my question is polish parents really strict on who ther children marry does it have to be polish girls if everyone else in there family is polish?
I dont know how many actual Pole with a good family (functional) working in their support really replied to you. This forum is predominantly non-Polish, or usually with friends of Polish ancestry who only have the bookish or publicized version of information about Poland.
Anyway, me coming from a traditional Polish family will try to give some input on this.
Yes, it is absolutely correct that mother's take interest in whom their sons or daughters are planning to marry. This doesn't necessarily mean that they want to decide for their children entirely, but it means that they would like to make sure that if they have any importance in the lives of their children then they should be allowed to judge the future spouse of their children, and sometimes even have a debate of views so that the marriage is a healthy one.
In my case, I selected a Korean girl and this was not easy with my mother. She wondered if this was just a rush of emotions from my part, and the vast differences in our cultures might make our marriage useless, or she might not be able to connect to the rest of the family. However, with logic and counter logic, things do work out if you both are truly serious about each other. Mother's would definitely give way to a marriage she feels is based on both partners being seriously committed in. It cannot be the man or the woman crumbling on the face of questions, or the man and the woman have no patience for each other. Also, they are interested enough in each other to remain in love even after having to face some screening.
Hope I could answer your question.