then why sign it? Why make a meaningless standard by which others are measured.
When I signed it I made a formal declaration that I wish to spend the rest of my life with my wife to the world
and I have taken an oath
to do so. The paper part for me is meaningless . The standard is not.
I agree that relationships have evolved no question. However the institution is exactly the same. People's perception of the institution has certainly changed ( and not for the better) Why? Because of modern civil divorce. It has taken something that was supposed to be unending and stable and turned it into a temporary contract full of loopholes.
Marriage is not a church invention. It predates christianity and all religions for that matter.
whenever you hear someone say something like that you can bet your bottom dollar that their partner is doing the real sacrificing and the child knows it. Or, they're not in a relationship at all!
Not sure what this means?
what I call pathological is people with fingers in other people's business... wtf makes anyone feel that they have the right to say whether or not someone else should or shouldn't get married.
1. No one is telling anyone to do anything.
2. The idiot who beat on his wife should be in jail. And his wife is a fool for not sending him there. Personelly I would hope she would talk to a brother ,her father, another male friend who would get a group together, drag her husband out back and beat the shoot out of him until he learned how to respect women. My point is he is a jerk and would be a jerk whether he was married or not. Marriage did not make him this way...he went in as an azz and should be kicked in his until he learns how to treat the mother of his children.
3. Bravo for the second couple. Do I wish this couple got married prior to having kids ...yes. Do I belive they would have been just as successful if they signed on the dotted line.....absolutely.
The big issue is that marriage doesn't guarantee that the "multiple commitments" won't happen (not even talking about affair as this usually does not imply commitment, but a child out of wedlock does).
You seem to distinguish only the two types or relationships - no commitment or marriage
Not at all what I said
Rubbish. I'm divorced, but I did not initiate the divorce, and I'm not the one who cheated. So how on earth does that make me guilty of any crime? My only "crimes" are that I worked unsocial hours, didn't earn as much as another man, and had different interests to my wife
It really doesn't matter who initiates the divorce. Infidelity is grounds for divorce in almost all cultures including Catholics.
In so much of the world polygamy is perfectly normal
you mean in about a third of it and you are muslim.
I don't belłieve the law of any country can force someone to get a divorce agaisnt his/her will.
Actually in the USA. if one of the parties in a divorce proceeding refuses to sign the divorce papers, the judge will sign for them in essence forcing them to get divorced.
it is much more prevalent in marriage that a wife assumes she will be "taken care of", and then feels wronged when the relationship is over.
Funny most men feel the exact same way.