Or should Poland take some responsibility and pay and receive like everyone else?
Specify "every one else". Because if you look at this: upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/c/c7/Per_capita_benefit_ from_EU_for_budget_period_2007-2013_-_vertical.png
You will see that Poland is among 17 others of 27 who are net beneficiares of EU budget, and not the biggest one per capita. So why focus on Poland. What is more, why focus on any country, when in fact the base entity is a region not a country? It is almost certain that in a few years Masovian Voivodeship will be net payer (or, if Warsaw will be excluded from overall poor region, then only Warsaw...).
So, the question is not: should Poland pay more? the question is rather do you support current EU policy which is to lever up modernization of poorer regions?
Besides what do you expect as an answer from most of Poles when one of the main reasons why Poland accessed EU was because of exactly that kind of policy? It worked for Spain (regardles recent problems) probably it will work for Poland too. In the end, Poland will be net payer if GDP will be bigger then average.
Last but not least you should check carefully what companies are building Polish highways... Among many Polish ones, you will find many Western ones. Some of those EU funds finds a way home in the end, that is the case in many fields of EU support... As much as maybe some Germans or Swedes are mad because of the fact that they pay more than get in EU budget statistics, fact is that many of their building companies are flourishing in Poland thanks to those EU funds. What is probably more important for them, they will finally get decent connection with Moscow wich is what they always dreamed of, but this time trough peaceful means ;-)
Polands position on the map is both a curse and blessing. Now is the blessing time.