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Don't want others to join us at a table - is it normal for Polish girls to get angry?


f stop 25 | 2,513
15 Aug 2011 #121
I feel bad now... but, dating is brutal and full of zasackas.
So, don't mop around and get right back on that beast of a horse.
Happiness is the best revenge.
OP confused82 1 | 30
15 Aug 2011 #122
its ok, I will just play around until I can find another diamond like this one.
skysoulmate 14 | 1,296
15 Aug 2011 #123
That's right, have another one-night stand, that's the best way to find a "diamond"...
OP confused82 1 | 30
15 Aug 2011 #124
skysoulmate, I regret that anyway and would never enter a relationship with a girl who slept with me on the first night. that is why I dont even take her number whereas the other girl I would happily of waited aslong as she wanted because I believed her to be worth it.
skysoulmate 14 | 1,296
15 Aug 2011 #125
I did put some of the blame on all three but yes, in my view "confused" acted the worst. It's all very pointless now but I do find it interesting you put most of the blame on the girl simply for talking to two guys, apparently talking to two of her friends makes her act promiscuously in your view. At the same time you never comment on the fact our "confused" friend was so smitten by his Polish friend that he went ahead and had a one-night stand with another chick to clear his head. So refresh my memory, who's acting promiscuisly again???
OP confused82 1 | 30
15 Aug 2011 #126
haha, I treat a girl like a queen and you guys want ti crucify me. I treat a girl like a hoe and you still want to.
Midas 1 | 571
15 Aug 2011 #127
until I can find another diamond like this one.

She was seriously no diamond :-)

I treat a girl like a queen and you guys want ti crucify me. I treat a girl like a hoe and you still want to.

I for one never attempted to crucify you.

she has told me she doesnt want to date me any more so there you go, done

Nothing to be worried about mate. Plenty of women in England, loads of them Polish if that tickles your fancy.
OP confused82 1 | 30
15 Aug 2011 #128
midas you been like s big brother to me, giving great advice all along
f stop 25 | 2,513
15 Aug 2011 #129
I would be careful of that advice, too. Midas is telling you what you probably want to hear, but if you listen to it, the lesson will be lost:

"the "other" guy shouldn't have swooped in - blame on him

the girl should have made it very clear to the "guest" that he wasn't wanted

Still, my advice is to ditch her as she's clearly a "Polish Princess"
"

Next time, take the girl on the side and COMMUNICATE
You can't change what the others will do, you can only change yourself.
We really don't like it when a guy thinks he can decide who we can or cannot talk to. Especially behind our backs. Especially on the first date.

That is a very serious red flag.
skysoulmate 14 | 1,296
15 Aug 2011 #130
Princess""

Next time, take the girl on the side and COMMUNICATE
You can't change what the others will do, you can only change yourself.
We really don't like it when a guy thinks he can decide who we can or cannot talk to. Especially behind our backs. Especially on the first date.
That is a very serious red flag.

Thank you! Finally some common sense. That's exactly what I meant, communicate with your date, not the guy. Either way, good luck in your dating pursuits but the one-night stand comment tells me you think women should be held to a much higher standard than us men. Not a good sign but I hope you'll change your mind one day and will become a man rather than just a horny and very sexist boy.
dtaylor5632 18 | 2,007
15 Aug 2011 #131
Interesting, yes, now please get back on topic

Can I have a Big Mac, large fries and some cola. Hold the cola and give me a quarter pounder with extra bacon :)
(Damn it I've made myself hungry!)

If you are going to go on a date you have to be relaxed and open to all possibilities. If someone comes and starts talking with your date (another person she knows) then just chill. What's the point in getting upset over something so flippant? The lass (unless she is a complete bone-head) will appreciate you all the more for it ;)

But the key thing you must never....and I mean NEVER do on a date is buy each Sambuca shots! Bad things happen, BAD things :D ;p
grubas 12 | 1,390
15 Aug 2011 #132
But the key thing you must never....and I mean NEVER do on a date is buy each Sambuca shots! Bad things happen, BAD things :D ;p

Do Tequilla shots instead.Good things happen,VERY GOOD things!
dtaylor5632 18 | 2,007
15 Aug 2011 #133
Oh no, I only do that stuff if I'm on the sniff.
Midas 1 | 571
15 Aug 2011 #134
I would be careful of that advice, too. Midas is telling you what you probably want to hear, but if you listen to it, the lesson will be lost:

Obviously, because I have nothing better to do than tell him wrong.

I'm telling the gent how I see things. Now, sure, some of you ( being Polish ) might not like a few bits of what I said, still please don't discredit my whole advice.

After we cross out the few odd assumptions ( like the one about confused being supposedly unable to tell the difference between a date and another social event ) the bottom line here seems to be, that the standards for dating behaviour for young, middle-class women in Poland and the UK differ.

I know some foreign guys who are perfectly aware of it and treat their polish females with that knowledge in mind. Confused just isn't one of them ( yet ).

Now some of you might again get pissed off and whatnot, but back in the 80's when I had a business in Poland ( already mentioned it in this thread ) I actually had a situation akin to what happened to Confused.

Granted, the whole thing went down in Warsaw almost 30 years ago, so times were very different ( foreign guys with foreign currency were really all the rage with Polish girls these days regardless of how they looked or how old they were ), but still there were a few common elements.

That story is about a time when a certain Polish girl fresh out of the University of Warsaw really decided to dig her claws into me.

To make the long story short - I wasn't the least interested, despite her being very attractive and intelligent to boot. Partially due to some of the stuff that had to do with how the Polish political police operated back then and partially because this particular female had my spidey sense all tingling and not in a good way. So I kept brushing her off and even once bluntly told her I wasn't interested.

