That is exactly the wrong advice.
That is why I get along with my oldest daughters father and we are still friends, he comes over
and sits down and converses over a beer with my husband now, there is not one shred of hate
between us, we shared advice, and we learned and grew into parents living seperate lives.
no one is born with a manuel or booklet, especially all the stupid ones you read. its a learning
process with each other. everyones relationships will be different, yes some things are similar
in some ways, but its those mistakes you learn from.
you have forgotten how to love Zimmy, or maybe you have been scared of it since your last
you dont like to apply feelings into anything. I pity your GF. she deserves better.
anyway, as usual your stealing the show again , and its not about you so get off the feminism kick
for a change.
Patrcias words has had an impact on me today.
I am glad, because there shouldnt be hate thrown at each other when its about all of you
not the two of you.
its understandable there will be frustrations and you will get thru them, just keep a clear mindset
on your goals, what you and her agree on.
I hope you reconcile, I dont know the whole story, falling out of love, or losing feelings
happens, but she needs to understand what happened and why,
what made this happen, for both your sakes, if its unrepairable, then do your best to keep
a calm environment.
I really hope things work out, either way, I know you can get thru this.