It must be sad,but did you think about this,that if the split up she might want to go back to her own country,where she can have some help from her family
Then she should at least talk to the grandmother here, assure her that she would come back for visits
so that its not so hard for her, when you get married, you have two families.. not ONE!! if she is splitting
with her son, then at least keeping peace and making it good for the child and telling the child that because
we didnt get along , its still ok for you to see your other grandma.. so back off and stop being so cruel!!
its not fair to her either and she is the innocent grandmother who loves this child same as all grandmothers do!!
and by the way go and get a live....beacuse you sound like one of them groundparets what are pain in the ... and have no live of there own.The girl got the right to go where she belongs,and wherever mother goes child should go too
you get a life, you should give good advice , not bullShyt, you know this grandmother is in pain, that doesnt mean
she is a nosey person , every mother cares about their child, she has a right to feel this way !! if she is close
to this child, then you should understand how much she is hurting, hopefully things will be resolved without
arguments and everyone will agree on the same terms whatever the outcome.
you should be ashamed to say such things to someone. you should apologize , at least show some feelings!
Try to speak to the girl. Poland is only 2 hours away, there are cheap flights and Poland is an easy and friendly place to visit. Especially if you have a grandchild there. The future might turn out far better than you think!
good advice jonny, I agree.
she does realise the importance of family.so maybe you could be right
so do you, so talk to her like jonny says, let her know where you stand, talk to your son, dont pick
sides, remember we all make mistakes as parents, we do our best to raise them, so just let her know you
will be there for her as well. it will probably mean alot, and keeping it all civil and calm is the best. because
then no one will be upset, and I am sure she would not have a problem letting you see your grandchild.
lets face it, we all know as mothers, its extremely hard to lose a child, could you really really ask her
to let go of her child , could you have let go of your son when he was young if you had to go thru a divorce?
its simply not about nationality, its about being a parent, and one has to know that no matter what, its going
to be painful for either party, especially if they live so far, so keeping a calm atmosphere, focusing on the childs
needs , because one morning they will wake up and they will be in a whole new environment, it will be hard
because all of the things they became used to have been ripped out from under them.
new school, new friends, culture is different. change isnt always good, support of both is what is needed, if
things get to rough for the child, then maybe just let her know, she is welcome back to stay with you if
your grandchild is not happy there. so maybe they could get back on their feet if they did need to come back
because it wasnt working out.
I hope everything works out for all of you.