Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]

I am from Japan, the situation has been going on almost 1 year and half already... I don't think is anything wrong with sex, but thank you for the advice...

Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]

When I first time met him, he was very different guy. I still remember that he is very kind, always arround me, and he likes to read books...Since the internet is getting more and more advanced, he quits the tv and newspapers, also quit to communicate with me. he started addicting to the internet blogs and social networks...

Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]

I believe that is the Internet addiction, he can not without internet for 1 day, i think he needs a blackberry or something, he is checking his facebook, emails, social network..etc.. every minute...A couple of times, he woke up at 2am turn on the computer, He told me he couldn't sleep... I told him drink some milk and go back to the bed...he gets upset...

Most of the time I found he just browsing some woman's pictures on his facebook or social network...

Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]


nope...

Thank you for all your supports and advices...

PS. It's 1 am here, he is still not home yet, no clue where is him on the holy night.

Hope he will come back soon, we will be able to go to church together on easter sunday....

Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]


You are right about this...maybe he just want to escape from me, avoid to communicate or interact with me..I think he is not happy at work either, He was arguing with his female co-worker once and got a letter from his boss. Friends...He is accusing that all of his friends left him because of me (no clue what he is talking about..) He has some polish friends, but I don't know them very well, he doesn't want me to get to know them.. And i think he is only playing poker, drinking and smoking with them at mid-night..

And thank you for the advice from Softsong.

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:'( It's sunday today. He beats me again and even take a knife on my throat, he is warning me don't move stop crying..don't make any sound, his eye is so big, he seems like a bad guy not my husband anymore, he drag me from room to room and kick my hip.. I was begging him to calm down..he droped knife and slapped my face then run away from the home...

The thing begins here...

I didn't go on this form room for many days. I know I don't have the power to change him, so i was about to change myself first...I was trying to make myself busy in the life... I thought he might pay a little attention on me... Yesterday, it was a nice Saturday in Toronoto, sunny day, almost 30 degree, we suppose to go to a show togerther, just because there is a woman called him the day before to meet in the morning at downtown, he told me he has to go, i said ok. Usually, i will be a little upset, because he has already promised me to go somewhere, now he changed just because a call..But this time i said to him, if you have to go to meet her, then don't worry about me, we can go to the show tomorrow, i will go to visit my friend. But he said to me No, he said " you can meet me in downtown, I will finish with her about 12o'clock, we can still go to the show after that." I said ok. That day morning about 10o'clock, he called me, he said I need more time with her, i have to teach her how to make a blog..so i can't meet you later today...(I knew it.. in the begining!! Before he meets that woman every Satuday, he is telling me i can't be with you on Saturday, i have to do business with her, she is my partner...) what business??? I never see him making a penny on that.. he only spends money on Saturday..

All right......he said we can go to the show tomorrow which is Sunday. Now is Sunday, he woke up in early morning spend the whole morning on the Skype talking to someone. I make breakfast, we ate, i asked him when we are going to the show. He told me he doesn't want to go anywhere, he doesn't have money, I knew he spend big money yesterday, and he doesn't want to spend money with me...Before we were going out i always have to pay for him... I am not saying i want to be stingy, just don't feel right, he is saving money to have fun with others, i am saving money for the family. Since we got married, I don't even have wedding ring from him..and he only bought twice flower for me, argue with me the day before my birthday, then he has excuse to get me nothing on birthday... He is always telling me he is poor...I knew it before i chose to marry him. I said to him I don't mind if you are poor, but important is to have a rich heart... Now i feel i married with a poor guy with both inside and outside...

Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]

He has two faces, that's really scary. He can be very caring and kind in front of others, when he get home, he become a totally different person.. I even scare to look for help with his friends or family, he warned me not to tell, he said they would stand by his side, no one will believe me and what I said. And he is very good at making a lie to them. I can feel his family and friends look at me differently, I don't even know what he told them about me... I didn't do anything wrong, I have always being nice to him, but what I get...in my marriage life... tears and pains from an unconscience man :'(

Love / SOS!! I feel a little hopeless with my Polish husband... [58]

thank you for all the reply...
I think i have to close this thread before my husband find out...

Thanks again everyone here.