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pauljohnjones   
9 Mar 2009
Love / I need some advice about a Polish young lady. [21]

She is just a friend, I met her in America, and I have visited Poland. She is a very confused young lady and I am trying to help her live a normal life.

I spent seven weeks with her in America and nine weeks with her in Poland. She is depressed most of the time and in my opinion, she has a low self-esteem of herself. She lives in Poland and speaks very little English. We email on a regular basis. She is Catholic and somehow got involved with the Jehovah's Witnesses.

First, I don't know how any Catholic could get involved with the Jehovah's Witnesses (I am Catholic myself). I have done much research on the Internet and found them to be very controlling.

Second, I don't know if I should really get involved with her religion but from what I know about her I feel the Jehovah's Witnesses are giving her the wrong advice.

Third, I do know that before she was involved with the Jehovah's Witnesses she was a happy young lady with only the problems that young people face each day.

Fourth, I would like to help her live a normal life that every young person should enjoy.

I would appreciate any advice or suggestions.

Thank you,
pauljohnjones   
9 Mar 2009
Love / I need some advice about a Polish young lady. [21]

Some great advice folks, but she lives in Poland and I live in America. She writes in Polish and knows very little English and I don't speak Polish at all.

Thank you all
pauljohnjones   
9 Mar 2009
Love / I need some advice about a Polish young lady. [21]

Sometimes she will send me an email in English using a translator, otherwise I use Web translators. I also spent seven weeks with her in America and nine weeks with her in Poland.
pauljohnjones   
9 Mar 2009
Love / I need some advice about a Polish young lady. [21]

Did you know her before she became a Jehovahs witness or afterwards ?

I knew her before she became a Jehovahs Witness. I have seen the changes in her personality and attitude. She used to be happy.
pauljohnjones   
9 Mar 2009
Love / I need some advice about a Polish young lady. [21]

Do you know any of her family at all ?

No, I do not know any of her family. I heard her Mother may have became involved with the Jehovah's Witnesses about three years ago, her Father is not involved. Her last email stated that her mind is not made up for sure. I think the reason she sent this to me was because I made a remark that every day, I seen her in January it seemed as if she was depressed, angry and her moods changed from hour to hour. She replied that a lady at work told her the same thing.

This is a few of the things I have done to try to build up her self-esteem, and to give her some knowledge of the Jehovah's Witnesses.

I have sent her flowers on Valentine's Day and on Woman's Day; she told me she has never received flowers before. I have sent her cards to let her know she is a special woman.

I have emailed her feedback from former Jehovah's Witnesses, with the Emotions they lost or felt while in the Jehovah's Witnesses.

I have emailed her the ridiculous rules of Watchtower and the absolute control the leadership has over the lives of their members once they join, in other words, the "forbidden". This I found on the Internet.

I have found a poem written in English, I was going to email to her. It is a special poem to make her feel special. I have not because I thought it would lose the meaning when she tried to translate it.

I think I have planted a seed with her. Now do I sit back and wait or do I continue with what I have been doing?

Any ideas?
pauljohnjones   
10 Mar 2009
Love / I need some advice about a Polish young lady. [21]

I assure you that there is nothing but friendship between us. I spent a total of 16 weeks working with her. When I first met her, I thought she was the sweetest young lady I have ever met. This was the first seven weeks in America. When I went to Poland, I saw the change in her. She finally told me that she was involved with the Jehovah's Witnesses, I was not the only one that has the change in her. You said "gifts, cards and money" I didn't say anything about money??
pauljohnjones   
10 Mar 2009
Love / I need some advice about a Polish young lady. [21]

Yes, it is a long story, there is a big age difference. During her last four weeks in America I was very protective of her, This is something I do not want to discuss on the Internet, but there were reasons. I guess being protective of her continued, now I have seen and I hear that she is very sad and I want to help her but I don't know how being so far away.
pauljohnjones   
10 Mar 2009
Love / I need some advice about a Polish young lady. [21]

Yes, you are suspicious, but I do assure you that my intensions are purely friendship. She lives with her parents and from what I have heard, her Mother has been or is involved with the Jehovah's Witnesses. The gifts and cards are only to make her feel good (important) about herself. To increase her self-esteem, she does not think very much of herself. "i hope you are helping her purely cos of friendship and you will not have any expectations from her once she's sorted herself out. i hope there are no conditions or small print coming with your kindness." Believe me when I say I expect nothing in return, it is only friendship and concern. What I did not want to discuss on the Internet was something that happened to her in America.