Giving emotional support to my brother means that he will take everything you give it to him but you can't expect even simple "thank you". I quess, he doesn't see the same I see and is very unhappy himself.
The same with my father - he can be rude and doesn't show much respect sometimes.
He is my lovely father but I think our relationship was much better when I was away.
Paulina.. you need to gather your family and speak your mind ...
not having a older sister or some support yourself can be hard.. sometimes people ignore the fact that others could be still hurting and it sounds like your doing all you can to keep your family together , but not getting the emotional support and time to mourn like they have.
so I am going to act as the older sister right now...
gather father, and brother tomorrow..
ask both to please listen and to not speak until you are done.
please do not be rude and cut me off as I am only going to say this once.
I love the both of you, but I need your support too.. I miss mom too, and I dont have the nuturing or someone to turn to and cry when I need that shoulder.
I am depressed, I dont want to live here if I have to be your support only. we are family and we all should work as one.. this is what our mother would have wanted and expected.
Paulina.. you tell them that.. you certainly deserve more help and emotional support then you are getting.. we all know sometimes we dont show our side, so you show it to them so they can know that you are still hurting too..
Please feel free to email me as well if needed my email is open always or pm
* sisterly Hugs*