Love / A little bummed out [16]

Hi Lilu, I am from Albania , I just want to say that you must be very patient, because Albanian men are more complicated that usualy. Some of them have a dificult life, also, they are very faithfull, nearly never they have 2 girlfriends at the same time, they are very proud.

If you go at somebody's home at Albania , they will bother you trying to make you eat and drink as much as posible. They will ask you all the time if you like it, or.. if you feel comfortable, or please eat also this, also that ..ect till you get bored, but that is because they are very lovely persons , who just very care about you that's all. Also is one true thing -if the man presents a woman to his relatives it mean that she is her wife, or at least his fiance, or maybe she will be in the future and viceversa if a woman bring a man in the house. Also one big problem for the albanian is that they don't concept the divorce like the institucion. The marriage is a very strong union, not like in some countries that the divorce is nearly 30-40 % . Here is under 7 % so you can imagine what it mean for an albanian the mariage . Woman from Albania, more often can marry foreign man , i have my friend, she married with a Piolish man, also one other with chez man.

If he loves you and ofcourse you love him you must try to study a little bit the albanian behavior and albanian tradicion so you can more easily understand why he acts like that.

Love / In love with a Polish teacher... [83]

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I have see it and i think it's fantastic ,I hope that movie will help you find the answer,
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Love / A little bummed out [16]

I am so sorry, you must be a wonderfull person but please dont take it personal even dont worry at all. I just want to add that his relatives (family) really can treat you like his future wife if you meet them, but they will prefere and incurage him to marry with a girl from his country instead, they will put presure on him and thats why he acts like that and thats why he is scared.

He loves you but he cant breik the rules. He can marry but...

I am telling you a breaf story, once i was flying back home and at airport i meet one old man and 2 guys , they were flying back from London, the topic was marriage with an english girl, One of them says to the other What marriage?,after a while your wife will jump out from the bed at the midle of the night and go sleep with the neibor..

Well he might marry you, but what if after 10 years you will say well .. i dont love you anymore, i want the divorce , his life will go waste of, because as i said before the family is the most important for the albanians, they simpy can' concept the breiking of the family even if their wife maybe fat or old after many years of marriage they never do it.

Well some cultural diferences betwen countries are so deep and a person cant' do nothing about it , having a relation is allready dificult imagine if going contrary to the flow

( the direction of the river) it makes it double dificult, so please dont take it personal, he waited so long because he really loves you i think and was prepared to make "sacrifices" but as the relacion go long he changed his mind,, why so rapidly i really dont know , perhaps he have it with two minds in conflict to chose , and he retires at the last moment making the figure of the coward. So pitty ....

Love / A little bummed out [16]

Good luck girl! As you said everything needs its time. I hope the best for you!