Yes, the father should pony up and pay for the occasional treat. Swimming lessons are hardly a luxury - they could save the childs life. Trust me, most kids dont enjoy their lessons too much. Especially in winter. You also forget to factor in clothing - decent clothing in Poland is more expensive than here. And 8 year olds grow out of clothes real fast. They also need to eat. A lot. Keep factoring in incidental expenses and fifty euro a week is not an awful lot of child support to be paying out. Bringing up a young boy by yourself and holding down a job is far from easy. Its not like she will be out living the high life on an extra 50 Europeans.
Food, school materials, transport, new football boots, he grows out of the runners you bought last year, new winter jacket, swimming lessons, school trip, friends birthday party, Christmas, his birthday, the occasional trip out, begging you for a new toy etc etc.
Kids aint cheap.
The cost of living in Ireland is considerably higher than either Poland or Britain, there is high unemployment and child care facilities/welfare payments are not easily come by.The wages in Ireland do not cover the cost of living in many cases and there is not much of a safety net,
Come off it. Welfare in Ireland is hard to get - if you were previously self employed! No moolah for you. Apart from that, its very high. The OP can claim for three kids. Thats 390 euro per month in child benefit. Both are working part time, so they can apply for a top up via jobseekers. Theres another 150-200 euro per week. If they are renting, then they are qualified to apply for rent allowance. Family income support is also available, if they are still struggling.
They are far from starving.
The op and her husband should be looking to avail of some part time fas or training course to help upskill. I was looking at the ones available in my local fas centre and the learn mandarin one tickled me fancy. You have to be on some sort of benefit to qualify, unfortunately, but there are some decent courses out there for folk such as themselves.
Contraception is not freely available in ireland
News to me. They arent?