Of course ( which I know now and didn't know then ) this had exactly the opposite effect. She began pursuing me vigilantly and after she "accidentally" ran into me for the fourth or fifth time in front of the apartment block where I rented a flat ( winter time, office hours on top of it ) I knew I had a problem on my hands. I actually thought about changing my flat ( figured it wouldn't work ) or pretending to be gay ( she knew I wasn't so it wouldn't work either ), but then decided to tackle the problem head on. After all, what the hell, we're all human and all.

So we went to a venue of her choosing and of course it was a nightmare. She treated me like a meal ticket, made advances that were sometimes comical and after a few drinks even had the nerve to ask me about the state of my finances and amount of personal property ( how rich are you, in dollars? lol ). Comedy central, I'm telling you guys, although after that last set of questions I wasn't really smiling. To be perfectly honest - I became much colder and was actually considering leaving under the pretense of going to the bathroom. But that wouldn't be particularly gentelmanlike of me.

So I did what all brave men do in such dire times - I invited the only lad I knew at this place to our table. He was Swedish and I shared a drink with him once, that was how deep our relationship went. I figured, correctly, that my lovely Polish "date" would take notice of this robust Scandinavian fellow and allow me to slip away.

Indeed I was correct - she first attempted to play one of us off against the other, which was really funny, since her English wasn't that good. After about 10 minutes it was rather clear that the Swedish dude was responding and I was not. So she made a show of how great a guy he was ( again - funny due to broken English ) and started focusing her attention completely on him. Having achieved the desired result I got up, wished them good night, paid the waiter, picked up my coat and grabbed a taxi. I was confident that I'd never see her in my life again, having so gracefully dumped her off on another fella ( a foreigner, on top of all things ). Of course I never tried to contact her and considered the case closed.

Exactly four months and a half later she again "accidentally" ran into me in front of my apartment block ( I managed to go to the UK and return in the meantime ). Despite me telling her I was in a hurry she really needed to talk. Long story short:

- Swedish guy went back to Stockholm,
- She didn't understand why I never contacted her or asked her out again after our "date". What the hell was wrong with me???

- Despite being severly mad at me for not contacting her, she made sure she was still available and said I could quell her anger by giving her roses and taking her to dinner.

To the dismay of my then-landlord I moved out to another flat a week later :-)

So, to sum up, I know what the hell I'm talking about when I'm handing out advice here.
Seanus 15 | 19,706
15 Aug 2011 #135
The vanity of their approach kills me. I had the same with a girl just over 6 years back. I told her that our being together wouldn't be a good idea but she couldn't understand how sb could refuse a Polish girl. That made dropping the bomb on her that bit sweeter. Some have simply read too many magazines.
pawian 176 | 15,374
15 Aug 2011 #136
=Seanus] I had the same with a girl just over 6 years back.

You, Casanova!
dtaylor5632 18 | 2,007
15 Aug 2011 #137
I told her that our being together wouldn't be a good idea but she couldn't understand how sb could refuse a Polish girl.

And the worst is, they then start stalking you. Following you about the pubs, turning up outside your work, constantly txting you till it finally does your head in and you have to spell it out in no uncertain terms... pffft!
Seanus 15 | 19,706
15 Aug 2011 #138
Well, hardly ;)

I've never been one for dating and the thrill of the chase. Never had to be that way.
dtaylor5632 18 | 2,007
15 Aug 2011 #139
Offfft, I just never chase. Actually I have only ever chased one lass. But apart from that I'm too laid-back to chase.
Seanus 15 | 19,706
15 Aug 2011 #140
I know the feeling. Nights out were for unwinding, not getting wound up with chase disappointments. That's more for younger folk than I ;)

Wound up by, not with
f stop 25 | 2,513
15 Aug 2011 #141
Obviously, because I have nothing better to do than tell him wrong.

lost me right there...
grubas 12 | 1,390
15 Aug 2011 #142
The vanity of their approach kills me. I had the same with a girl just over 6 years back.

Wow!Just over 6 years back.Look many Polish guys had girls who were "gluing" (polish expresion kleiły się) themselves to them.It's not any foraigner's phenomena like a J.. oops (well,we all know who) claims.Nothing special about it and you boys must not be really attractive since no English women ever acted like this.I had Polish and American women doing it and I don't brag about it.
Seanus 15 | 19,706
15 Aug 2011 #143
I think I would have understood better in Polish, grubas ;) What was your point?
plgrl
15 Aug 2011 #144
confused82

Maybe just give up with Polish girls?
Seanus 15 | 19,706
15 Aug 2011 #145
Polish boys are probably no easier ;) ;)
grubas 12 | 1,390
15 Aug 2011 #146
zasackas.

Geez, you can't even spell.ZASADZKA not ZASACKA
southern 75 | 7,096
16 Aug 2011 #147
Yes,polish girls can be quite sticky.Everyone laughs at me at work when they come and ask where I am.Some are not presentable.However as king of Kurwistan I have my obligations.
PlasticPole 7 | 2,649
16 Aug 2011 #148
It sounds like her talking to that guy made you jealous. It was rude of her to pay attention to him when she is on a date with you. Could you imagine if the tables were turned and a friend of yours who is female comes over and starts it up with you, both of you ignoring her? She would be spitting daggers.
rybnik 18 | 1,461
16 Aug 2011 #149
Agreed! That's Exactly what Midas was trying to point out back in post #78!
skysoulmate 14 | 1,296
16 Aug 2011 #150
and that's exactly why he should've talked to her and not him.


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