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I attended a Birthday celebration last night/this morning of one of my friends who is Slovakian, Therefore obviously there were a lot of Central Europe / Eastern Europeans in attendance.
I'l get straight to the point, firstly, i'll tell you what happened and then i'll tell you what would of happened if everybody concerned was British.
So my friend who's Birthday it is has a girlfriend (lithuanian) his best friend (polish) has had a few to many vodka's, lagers and whatever else he must have been drinking. So drunken Pole approaches Lithuanian girl and starts speaking to her pretty explicitly what he wants to do with her and how etc etc, for some reason he also decided to talk about my friend (the Slovakian) and what a good bloke he was. So at the moment i'm standing there wondering why the drunken pole is coming onto my mates girlfiend and at the same time telling her what a great bloke his friend is!!!!. It dosen't end there, after enough of the chat he starts to grab her, touch her and even tries kissing her. At this point my friend, who's birthday it is, walks into the room and see's whats happening. Then a conversation takes place in slovak/polish which neither me or Mrs. LIthuania can't understand but whatever was said was neither aggressive or threatening.
So even when my friend left again drunken polak goes back to his ways. This proceeds fora while until unfortunately for mr drunken polak he falls over and hurts himself, so there ends the sexual harrasment, lol.
After seeing all this and being pretty amazed that world war three didn't start out, Mrs Lithuania started to talk to me about drunk guys, her English was not that great as she hadn't been in the country long. I told her had that happened, where all concerned were british, one of two things would have happened, in fact probably both. Firstly the Girl would have pushed away, slapped, hit or did whatever she could to get the guy away from her and secondly the boyfriend would of stood for none of it if somebody was touching up his girlfriend in the way drunken polak was. I asked Mrs Lithuania why she did neither of these things, she just shrugged her shoulders and said 'it happens'.
So my question is, this type of behaviour on the part of the girl, is it normal to just stand there and take whatever a bloke wants to throw at you??? Also on the part of the boyfriend, is it the usual approach just to stand back and make out like you don't give a dam??
The situation left me pretty confused as to, 1, what approach is best, let the guy do what he wants, or get stuck in and defend yourself, if your the girl, or defend your girl, if your the boyfriend!!!
A little explanation would be nice, if at all it is a cultural thing or just the reactions of the individuals involved.
P.S. I'm by now way emplying that all Poles are like the (drunken Polak) it just happened that he was polish :)
thnx
T