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May   
19 Nov 2007
Love / I'm pregnant of a polish guy [90]

Hello everybody,
I'm a Spanish girl who met last summer a sweet(at that time I thought so) Polish guy in Galway( Ireland). We had sex, and when I came back to Spain, we kept in touch, through sms, e-mail, phone, messenger... and decided to meet again. Both of us were completely free at that time, although he confessed me this same year his polish girlfriend left him, but he promised he wasn't in love with her anymore and never would be with her again. At last, we spent four days together in Spain, and we were having sex almost all the time(I'm too passionate). The same day he came back to Ireland, he phoned me and told me he wanted to meet me again and asked me to be good and some other nice things. But that same night, his attitude changed, since his ex, who also lives in Ireland, called him and asked him to be with her again. He said he felt too many doubts, but at last he realized he wanted to be with her again(I've known it last week). The problem is that I'm pregnant and I told him last week, but he seems not to care about it. He sent me a sms saying me to call him if I needed to. I told him in an e-mail I wanted him to be happy, specially now that he's with his girlfriend again, and that I didn't want to cause him any trouble(I'm so stupid...), in spite that I'll have to face alone this difficult situation. In the last week, I haven't known anything else about him, he doesn't care about it. I feel destroyed, he has used me, when he wanted to be with me he was almost everyday in contact and he always had sweet words and kisses for me. And now that he has made me so much harm, he just forgets about me, even he doesn't care about my feelings or about what I'm going to do. He must be so happy now with his girlfriend, and I'm here alone, pregnant, so confused, asking God or whomever else not to wake up again in the morning, because this situation is so difficult to face. Moreover, I cannot forget him, I remember the moments we were together all the time. I thought Polish guys were loyal and responsible of their acts, but he must be the exception.

I needed to tell somebody what's happening to me, nobody else knows about it, if my friends knew it they would hate him, and I don't want anybody to hate him(I must be really stupid). I just needed some relief summing up my story, the problem is that I still don't know what to do. I'm terrified, and scared of myself because of the deep anguish I'm feeling and the stupid ideas that assault my mind.

Caluski i usciski.
May   
19 Nov 2007
Love / I'm pregnant of a polish guy [90]

Thanks for your support, really. The only family I have are two sisters, and one of them is very ill, so I prefer not to tell them about this problem. And I don't want to tell it to my friends, since I don't want them to be mad at him, not at me. I don't know how to get in touch with his girlfriend, but if I knew, I wouldn't do it. I don't understand why I behave this way, I let him hurt me but I don't want to hurt him at all and I prefer him to be happy. He has damaged my selfesteem severely, and he doesn't care about me now. Thank you again for your support.
May   
19 Nov 2007
Love / I'm pregnant of a polish guy [90]

Feeding the child is not a problem. The problem is that I don't have a family who can help me raising the child, my job takes me too much time, and if I had the child, I'd want him/her to feel loved also by his father, and if I go on dreaming, I'd also like the child to live in a happy home with no affective lacks at all.

He knows for sure I haven't been with anyone else, I'm not that kind of girl, so he knows with no doubt he's the father. I don't need either his money or his surname, just some support I'm not receiving from him, even he hasn't answered my last e-mail.
May   
20 Nov 2007
Love / I'm pregnant of a polish guy [90]

Thank you for your support, all of you are really fantastic.
Buziaczki.

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Hi again,
Last night I could chat with him(I had to ask him to do it, he doesn't look worried at all). It's incredible, he said he'd support me(I know they were empty words), but that we didn't want to have a baby, so it's no sense to go on. And that he could be in contact with me until I solve the "problem". Moreover, when I asked him if his girlfriend knew it, he confessed not, and that he wasn't going to tell her. I cannot believe it, I feel so impotent, I cannot do anything at all, since they're in Galway(Ireland) while I'm in Spain, and although I tried to tell his girlfriend, I only know her name, nothing else.

I cannot believe he's behaving this way with me, he looked so sweet but he hides such a devil inside of him... I feel very deceived.
May   
22 Nov 2007
Love / I'm pregnant of a polish guy [90]

First of all, I thought I knew that man, but at the end I've seen he's got a double personality behind an angel face.

And we used protection, but something must failed. There are no 100% reliable contraceptive devices. Last year my former couple and me broke up, after a long relation that lasted for 13 years, and we never had any problem related to this. It must be that this guy is too fertile, that we were too constant, or just that fate wanted to laugh at me, I don't know.
May   
6 Dec 2007
Love / I'm pregnant of a polish guy [90]

Of course, I'm still in love with him, although I know it's useless, but I cannot avoid it, I just hope some day this feeling disappear. Anyway, thanks for your help.