prettypolly
4 Jun 2009
Love / Polish guy broke this black womans heart, now he wants me back....what do I do?? [27]
Hi Everyone, I'm new to all of this so bare with me..! This is quite along story but I'll keep it a short as possible-but I really need some help fronm u all so that I dont screw up my life....
I've was going out with my ex boyfreind for 9 mths until we split up 2 mths ago. I'm a 43yr old black Britsh woman and he is a 38yr old Polish guy. I was introduced to him through a friend of mine - he was renting a room in her house. His english was quite good so we had no probs communicating.
Ever since we got together I tried to help him eg: find english classes, build his confidence in driving, taking him out to places he'd never been before and it goes on...!
I feel in love with him after 3 mths but he wasn't sure of his feelings for me. He was at times very affectionate, with public dispalys of affection etc etc,
After a while though I started to notice things:
-We had great S.E.X at the beg ....but about 4 mths later basically he couldn't "get it up".....no idea what was that all about..he said it was because he was deperessed and nervous...??
- When he used to visit me every other wk/end from Fri-Thurs, I'd have to make sure that my kitchen was fully stocked with food because he would eat so much every minute of the day BUT when we used to do shopping, he would never offer to pay for anything...?
- Whenever we had dinner together when we were finished he would never think to help me even to take his plate to the kitken infact all he did was get up and go to ley down on the sofa or sit in front of the computer...????
- I also know he thought I had alot of money from the sale of house I owne with my ex husband because he was always fishing to find out what/ how much I earned and /or how much money I got from the house?
-He all of a sudden wanted to get BMWX5 even though he was earning less than £13,000 per yr....! he wanted a 50" flat screen...and the list went on...!?
-We had an argument just before Xmas so he stop talking/calling me for 2wks (yes very-childish) my txts and calls were never answered- he just did't want to know-during this time my friend told me that he had decided to drive to Poland with his frineds to visit his mother over Xmas, even though before the argument we agreed that we were going go on a winter sun holiday which was also going to be his first ever holiday...as a result I ended up spending Xmas day and Newyears day on my own...????
-He had split with me twice and I went back to him because I loved him.....but the last argument we had I said that was enough and I decided I couldn't carry on and said that we should remain friends which I though he had accepted.
-Now 2 mths after we've spit up he's been crying that he realises that he made a big mistake, hes been a fool and that he's noe "in love with me" he wants us to have babies, he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and that he has changed bla bla bla.
- I've decided that I will not go back with him cos he played too many time with my emotions, his job situ is very basic with little prospects, I feel that he's back is aginsnt that wall and he realised that I was a good meal ticket for him.
-why did he not attempt to change whne we were together- why does he now love me after we have spit...?
- Is this the typical behaivour of polish guys, I am I being too hard on him, shld I forget him, was he using me, do you think he really loves me now, does he have an angenda, do you think it would have worked out?
- PLEASE HELP HAVE I MADE THE RIGHT DECISSION?????
Hi Everyone, I'm new to all of this so bare with me..! This is quite along story but I'll keep it a short as possible-but I really need some help fronm u all so that I dont screw up my life....
I've was going out with my ex boyfreind for 9 mths until we split up 2 mths ago. I'm a 43yr old black Britsh woman and he is a 38yr old Polish guy. I was introduced to him through a friend of mine - he was renting a room in her house. His english was quite good so we had no probs communicating.
Ever since we got together I tried to help him eg: find english classes, build his confidence in driving, taking him out to places he'd never been before and it goes on...!
I feel in love with him after 3 mths but he wasn't sure of his feelings for me. He was at times very affectionate, with public dispalys of affection etc etc,
After a while though I started to notice things:
-We had great S.E.X at the beg ....but about 4 mths later basically he couldn't "get it up".....no idea what was that all about..he said it was because he was deperessed and nervous...??
- When he used to visit me every other wk/end from Fri-Thurs, I'd have to make sure that my kitchen was fully stocked with food because he would eat so much every minute of the day BUT when we used to do shopping, he would never offer to pay for anything...?
- Whenever we had dinner together when we were finished he would never think to help me even to take his plate to the kitken infact all he did was get up and go to ley down on the sofa or sit in front of the computer...????
- I also know he thought I had alot of money from the sale of house I owne with my ex husband because he was always fishing to find out what/ how much I earned and /or how much money I got from the house?
-He all of a sudden wanted to get BMWX5 even though he was earning less than £13,000 per yr....! he wanted a 50" flat screen...and the list went on...!?
-We had an argument just before Xmas so he stop talking/calling me for 2wks (yes very-childish) my txts and calls were never answered- he just did't want to know-during this time my friend told me that he had decided to drive to Poland with his frineds to visit his mother over Xmas, even though before the argument we agreed that we were going go on a winter sun holiday which was also going to be his first ever holiday...as a result I ended up spending Xmas day and Newyears day on my own...????
-He had split with me twice and I went back to him because I loved him.....but the last argument we had I said that was enough and I decided I couldn't carry on and said that we should remain friends which I though he had accepted.
-Now 2 mths after we've spit up he's been crying that he realises that he made a big mistake, hes been a fool and that he's noe "in love with me" he wants us to have babies, he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and that he has changed bla bla bla.
- I've decided that I will not go back with him cos he played too many time with my emotions, his job situ is very basic with little prospects, I feel that he's back is aginsnt that wall and he realised that I was a good meal ticket for him.
-why did he not attempt to change whne we were together- why does he now love me after we have spit...?
- Is this the typical behaivour of polish guys, I am I being too hard on him, shld I forget him, was he using me, do you think he really loves me now, does he have an angenda, do you think it would have worked out?
- PLEASE HELP HAVE I MADE THE RIGHT DECISSION?????