Life / Coming back to Poland after 5 years in UK [14]

Thank you guys and girls.

"Hugs" were great, you can't even imagine how much I miss "hugs and touches" and this little important stuff.

Patrycja and Bolek are both right.
I need to say that Bolek's opinion that the feel and touch effect doesn't work in Poland at all is...true. I am going to write to Patrycja personally as well.

I wanted to leave Poland just to become independent, not for the money ( come' on, who can save good money in London.. ?? ) My relations with my mother and brother were difficult, I felt overshadowed and wanted to find my own path in life etc. It worked fine till... I came back.

My father was always on my side, now I think he is just scared that he won't maintain a decent living - he is retired and lost my mother and truly - her help, initiative, income and energy so he somehow tends to lean on my brother who earns quite good money and has a son. But... it doesn't work, believe me. He gets poorer, not richer. He has two faces as well.

That's what I see. Just surviving, easy solutions etc.

I can't see the attitute " ok, I will try to make it by myself, this is a challenge in my life", not at all.

Honestly speaking, I wouldn't like to dump my family,I am on the stage to be scared of loosing anyone else - I just want to be close to them - that's why I came ! - to go to the cementry from time to time and leave the candle and be happy I can be close, appreciate the time we have a chance to spend together, maybe cook something my mum liked ? or watch the video sometimes etc.

Once you loose someone permanently in your life you appreciate your friends, relatives etc differently.

I don't want to hurt anyone and to loose anyone - my mother contributed in buying my flat so my brother is against selling it - he thinks everything should stay the way she decided to do, he is sooooo patronising.....I came to sort out her clothes, give some of them to charity or other people who suffer cancer, he says

" NO ! keep them where they are, I will take them all to my place". Sure....

It's like not giving anyone who is different any support, freedom, any right to decide in their own lives, specially mine. Woman has no respect, well, maybe once she is a mother.

What I can see is that they expected me to stay in UK, buy a house and get married over there etc. Otherwise is " all right, if you couldn't make your own life so far ( I don't agree with that ), I will decide what's best for you", which is nonsense. They treat me as a looser, somehow, it's sad.

Life in UK is not the same as in PL even though you have a better quality of flats etc.

Thanks for listening this family story.
And you know what.. ? I've just realised writing this stuff, that if I had a choice - to loose my family connections, my brother stupid influence etc. in order to have my own life - I wouldn't hesitate to do that. It's so draining that it can't last, it's killing, sad and very dissapointing.

So sad - once you say" sure..", "no problem.." in here, people will take advantage of you and walk over you very quickly. That's my opinion.

Have a nice week,
Lots of love,
Paulina

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Poland is strange country, pretty grey and not very optimistic. I would say that life is quite diffucult in here and the reality can be tough. it may sound ridiculous, but I would suggest to organise a trip to Poland first, even for 2 weeks - believe me, it's worth. It would be good to see your other half in this reality and be sure that your love life works good on this ground.

Of course, if you can earn some good money, it will make your life much easier.
I wouldn't recommend Tychy at all. Gosh, it is so depressing...

Good luck with everything

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Thanks a lot.