Love / Stalker Friend of my Polish GF? [40]

As I said they met a few times she told me before then she didn't like him and stayed away from him so he started following her.

This is a serious discussion - so please avoid sick stupid jokes.

It is disgusting that anyone would spit at a girl - there is no excuse.

Love / Stalker Friend of my Polish GF? [40]

I agree with you that she shouldn't but some people can't not respond when people are rude or horrible to them - and I think she doesn't realise that replying will make it worse.

I think you have to imagine a situation where you get horrible calls and messages - and eventually you want to tell that person to leave you alone and that can become an argument.

I don't know her well enough yet for her to listen to my advice and really take it on board but I was hoping someone here may have some advice that may be useful or may have known someone like that or understand the situation better than I do. Thanks.

Love / Stalker Friend of my Polish GF? [40]

Its not me thats silly - I told her don't reply!

Love / Stalker Friend of my Polish GF? [40]

Possible ex - she did say she met him a few times. If he was her "current" guy then he would have argued with me as well not ignored me totally...

But I asked for any advice on how to deal with it.. anyone?

Love / Stalker Friend of my Polish GF? [40]

I am not suggesting that they literally ONLY met twice.

But I am saying that nothing anyone does deserves to be spit at 5 times in the face on the street - which is what he did to her.

He was obviously taunting her and upsetting her and she looked really nervous about it.

His behaviour is inexcusable under every and all circumstances and she has acted like a lovely sweet girl around me and nothing else so I have to believe this guy has serious mental issues which is why I am concerned.

Love / Stalker Friend of my Polish GF? [40]

I was with her when she was replying.

I told her not to and she said he was saying nasty things and she couldn't let him do that without telling him that and obviously insulting him back.

She was definately not happy with him and I could see that - she was shaken up.

Maybe he was an ex - and I can believe that as being possible but I really can't understand anyone who would behave like that - it is disgusting and I am surprised more people here are not saying that as well... its almost as if spitting at people is acceptable! lol

Love / Stalker Friend of my Polish GF? [40]

The guy was waiting outside again tonight.

Scary.

I told her to go through the back door but he seemed to be waiting for her there - he seemed to be walking between the front and back of the building.

I watched him follow her to her door (as I could see from work as its just across the road) and then she closed the door and he tried to go in but he seemed to not want to try anything else and left at that point.

I then saw him watching me - this guy is very strange. If I see him standing outside watching me I can say he will be seeing the police very soon!

Love / Stalker Friend of my Polish GF? [40]

Well If I see him again outside I will call the police.

He saw me watching him tonight though - so if he has any intelligence he will not be back and if he is then I will call them.

At the end of the day standing outside and watching a business with money is suspicious and grounds enough for the police to talk to him - I can't obviously do anything as far as she is concerned because she has to complain but if he is out there again he will be sorry - well he will be nervous at least!

Love / Stalker Friend of my Polish GF? [40]

Well I don't see it that way.

I do like this girl but thats not why I am wanting the situation sorted out.

This girl works with me - if the manager finds out then they will want to sort it out - and they have noticed him outside watching. It is not a question of IF the police are involved but a question of when.

Someone standing outside a business at midnight looking in looks like a thief if nothing else.

But also I don't see how anyone can actually ignore this situation - I feel anyone who has a similar position cannot let it happen. It is morally wrong to let it continue.

I believe this guy is stalking her - I don't see why he would wait in the rain (it was raining very hard all night) for an hour at least for a minute or two maximum of talking to her... it makes no sense unless he is disturbed.

I know they know each other and he has her number so its not impossible for him to meet her and talk to her at normal times if she wanted that - she also never had to tell me he was strange and following her - she could have said he was a friend and sometimes he came and said hi after work and I would not have given it a second thought.

Tonight I definately saw him watching me or the restaurant after she had gone home - that is concerning.

Of course I did try to talk to her about it but she doesn't want to discuss it with me... she doesn't know yet he was standing outside after she went home.

I will tell her if I do meet her tomorrow. I also now have met some of her friends so will ask them about it when I next see them.

It makes me sad when I read in the news about people that have been hurt or killed by people that followed them and I simply do not want that to happen to anyone ever - and that is the main reason I am watching this carefully.

I could have gone over tonight and asked him what he was doing but I didn't in the hope he would go away - I hope now he has seen me watching him he decides it is too risky and doesn't come back but its impossible to know when someone is mentally unstable what they will do next.

Love / Stalker Friend of my Polish GF? [40]

The difficult side to this is that unless she is too scared to confront him - and as she hasn't talked about this to me I can't see either way - is that if I were to call the police then what would she say?

She may be more angry with me because I tried to help than if I did not.

Its a difficult thing to balance. I hope that over the next week she opens up to me IF I see her and maybe we can sort this out between us without me having to call the police without her knowing.

I want what is best for her but I don't want for her to be angry with me because of it.

Love / Stalker Friend of my Polish GF? [40]

I'm not doing anything behind her back!

She doesn't want to talk about the situation with me so I don't know the whole situation but as I said he is standing outside my work watching and has done itmohe than once and that is not normal and is suspicious- I don't know his motives and he may well be a threat to me as well as if he is the jealous type (which it seems he is) then he already saw us kissing the other night.

We all have a moral duty to want to ensure the wellbeing of others when it is clear that someone else may be in trouble - that's my feelings.

One observation I have made about polish people us they are very independent and sometimes don't see what is best for themselves. That is what friends are for and sometimes a real friend will do someting to help that you may not appreciate immediately but is for the best in the long run.

Life / search function problems with gadu gadu [30]

Thread attached on merging:
Can you search for people by name on Gadu-Gadu?

I was having a look at Poland's favourite messenger and I was wondering if it was possible to search for contacts by there name!?

If it is could some give me step by step instructions as I can't understand any of the menus/buttons on it! Thanks.