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Acceptable age difference for a couple in Poland.


Decentman1
8 Jul 2015 #1
I am 51 and my current partner is 32 we both live in Warsaw I am under pressure to ' tie the know' from her side. She is a fantastic person and we both get on well although we live separately. My apprehension being a divorcee is that I have been down the road of marriage and have children. The main dilemma I have is the age difference and not wanting to be a father again. I have suggested to her that if she wishes to find another man who can tick all the boxes for her I will respect her decision and bow out. She tells me she only wants to be with me although she would like a child of her own.

Any experience out there of a similar set up here in Poland
rozumiemnic 8 | 3,720
8 Jul 2015 #2
I think you should let her go if you do not want children and she does.
You are stopping her from fulfilling her dreams at the moment, and resentment will build up.
terri 1 | 1,665
8 Jul 2015 #3
Take into account that a woman in her 30s will want to have children. She will get pregnant soon. She is only with you because you treat her better than other men she has known. She is not the woman for you.
OP Decentman1
8 Jul 2015 #4
I was always under the impression the acceptable age difference for consulting adults was half your age plus 7. With this in mind I think the age difference is the acceptable maximum. Terri, she is with me because we get on amazing and have much fun as well as similar humour. I am not some control freak in this relationship who is seeking to hold someone in a relationship they don't want to be in. It is also not a money reliance as she is independently wealthy for her age group. I am of similar feeling to Rozum, no man has the right to hold a woman back from fulfilling her dreams, in this case it is a child. It would be interesting to hear from anyone else who is in or has been in a similar situation.
terri 1 | 1,665
8 Jul 2015 #5
Come back in 10 years time and tell me that it's all worked out for you. I hope it does, (though I know that the chances of that are ZERO).
OP Decentman1
8 Jul 2015 #6
Terri we may not be alive in 10 years, we don't live for the future we live for today. It saddens me how so many people live through fear in Poland. The most pessimistic always seem to be long term migrants in Poland who have been conditioned to accepting less than the norm.
Crow 138 | 8,067
8 Jul 2015 #7
as old Roman saying said: ``BONUS PENIS, PAX IN DOMUS``.

So, forget about age, as long as man fully functioning, what include good imagination (so that he can imagine to have sex with many woman, while actually constantly have to found mental /> bodily/ motivation to satisfy necessities of one single woman).
InPolska 11 | 1,821
8 Jul 2015 #8
@Crow: are you sure that this was said in ancient Rome?
Avalon 4 | 1,068
8 Jul 2015 #9
"With this in mind I think the age difference is the acceptable maximum"

I can relate to your situation. Met my partner here in 2005. I was 53 and she was 32 (she already had a 5 year old daughter) and I had never had or wanted any children of my own. Nature played her usual tricks and we have our own daughter now as well.

No regrets, love them to bits and we are a close family. See how it goes.
terri 1 | 1,665
8 Jul 2015 #10
I think that when someone (like Decentman1) asks whether the age difference is acceptable, this already indicates doubts about the relationship. If the age thing didn't matter to him (and therefore no need to ask about it), then they would just live a happy life, not minding what anyone else said about it. If you're asking total strangers on the forum whether this age difference is ok - then you already have problems.
Crow 138 | 8,067
8 Jul 2015 #11
@Crow: are you sure that this was said in ancient Rome?

that`s what would tell you any Serbian in any cafe bar of Serbia. 17 Roman Emperors was born there. They knows.
Englishman 2 | 278
9 Jul 2015 #12
I think you should let her go if you do not want children and she does.
You are stopping her from fulfilling her dreams at the moment, and resentment will build up.

I agree with this. The age difference isn't a problem, and could be an advantage. One person wanting children and the other not, however, is a huge obstacle to happiness. Either you agree to become a father again or the decent thing to do is walk away.
Varsovian 92 | 634
10 Jul 2015 #13
The age gap is important, but not a showstopper. If you stay with her, then you have to agree to having kids. Simple but stark choice.


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