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londongirl08   
1 Nov 2008
Love / Dating a Polish guy for the first time ever in my life [22]

Hi everyone,

I am so going to get flamed in a min by everyone but here goes...and please just try to understand I am being honest, and Im sure im not the only one who has ever had these thoughts when in a similar situation...

My mother is Polish, and my father is English, I was born in Warsaw but we moved when I was one, so my whole life (im now 26) was spent in London. After graduating, I am now a model. I always dated the same kind of guys- rich business types, lawyers, etc...Guys who i had a great lifestyle with- going to 5 star restraunts, hotels, holidays, shopping trips etc. I was also engaged to a wonderful guy who treated me like a princess- he was so sweet, caring, the perfect future husband but unfortunetly due to his ex wife it didnt work out. Its not like i would go out of my way to look for RICH guys, im certainly no gold digger I have my own great job that pays very well, but its just the kind of men i would meet with the job i have...im ysed to a certain lifestyle i guess...

anyway a few months ago i went to poland with my mother where i met a great polish guy. Hes good looking and caring, and romantic he's a complete gentleman. He opens me doors, (wont even let me get out of a cab without him opening the door!) and everything was great at first. Now certain things are starting to irratate me: 1. he never calls me, i have to call him. i think this is because he cant afford it (he works in an office but this is his first job after high school so i heard from my mother who is good friends with his dad that he doesnt get paid much) My phone bill is already £300 and im only half way through the month. 2. i just went to visit him again- his card got declined n pizza hut. i had to pay- i paid for mostly everything i have never paid like this before.

Its not even 50-50. Hes very good looking but i have to think of my future. he says he loves me and wants to marry me! he told me this after 1 week. he cried when i left. i know he really is into me but he is so different to other guys ive met.

unless its me paying we dont go out. he says he wants to come to london to get a job- his english isnt good enough to get an office type job yet, so he wants to work in a restraunt- anywhere- as long as he can be with me. so in the meantime, im paying all the bills, house etc.

no way.

i am just not used to this kind of situation and i feel really wierd. i really like him but im just used to a better lifestyle...
londongirl08   
1 Nov 2008
Love / Dating a Polish guy for the first time ever in my life [22]

Thank you :) this guy only starting talking about marriage now, so 2 months on, after 1 week he told me he loved me. he said he knew he shouldnt have told me, his friends said he shouldnt have told me, that it was too soon but he said he just knew. My mother and his father dated when they were young too..ive known his father all my life, he has always been a good family friend but i only just met his son a few months ago. so i know he comes from a good family, i have met all his friends who tell me all the time how much he talks about me etc.

when i came out to poland again a week ago we had a huge arguement about his lack of calling. i know it was about money and eventually he did tell me but he seems to have a huge problem discussing anything to do with money as he says it makes him feel **** about himself. he finally broke down and told me he feels im too good for him, that by me earning so much more than him (although in london terms im not making that much) makes him feel less of a man etc...

communication is also tough sometimes. we speak polish, and my polish is average at best. as is his english. we are always mis understanding each other resulting in one of us getting upset...i dont know...feels like there are too many negatives than positives. i would never move to poland. he knows this. he says he will come to london but however many people say love is all that counts not money, love wont pay the bills...