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JustysiaS   
28 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

Maybe Mum waited for Dad but thats back in the 60's those rules dont apply today

im 23... i was born in the 80s. i will wait for him and not do the emotional blackmail thing on him. he's gotta do what he's gotta do. i am his priority cos if he didn't care what i wanted in life he'd never think about trying to make it happen.

so you suggest that if a woman who is going out with or married to a soldier should just dump him when he gets posted away in the middle east? when he's trying to better her future?

JustysiaS please put paragraphs within your sentences! it makes it so mush easier for the reader.

you are the first person complaining about this
JustysiaS   
28 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

The word twat coming out of your mouth is rather a compliment.LOL

nie zesraj się ze szczęścia

None of what you wrote here was mine or anybody else's business, and still isn't.

don't comment then if you feel like it's none of your business, i didnt specifically asked for YOUR opinion.

just proves that to convince Poles about something is easiest if you try to convince them to accept quite the opposite. Works like a charm, doesn't it? :))

it's more of a woman thing rather than a Polish thing in my personal experience lol

You can try a policeman,they also wear uniform.

za mundurem panny sznurem. i could get arrested and hand cuffed... i'd realy hate that ;) every minute of it
JustysiaS   
27 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

Yes the british army does what the AMERICANS tell them to do lol since we have the best milarty in the world

yeah, you yanks are best at killing each other with friendly fire

What u talking about we took that country over in 3 days they will not fight liek men they hide behind woman and kids and run and hide

they still manage to kill you everyday in large numbers though. in 3 days? what are you still doing there now, fighting with them? it's gonna be a looooooooooooong time before you can build a starbucks in every village in Iraq and Afghanistan.

1. You wanted honest opinions, didn't you?
2. I did not kick your ass for anything, although you certainly haven't come across as a Penelope.

i dont really care how negative or positive i come accross to you, z_darius, but my question wasnt about the war and it's impact on the world, or about the lousy pay cheques the british soldiers recieve for fighting Bush's stupid wars. and definitely not about my fiance being lazy or not capable of finding a different job to pay off his debts. that is none of your business. you don't have the right or enough knowledge about the british army system to ridicule it, as well as ridiculing british troops. after all, they are america's stupid president's allies and they are fighting for his right to all the oil out there, right? it was about me and my doubts about letting him go or making him stay, and i've been even thinking about splitting up because i couldn't at first bear the thought of losing him for so long, so suddenly. these are the emotions many people go through, i wanted to be honest without making a saint out of myself, but when the likes of seanbm started infesting this thread with their bollox about the war, i had to stand up to them and at least defend my boyfriend because he's in the end trying to make things right his way. i know he loves me to bits and leaving me is the last thing in the world he wants, but what other choice has he got really? the sooner he 'buys himself out', the better. he's been a soldier since he's been 19, it is a very big step for him and i admire him for being so determined to take that step to be with me 'properly', not just when he's off duty. all the trolling going on here made me realise just how confused and lost i was when i have written my first post. i will be backing up my fiance no matter what and no matter what you say, so this thread might as well be deleted now. thank you to all the lovely people, you know who you are, for offering support and trying to get the thread back on track. and thanks to all the negative, harsh posters, too, you sure got people talking and you sure made me wanna stand by my man no matter how much you critisize him and his occupation.

thank you everyone.
JustysiaS   
27 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

You need to make up your mind. In the first post you wrote he volunteered to go to Iraq. You can't change your story in the middle of the thread and then blame others for being blunt in their assessment of the situation.

but now they might ask him to go anyway even if he says he doesnt want to anymore cos he's on the list of people who qualify to go. im not changing anything. i only posted this thread because i wanted to share this with people similar to me and maybe exchange experiences, rather than getting my ass kicked for being doubtful and 'unloyal' or listening to some others critisizing my boyfriend for being a soldier and putting his life on the line for lousy money.

