That's not very objective, you don't know what it feels like to not exist ;P
Come on... lol
OK, then everyone has a right to experience both in order to make up their mind what they prefer - existence or nonexistence, don't you think? ;)
How long does it take? Is it all always effective?
I don't know. I suspect it depends on many things, like: whether the person in question is psychologically strong or not, how brutal the rape was, what type of rape, whether it was a gang rape or not, whether the rape was accompanied by some kind of psychological abuse or not, whether she knew the rapist or not, whether it was a family member or not, whether it was a one time rape, or the raping went for hours, days, months or years, whether the rapist was caught and sentenced or not (it helps to get a closure, a peace of mind), whether the woman has the support of her family, friends, husband, boyfriend, whether she has "a reason to live" and whether she has a good, professional psychotherapist.
An example from an article I've read some time ago:
"She says that since she's been violated her husband won't touch her because he's disgusted by her. So she's on her own: scared, weary and hungry.
I asked her how she found the strength to carry on, and she replied that she had to fight to survive for the sake of her children, but that if she saw the two men who attacked her she would kill them.
Btw, if you're interested with the subject of the process of dealing with rape, how it may look like, I think this film is worth watching:
Yes, the main role is played by young Kristen Stewart from "Twilight", but don't be discouraged, the film is good and she actually plays well there :)
Is it all always effective?
I don't know. Probably not. As I wrote - it probably depends on many factors.
And it also depends on what you mean by "effective".
I can imagine it's something that stays with people for the rest of their lives. I guess it's "effective" if you're able to go on with your life after the rape and you don't have nightmares about it every night. I honestly don't know and I hope I'll never experience anything like that.
So older kids are doomed to grow parentless? ;)
Eh... No. Are we going to discuss adoption now? ;P
Well, embryos don't have many feelings, lucky them ;)
Why, you don't like having feelings, Polson? :P
I wish that was true.
Why on Earth you wish that was true? o_O
Are you against abortion in case of health issues
If the pregnancy threats the woman's life then it's a choice between one life and another life. I don't know what is "the good choice" in such a case. It's a tragic choice.
I think in such circumstances, since it's the woman's life that is in danger, it's up to her to decide whether to go on with pregnancy or not, after being provided with all the info about the risk by the doctor.
(for the kid, the mum, and/or both)?
What health issues you have in mind in case of the kid?
With all those LOL's you must have one sick sense of humour.
Funny, you're so outraged by my LOL's (not really quoting to which comments they were addressed and not knowing why I've put them there), but you have no problem with someone saying that an eight month baby in mother's womb isn't a human being because "humans do not suck blood from hosts and do need to breathe".
Psychotherapy. Don't make me laugh. Opinionated and the text book solutions we have had from the 7 we saw in Poland beggar belief.
What were you seeing them about, if you don't mind me asking?
They seem to think you fit the text book to the situation and not the situation to a solution. I guess they all study the same material. Rubbish. Rubbish. Waste of money. I'm sure the English ones are equally up their own bottoms.
I'm sure there are good and bad psychotherapists out there, just like other good and bad doctors. You just have to find a good one, I guess.
You should try and imagine yourself in that predicament with possibly the next rapist growing inside you;
"The next rapist"? Are you saying that every man who's father was a rapist is doomed to be a rapist himself?
And what if the baby is a girl? LOL
but its impossible.
No, it isn't. I'm a woman and although it isn't possible for me to know
how it's like I can imagine it. I don't lack imagination or empathy.
I am all for looong sentences for rapists, but not for punishing innocent children.
Here you have some comments by women who are raising children being "the fruits" of rape:
I gave birth to a child from rape, eight years ago, and now the "Father" of my child is in prison. But so what, I live in the countryside and the mother of my perpetrator hates me. Now I do not know if I should trust the father of a man who hurt me, in the end he is the grandfather of my son. He apologized to me many times for what that man did to me and asked that I let him contact with my child? Should I agree ??
You know, I'm starting to wonder about the fact that only men write here on this topic. What about women? Girls, do you have any views on the subject of giving birth to and raising such children?
You are wrong,
Tell that to a pregnant woman.
please do some research.
What research? I am aware of different stages of baby's development. And?
You really need to do more research.
A feotus and a baby are different things.
The first becomes the 2nd, but only after a period of gestation.
Sorry, smurf, but for the parents it is a baby from the very beginning.
It isn't some piece of meat, it's a living organism, and we all know it's a human organism, with a fixed set of genes not to be repeated again.
We aren't animals and therefore we are able to grasp the idea of future, we can think, predict and that's why we know that if the pregnancy isn't aborted a little Katie or a little John will be born. If the fetus will be killed there won't be another Katie or John, there may be Marry or Harry, or Tom or Sean, or Annie or Rachel, but no Katie or John anymore. Just like me and my brother are quite different people. If let's say my mum decided to have an abortion I wouldn't be here writing this.
If your mum decided to have an abortion you wouldn't be here writing that a fetus isn't a baby and it's OK to kill it lol There would be someone else, maybe with completely different views than yours.
By what you are saying in your weak arguments, you think that having a miscarriage could be classed as manslaughter. Which is obviously quite silly.
No, what I wrote was: "If someone would purposely do something to cause a miscarriage to a pregnant woman (against her will, obviously lol),"
Imagine that your girlfriend or wife is pregnant with your baby. Her jealous, crazy ex-bf finds out about it and throws her on the ground and kicks her in her belly and as a result she looses your baby. Will the guy get the same sentence in the court as in the case if your wife/gf wasn't pregnant?
Please learn more about the subject at hand before commenting.
What exactly am I supposed to learn about the subject?