every week and bought her a david yurman necklace very nice she excepted it all and now this....
eddiea19   
8 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

eddie sure hasn't come across as demanding.. some of you, on the other hand, come across as ice queens.

thx for your input plk123 but she broke it off this morning

Thread attached on merging:
thanks for all your help with my girlfriend who lost her dad

I just wanted to thank everyone that gave me advice as well as different views on my situation. My girlfriend has told me that i was to over the top concern and careing it it pushed her away and were down... I know i di what i though was right and its just the way it goes. Thank you again for trying to help me though...
eddiea19   
7 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

But I think plk123 has a good point. If the two of you had been very close before it would make sense that she would need you right now. Were you very close before? Has she let you visit her or spend time with her since the death

i was thier the day she got back she was a mess went over for easter for dessert we have gone to lunch twice and shopping... we had a little bit of a hard time before she left though but nothing out of ordinary
eddiea19   
7 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

maybe so, but she seems to not be pushing the ex. consider all that when you're thinking about this situation eddie.

she needs him in her sons life i cant pass judgement on that i talked to her today and said that she would be honest if she wants me to move on and she would tell me and not string me along....
eddiea19   
7 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

I agree with Magdalena. Your girlfriend's world has fallen apart

thats what i have been doing but the way the conversation goes it semms that im bothering her and its hard to keep calling it makes me fell im pushing her away more.
eddiea19   
6 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

Face the facts:

i appreciate your input but the fear of the unknown is killing me, i understand her head is in another place, but i guess the key is to dont call and let her miss me if she does and stay put. On the flip side what if she doesnt come missing me and what time do i confront her? without being pushy or selfish
eddiea19   
6 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

Give her time to start missing you. Don't worry, it will very probably happen ;-)

well the party is going on and i do believe her sons father is thier whom she wasnt married too but, he always tries to get back with her over last 3yrs and he is polish from poland as well and knew the father, this is know making me wonder even more...
eddiea19   
6 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

There is no set time for grieve to end. It takes some ppl a lifetime to get over the loss of somebody dear. Just be patient with her, be there when she needs you and give her the space she needs. Just act like a good friend and in time everything will be ok. If you instead act like a little child and push her, you will most likely lose her forever. Just act like a good friend, it's the only thing you can do at the moment.

Im being patient but it seems to be a losing battle im felling like i shouldnt call cause i dont want to push but in the meantime im sitting here wondering? i will give it another week then i need to ask if i should part ways or not, I love her very much if this situation has changed her feelings i have no control of another person. its very unfortunate
eddiea19   
4 Apr 2008
Love / My polish girlfriend has changed following death of dad.. [153]

lol i dont think so thanks for your help

some advice on polish relationship

my girlfriend is polish and at times gets so cold and distant when i want to know whats going on with us. her dad just died 4 weeks ago and i know thier is a mourning period but know she has backed off alot saying she doesnt know herself and cant handle a relationship right now how do i approach her or what could i do