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The polish girl, and the life partnership [40]
This is probably a bit of a generalisation but here are my experiences and the things I've found more prevalent with a Polish girl based on a 3yr previous relationship.
1) Don't forget important days, I'm from the UK where name days and woman days are unheard of. Write them down somewhere and don't forget them. They also have a knack for remembering the things like the date you met, the date you first kissed etc etc.
I used to dread the question "Do you know what day it is today?" and then rack my brain to decide if it was an anniversary, woman day, name day or special occasion.
2) Try and get a balance with your social life, my first Polish girlfriend was a real stunner and I put my social life on hold for pretty much a whole year as she didn't like going out or meeting my friends and she hated being left alone (kind of understandable as she'd moved over from Poland to be with me and didn't know anyone).
It got to the point where I needed to get back in touch with my friends and meet them sometimes which didn't go down too well. Even once a month was too much. I should have clarified all these things before agreeing to let her move in but I was blinded by love.
3) Again this might be a more general point applicable to all nationalities but try to take notice of what she's into and what she is doing, If my previous had a new hair cut/nails/clothes she wouldn't tell me and wait for me to notice and if I didn't I be in trouble.
My first Polish girlfriend was into nail art and design so I surprised her on her name day with a huge bag of nail goodies I'd found in stores or on eBay, plus I'd made a mental note every time she'd looked at things she liked when shopping and picked up a few of those.... there was tears of joy and 1am phone calls to her mother to tell of this.
4) Do not lie to her, at all… under no circumstances even if it’s a little white lie that you think would not matter. She will find out and it’s not worth it. One day a few months into a relationship my girlfriend used to make me sandwiches to take to work which was very sweet, this went on for 3 days and on the fourth day I was so busy in work I didn’t get chance to eat them. On meeting her after work she asked how my sandwiches were and not wanting to hurt her feelings I told her they were lovely.
My nervousness obviously set her spidey sense tingling so the next question one millisecond later was “What was in them?” I tried to backtrack but the damage was done, I confessed and she didn’t speak to me for a few days and I got no more sandwiches to take to work.
It can be hard work but there is nothing like love from a Polish girl, when its right it's like you are the only person in the world for them and that's a great feeling. I'm sure people who favour ladies from other countries (my friend is mad on Asian ladies) think similar but I love all things Poland, the language, culture, food and especially the ladies so I'm biased.
Again the above are my experiences only and of course not all Polish girls are the same.
Best of luck with the marriage!