I don't post any of my family matters but if I did I would have to expect some criticism by other people and would have to be able to take it.

yeah there is always a twat or two who have to add their miserable few words to the conversation. i have been expecting it sooner or later, but it doesnt mean im just gonna let you insult me.
JustysiaS   
27 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

some people really dont have a bloody clue what they're talking about. American camps out in the middle east are like holiday camps with swimming pools and cinemas, and they get paid loads more money than the uk soldiers so how is that fair for a start? you think its all about the money and that my bloke is 'selling himself' out of greed and that he's stupid to do so as it's such a small amount of cash for all the risk? do you realise how brave must one be to make such a sacrifice?? its disgusting of some of you to condemn him for that and i truly wish that you find yourselves in a situation like this where your loved one has no choice but to go and fight cos its his JOB and cos thats the only choice. its true he didnt exactly sign up to serve the country, but who does these days? apart from americans obviously, cos you guys are a bit brainwashed by the looks of it. its a job like any other, just more demanding. he's been in the army about 4 years before i met him, and bought the car ages before we started going out too. he sees this as the only way of getting outta this debt as he wouldn't get paid as much if he left now, with not so amazing qualifications or money to get them. he's still very young and please find me a 25yr old guy with an account full of money. thats quite rare isnt it. he is at least doing something to change it now and he can only see the end of this army stuff after doing those 2 tours. it might not be millions, but it is a nice lump of cash.

as for some other people questioning my feelings towards him, please stop for a minute before you judge. you know absolutely nothing about the situation, most of all - you have not ever been in a situation like this before and i have been so im obviously not looking forward to it happening again. you have no idea what that place does to people, its taken my fiance months and months to get back to normal, he was very emotional and stressed out, and god we'd always end up fighting a lot because of the tention that he created around himself. i love him and one part of me knows he needs to go and do this, but the other fears for his safety and feels it might be not worth it if something bad happens to him. but thats life and we all make our choices, we all make mistakes and we all do and say things that we later regret. so if all you have got to say is 'you dont love your fiance', then i suggest you go and f*ck yourself. cheers.
JustysiaS   
26 Jun 2008
UK, Ireland / Intercultural experiences of Polish migrants who work and live in the UK [26]

it seems to me, Patrycja, that all you are really interested to know about is how Polish people are supposedly hated by other east-europeans and prove your idiotic theory that they are a bunch of selfish migrants who are only here for jobs and benefits. thought you'd be a bit more open minded and responsible, after all this is such an important thing for you to write. you appear on some forum and expect all the work to be done for you so that all you gotta do is write it down and voila, done. think again, and stop being such a child. this forum is for people interested in Polish culture and community, not for some students who are looking for an easy way to have all their work done for them. all you're after is some drama, you writing your masters or a soap opera script?
JustysiaS   
25 Jun 2008
UK, Ireland / Intercultural experiences of Polish migrants who work and live in the UK [26]

Polish people are not kind of people that will voluntarily help you, especially when you want to discuss something else than how to claim benefits, how to complete aplication forms, where to find a job, etc

that is utter bollox, me and many other Polish people i know are very helpful and generous. just cos you met a few lousy, greedy individuals doesnt mean you can just stick the same label on all of us. that is not very professional or mature.
JustysiaS   
25 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

As someone said earlier, if this relationship is meant to be, then a separation (short in the scheme of life) will not affect it

it will hopefully make it better. it's not easy being a SWAG (a soldier WAG lol)!

Osiol is just about sober after last night.

osiol, you've been drinking on a tuesday night? i think your Polish housemate has a bad influence on you lol
JustysiaS   
25 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

;) thanks, i know this is the best thing, to wait and be patient, but i wasnt prepared for this, not so soon. he keeps saying its not 100% definite that they will let him go, but he really wants to cos he wants to sort him mess out and he's doing it for me. everybody makes mistakes and he's trying to fix the situation and make room for our future together so it's all for the best. i just hope it works out in the end, i know i won't do anything stupid like looking for other guys because im not like that, and he knows im not. it is indeed amazing to have them back in your arms after all this time, it feels like its christmas again lol. if you can make your relationship work, i'm sure i can do it too.

thank you again everyone for your kind words.
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Feedback / Why cant we talk in Polish? [8]

yeah so we can b*tch about users who dont speak polish hehe. only kiddin, luvya all ;)
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

i could start a seperate therad about how much i disagree with this war and British as well as Polish soldiers having to participate in it. im not against it just because my loved one is risking his life there, but i also feel for all the other families and friends of all soldiers out there. i dont think its fair to make them fight Bush's wars just cos he wants the oil from there, looking for Osama and other bandits is just an excuse, my bloke always says that if bin laden was still alive they'd find him by now. my fiance served his fair amount of time and i dare to say that if it wasnt for me he'd stay there much longer. he just misses his Polish and he wants to make me happy. he wants to sort out his financial troubles all by himself, he's a proud Scot.
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

If he is in a place of safety then the only worry is the time spent in separation.

thank you, that is my main worry. army is not a place you can walk out from like you would walk out from any other job. its a huge responsibility. it wouldnt've made any difference if we tried to pay for it together, we'd still be paying today anyway cos we've only been a couple for 2 yrs and you dont just ask your new girlfriend: hey, can you help me pay for my car cos i wanna get out from the army? if you wanna quit from the army you still have to work for an year after you hand them your notice. they could be cheeky and send him on a tour for 12 months if they wanted.

