English girl moving to Poland with my Polish boyfriend for the first time

Hi

I'm an English girl currently living in the UK with my Polish boyfriend. His family are pressuring him to go back home and I want to move with him. However, he is convinced that I won't be happy living there.

Has anyone had a similar experience and is Poland really as bad as he is making it out to be?

Dont go there you probably wont like it. its will very different from UK and I have friends telling me how hard it is to live there,but on the other side of the coin if you love him then move to Poland just make sure he treats you right when you live in Poland.Good Luck.I have a Polish BF as well.

hmm, i'm in a similar situation. I just got back from my first visit to poland recently and i had an amazing time. The people that i came across were friendly and helpful. The town was lovely and there was a real sense of tradition which was nice, but of course you cannot judge a country on a weeks holiday ;) good luck to you

It depends where your going to move too.
Bigger City you will find English people and have a good time.
Small Place will be harder to find friends and a job.

I'm English and Moved with my gf 21 months ago to Lublin.
I really like it here. It's a Uni city so alot of people know English.

You can always say to him you will give it a go for one year. If you don't like it after ayear you can talk about moving back to the UK.

@ForFour44. I agree totally.

If your boyfriend is from a small town/village - then its gonna be tough. Really tough. Honestly.

However, if you are within a stones throw of the big cities Krakow, Poznan, Wroclaw, Gdansk, Warsaw, Lublin etc - then give it a go. Good luck. I've been here 4 years now and it ain't that bad.

Hey, don't shoot the messenger, but I'm convinced he's not telling you something..

:S

Sorry!

I loved it and plan on going back.

Poland is fine!
As a guy, I can tell you that the only reason he doesn't want you to go there is because his wife and kids are waiting for him.

Just leave him and find a new boyfriend.

Lol what nonsense, A more proper reason is that he may be too embarressed when you find out how poorly he has lived in Poland and he is well aware that the hand will be going out (in the form of please give me) when he returns home... hmmm

What do you do as a way of working there? Thats the other problem I have, my Polish is limited but I pick language up quite quickly so I'm not scared of that but I really don't know what job I could possibly do?

To be honest, it is quite hard to find a job in here apart from being an English teacher or else there are American companies operating in the big cities and if you are lucky then yes you might be able to sneak into one of those but overall it is very unfortunate with regards to seeking work in Poland.

But you never know if you are lucky. Its hard but not impossible.

Im sure she'll be fine, 1,000s of pakis and africans swamp England every year and do okay...

I work as an English teacher. Private lessons too, Business English too.
It's a good paid job in Poland. Around 40zlt an hour. So for around 10 hours a week you can earn 1400zlt amonth after tax. What is an ok wage.

if you learn polish and if youre religious (doesnt matter which religion you belive, just belive, and respct others), polish people will likes you as their own daughter.

Most Poles view it like this thats why they left at the end of the day.

Give it a go and see how you feel. My stance on these types of matters is the biggest mistake you can make is not trying.

I tried four years ago and am still here, i can honestly say i really dislike living here.

When i first arrived i loved it everything was great, my Polish wife was the opposite she hated it with a passion. Poland grinds you down after a while. In the end you have to take a I dont give a crap attitude just like everybody else. If you cant beat em join em....

Or you can escape back to civilization.

You said it best...Poland grinds you down. The locals are so beat down by it they don't even realize it half the time.

Expats stay in Poland for two reasons:

1. They have a Polish spouse/gf etc
2. Their money goes farther (and this is one is becoming more and more untrue as prices in Poland have gotten stupid)

Notice there is nothing on the list saying how wonderful the quality of life in Poland is...because it's not. Most every expat I know really doesn't like the place after a few years at best.

There are many downtrodden and self piteous types here, that's true. Energy is a great thing, though. You can really raise your own game regardless of those around you. As was said in Pulp Fiction, 'personality goes a long way'.

will life in a small village really be that hard? the village i was thinking about moving to only has a population of about 400

That sounds like my definition of hell.

but why? i recently went there for a weeks holiday and the village is only about 15/20 minute drive from a bigger town. the people seemed nice, but i can't judge too much from just a week, you know

that about sums up, what i was thinking, maybe he has some personality traits he doesn't want to get discovered, but it's just a suspicion

Fcuk im with Harry on this one.

ha ok now i'm scared

Different horses for different courses at the end of the day, i live in a very small town at the moment. I have a magnificent mansion house with lots of land which takes the edge off. In anycase if it wasnt for the house id be long gone.

I'd say give it your best and see what transpires, you might get lucky but i doubt it.

Native speakers can easily command 1zl/min and there is no shortage of willing students so work really shouldn't be a problem.

BTW, Forfour44, please PLEASE tell me that you don't teach people to say "What is an ok wage." It is my pet hate extraordinaire and I don't know why so many Polish people say it- tell them to use "which" for definitions! PLEASE!

Is that a difference between English and American teaching methods? Like that US quiz show..

is this because of the usual things you would find in small villages such as isolation or the fact that everybody knows everybody elses business?

As far as I am concerned, it is just wrong. I have never heard ANYONE outside Poland, British OR American, say:

"This is the shirt what I bought last week."

I mean, come on, it sounds absolutely terrible! The person who introduced it to unwitting Polish students should be thoroughly ashamed of him/herself.

Not outside of Warsaw they can't.

Whats usual other than isolation? Everybody wants to know everybodies business for sure.

Must be someway into the reason why they all say bye bye for goodbye.