I think it is the other way around ... I believe women abuse because they want to achieve a certain goal and men abuse cause they are frustrated.
Then you know phuck all.
@Amathyst: abuse is wrong, no matter who the perpetrator or the victim is. I don't agree with you that "we" cry foul just because the tables have turned. "We", if we are the victim, have the same right to complain as "you" have when "you" are the victim.
Most women keep quiet about abuse and suffer for years..its a matter of shame...a few blokes get punched or scratched, they're whining...Given that men are generally better positioned financially, why dont they just leave, women generally only stay because of the children and because they cant aford to, oh and the fact they are scared shytless because of years of mental and physical abuse.
An old friend of mine was abused from the age of 14 by her boyfriend - they had 2 kids, he used to knock 10 bells out of her, lock her in a bedroom while he was sha*gin some wh*re in another room and tell her if she tried to leave him, he'd kill her and the kids..it took her 10 years to leave him and 10 more to build up her confidence. This is by no means an isolated case.
I do agree that abuse is wrong, but men are crying about something that women have been putting up with for years and years and years..