USA, Canada / Shootings in America; over 30 people shot [52]


This sounds like rampant paranoia to me!!!!!!!!! Who exactly are you afraid of???

USA, Canada / Shootings in America; over 30 people shot [52]

Well, you gotta understand too, that we've got some paranoids (republicans of course)in this country that act as if the "right to bear arms" is the most important part of the constitution, and maybe when the country was founded that was a real need. This makes it hard to get anywhere with gun-control legislation! But things have changed, you aren't so likely to face a bear outside your house when you go out in the morning! Who really needs a gun, now? Hunters, maybe? I can tell you from growing up on a farm with a father who hunted, that handguns do not fall into that category!

Plus there is a social aspect here involving the young people: not as much mentoring, supervision, support, communication as genration or two ago. Parents often do not know what is going on inside their kids heads, or what they are into.

The is a problem with multiple causation, and will need a similiar approach to address the problem!

USA, Canada / Shootings in America; over 30 people shot [52]

And it seems to be happening more and more in schools. We never had to think of such things when I was in school, the worst thing then was getting caught smoking on campus!

Love / Why me? (made an idiot of myself at the club - the tall Polish man was married:) [90]

Thanks, Amathyst..that's sweet of you. :)

I think that for me, an Audrey, and Lisa....I hope we all find the right guy!:)

Love / Why me? (made an idiot of myself at the club - the tall Polish man was married:) [90]


I'm trying to figure out what the correct man is! That is the big question isn't it? I decided to let God find him for me. I give up trying to find him myself! I figure God knows what I need more than I do.

Love / Why me? (made an idiot of myself at the club - the tall Polish man was married:) [90]


Maybe....but a little consistency and dependability in a man could be very comforting....in the right areas!

Love / Why me? (made an idiot of myself at the club - the tall Polish man was married:) [90]

My point is just this: If Lisa says to herself "why me" she is indicating a thought that is negative. If you operate with a "why me" attitude, you will draw more people and situations to yourself that will result in the thought "why me".

So that thinking has to be replaced with something better, like "I attract the best of single, Polish men, where ever I go". I would like to see what that brings her way! :)


I should note that we were not involved at any time at work, I transferred to a different unit, and so did he (promotion elsewhere) before we even spent time together outside of work.

I don't actually believe age difference is/was an issue...just took me time to overcome my own hang-up. I actually relate better to younger people than myself, I only have 2-3 firends my age.

We didn't break with our partners to be together....both relationships ended naturally.


Didn't you just contradict yourself?

Love / Why me? (made an idiot of myself at the club - the tall Polish man was married:) [90]


I appreciate your idealism, but it doesn't always work that way. Here is my story...then tell me what you think!

I met a young man at work, 17 years ago, whom I was sure was gay. He denied this to the ends of the earth. He was NOT my type in any way. He was smart and funny, I was his boss at work. I promoted him, and we became friends. He had a terror of a girlfriend, and I had a non-committal, emotionally-absent boyfriend. We complained about our partners a lot, laughed, joked whatever.

Then I broke up with my guy, his girl went away to school, and he did not want to go with her. We spent more time together and got closer (was hard because of 9 year age difference). We started dating and he confided that he was actually bi-sexual. I had a really hard time with that, and broke things off. He persisted, saying that, even though he was "bi" he could only committ to one person, and wanted that to be me. We talked a lot and worked on this relationship for a long time (2 years as friends, 2 years as a couple) and then he asked me to marry him. I did. The marriage lasted for 11 years until he decided that he was gay. I was devasted, crushed, lost, confused, betrayed.....you name it. Still working through this, 3 years later :(

You never know what is in another person's heart...as these other ladies know. He lied to himself first, then me secondly.

So explain the "simple thing" to me again.

Love / Why me? (made an idiot of myself at the club - the tall Polish man was married:) [90]

LS, does that mean you've seen it? You know what I am talking about?

Because I can clearly see how I have sabatoged myself in the past. I think everyone believes to some degree that there is a "self fulfilling prophecy" at work with what they think and do. It is just that most of us are not truly aware of what we believe. We say what we "think we should" and convince ourselves that we really believe those ideals, when deep down, we don't. It's tricky stuff! :)

Love / Why me? (made an idiot of myself at the club - the tall Polish man was married:) [90]


But don't you think it is good to know "what you want" so you are more likely to find it?

Anybody here seen the movie "The Sceret"? It is about applying the "law of attraction in your own life?

Love / Why me? (made an idiot of myself at the club - the tall Polish man was married:) [90]


Was he wearing a ring? Or incognito? :(

News / Abortion - how is the Polish government going to deal with this issue? [273]

Is there an idea of separation of Church and State in Europe? Ot is a church-state led government more the "norm"?

Life / Question regarding Polish women vs Jobs abroad [110]

Yeah, me too!

Life / Question regarding Polish women vs Jobs abroad [110]


No he's not for the people, he is for big oil and other large corporations. If he doesn't go soon, we will all be working as cleaning help! :(

Life / Is English taught in schools in Poland? [14]

But I also notice that their English is very British: they say "Mum" instead of "Mom". And they say "loads" instead of "lots". Sometime I feel like Harry Potter is with us in the room! :) Maybe we can go hang out at the pitch and enjoy a bag of crisps!

Life / Is English taught in schools in Poland? [14]


Yes, because no American talks like a text book and the slang evolves and then disappears so quickly its hard to keep track. My eight year old came home one day excited about something that happened at school and she says "MOM, that was awesome....it was totally off the hook!" I'm like.....whaaat? :(:

Life / Is English taught in schools in Poland? [14]

Well I suppose it is true that most of the people I have known are attending a university because that is connected to how they acquire the work visa to come here for the summer (through sponsor agencies like CCUSA). But I can't imagine anyone getting to the skill levels that that I have seen after only a few years of study. Unless those studies are rigorous and super intense!

Travel / Hikers from Poland [8]

FISZ, you are right about nothing to do at night! lol Because it is a National Park we aren't even allowed to have many street lights, and if there is no moon, you can't see your hand in front of your face, or find your way back to the dormitory. lol

As for the food, it is cafeterias mostly, and does not compare to food from home. I made a casserole for my friends (just potatoes, kielbasa, onion) and I think it made them homesick more. Then I also stuffed them with homemade cheesecake! :)

Travel / Hikers from Poland [8]

Because where I work, we get lots of international students who come to work over the summer, and we usually get a fair amount of students from Eastern Europe (Czech Republic, Poland, Ukraine, Russia). Sometimes you become really good friends with some of them, and they try to teach all of us their language. However, it looks as if more and more will stay to work and travel in other parts of Europe because it is cheaper than coming here.

Another reason: when I was in college, it was manadatory to take some foreign language elective. I had tried French and Spanish in high school and it was horrible-I could not pronounce it, spell it or REMEMBER it. So when I went to the university I tried German, mostly because I was afraid the Russain alphabet. The only other languages available were Japanese and Portuguese. German was much easier for me, I didn't have to struggle. Then when I started investigating Polish, I find that I can remember words! Sometimes even how to spell them! lol

So my theory is that perhaps I have ancestry from that part of the world, and maybe that it why it feels like "home", like it clicks with me.

And out of all the folks I have said goodbye to over the years (Marius, Anna M, Beata, Tomasz B, Anna W.) maybe someday I will have the chance to surprize them in their native language!

Another reason: I LOVE the way it sounds when spoken! Or sung!

Travel / Hikers from Poland [8]

I find that I am learning lots of words. Just can't put them together, or say them. Sometimes, in Polish just as in English, a word sounds nothing like it looks!

Just curious, is you name pronounced "Pavo"?