It was stated he was volunteering for this.

if he volunteers now and goes again next year, he will have enough money to leave in 2010. if he refuses to go now, he will go every year until he quits. all he needs is the money. he's not doing it cos he loves war. he is too proud to take any money from me. i did offer. end of, leave this thread seanbm.
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

Why is the love of your life leaving you for a war that is not just? I do not think the car is supported any more

he is leaving cos its his job!! he will go next year and the year after and the year after that untill he quits, you cant just say 'no im not going, i want out cos war is wrong'. he's sh*t with money i'll give you that though. the money is not just for that, its for our wedding and for a place together and everything else we will need to start a new life once he's out, its not so easy you know, everything costs loads these days and its getting worse. stop drilling me about the war and the car because these are not the essential elements of this thread.
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

I'm sure Justysia understands a little more than she did an hour ago. The topic is something a few of us seem to have been through. At least something similar.

yeah my mind is much clearer now. i really appreciate all the feedback. suppose i just needed a few friendly words to calm down, i had not seen this coming and its all so difficult to accept just now. after chatting to my other half and to you guys i think i know what i gotta do. it won't be easy, but we have done this before and there was a happy ending. we are a strong couple so i dont think it will break us up. its just a bit scary to think about the amount of time spent apart when you add it all up. if he doesnt go this year, he will go next year, it doesnt make any difference.... just putting it away for later.
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

I spent a lot of time before I posted because I surmised that he had told you of his decision before today.

no seriously he told me today.

what car did he buy years ago that still make war the only decision ?

a new civic type r. it cost more than he earns in a year. and he was single when he bought it.

Should a wife feel the same as her husband?

jeez people stop talking about the war. its got nothing to do with this thread.
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

It is not "just a job" he is a soldier, people get killed in wars, all wars, even illegal ones.

people get killed in car accidents, plane crashes, they get killed on the streets, they drown... everyone dies

You do not support what your fiancée is putting his life on the line for, what he is doing for "you"?

i think you are the only person here not understanding what this is about. its got nothing to do with war
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

No matter where our soldiers are, they do th worst job ever, for shockingly low pay. 11k a year...fireman 36k a year?

my bloke is on 27k plus bonuses... i earn a lot more than 11k myself lol

Take care and think before you speak.

i usually do and i thought about it for ages before posting this thread. so far it caused no harm to me or other members, has it. plus im surprised you caught the edited bit before i got rid of it, cos ive done it very fast! lol. i know what you're thinking now, all i can say is that boys are boys... and he was very sorry for it. i made him pay. not literally.
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

Iraq, to my knowledge is not the safest place today for an officer of the British army?.
Do you support the army in Iraq? I will probably get crucified for this one.

of course its not a safe place for ANYONE, its a war zone. i dont support this war at all, i've been very much against it ever since it broke out. people dont sign up for army positions cos they support the war, its just a job. im not with a soldier cos i support the war haha. you're being a tad silly here, sean.
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

for what?#

its his job. he hasnt got much choice. have you ever served in the army? as soon as he pays for that car in full he's selling it and getting something smaller. this trip is a milestone to our future together, if he doesnt go now, he will have to go on many more tours without having a say in it. the sooner he gets out, the better. its not all about the car...

you will have our backing and company through such a difficult time....it will fly by;)

lol sounds good. damn now you reminded me of that song 'fly by', was it by Blue?
JustysiaS   
24 Jun 2008
Love / Soldier born in Poland / living in England. Fiance going away for ages. Complicated... [205]

seanbm: cos he needs the money to pay up his debts and invest in a new carreer because he wants to have a normal life with me without the army cr*p. he says this is something he has to do and he's doing it for me. it sounded bizarre at first, but its starting to sink in now and wheteher i like it or not, i have to accept it. he has a choice of going to canada for 3 months and saving nothing, or going to iraq for twice as long but getting all the bonuses and not really risking much. we do need the money.

I once slept in a BF's coat for a month (at night in winter instead of using a blanket because it had his scent)...and I cried myself to sleep every night.

awww :(. i actually gotta admit that i had a few tshirts of his when he went away last year and i used them as my jammies lol. i only cried at first, but then you just gotta get used to it and keep going and counting down the days...