and my asnwer is always thank you, why the attitude, they're just being polite??
Are you from Mars?? (I like your attitude, so don't worry!)
or on the day you're breaking up with her ha ha... i just hate it when somebody has a problem with something and refuses to talk about it even if you ask them, and then they randomly snap one day for no reason cos they've been bottling it up.
I hate it even more when someone can't forgive you for being perfectly honest, but on the other hand, I realize that if it has to be that way, then it wasn't meant to be. I mean, there's simply no point in having a relationship if you always have to pretend to keep the peace.
in a relationship communication is key and yes it's good to think before you say stuff but don't leave it for weeks and months, it's very frustrating. men who agree to anything their missus tells them and then moan about it in the pub to their mates or on the internet are really really sad.
I used to think too much before I said anything. Now I don't. I just say what I say and sometimes I say funny, weird, crazy things and well, that's me! So they can either deal with how I feel about things or leave me alone. I agree, I wouldn't want to complain about my girl to my friends anyway. Why would I?
what are we supposed to do when you're playing video games? housework?? lol i do like my facebook but if there's something better on the agenda i won't touch my laptop for days. even my bf's ps3 is getting a little dusty now ha ha ha....
And what are we supposed to do when you're on facebook? Huh? (Jerk off? LOL!) If I have something better to do, I won't play videogames either, but in the winter and autumn? Well, if you're allowed to waste your time on facebook, then I'm allowed to play a game every now and then. (I mean, you don't really want to be on eachother's lips all day, do you?)
why would you wanna date somebody you're not impressed with and proud of? doesn't matter what it is about him but there has to be something, be it success, personality, family values, bedroom skills, anything ;D.
Ofcourse, but unfortunately a lot of girls translate pride into things like salary and social status, and not necessarily into personality, family values or bedroom skills. I don't want to sound like ''all girls are golddiggers'' but I think you know what I mean.
if you're not proud to strutt down the street with them then what is the point?
I can't argue with that, but I guess guys and girls are proud of different assets. To me, a girl could be unsuccesful as hell, but still be the funniest, brightest, or sweetest person alive. Know what I mean?
I don't like a man who is too nice or formal, it gets on my nerves its kind of creepy because I don't feel comfortable around him.
I can't stand formal either. (I need to cuss a few times every day, sorry!)
I feel like I can't express what I think if its bad or negative.
I've got some advice for you; No matter how sweet or kind or soft a guy seems, he's always going to be able to deal with negativity. It sure does depend on how you're going to tell him such things, and which attitude you'll put on while doing so, but usually guys can take much more negativity than girls. So you shouldn't always think that nice guys can't be strong guys, because they might surprise you.
But when we go out on a date date, I definitely expect him to pay for everything unless it is serious and we've known each other for a long time.
Unless you're wealthier than the guy. Ofcourse the guy should always make some kind of effort to show you that he doesn't take your company for granted, but it's 2010, and girls are able to have careers aswell. (I guess most girls still wouldn't date a guy who's less succesful, but if they do, then why expect him to pay everything?) I think it's a bit of an old-fashioned attitude to always expect this. He should be happy to pay whatever he can pay for you though. I probably mean to say that it's more about the whole gesture than about the sum of money that's involved.
There is a happy medium between super freak nice and treating you like a doormat.
I'd agree. I don't know your exact definition of ''super-freak nice'', but it would probably disturb me aswell! I can be a bit of a roughneck sometimes, and really do appreciate a bit of an attitude from time to time, because I know I just can't treat her like she's made out of porcelain all the time either.
I just look for someone I can be comfortable around and really relate to.
That's wise. Anything else will probably never work out, or atleast become a very difficult realtionship at some point. Good luck!
If a guy is too nice or formal, I can't relate because I'm always afraid to make a joke or tell him how I really feel about something. That is what makes me eliminate a guy.
Just keep in mind that some guys are trying to be really nice to you when they like you, and not necessarily because they're a bunch of softies. They probably don't wish to hurt your feelings either, because some girls really are fragile. (No offense!)
What I am obsessed with, or at the very least what I truly do care about is to be a good person toward others and would like the same in return. As I said I truly enjoy chivalry but don't like when people make assumptions, men or women.
I agree, chivalry should be something you enjoy as a man, and not something that should be demanded. We're al different? I know some girls hate it, some girls like it, others simply don't care that much, and ofcourse the same goes for guys. Whatever suits you, but I still don't understand how some girls can get really nasty if you're holding a door for them. (I usually laugh about it though!) I mean, it's just a friendly gesture, and shouldn't be translated into ''I'm trying to bed you'' all the time.
When a woman expects a free dinner simply because she's a woman than she's just as sexist as the guy she accused of being a sexist pig for expecting sex just because he took her out and paid the bill.
I think there's a difference between expecting and demanding? Let me just say that girls have the advantage of being beautiful, so showing here a little gratitude for her company wouldn't hurt.
omg... guys and their obsession with money...
I'm probably the brokest guy on this forum at the moment, and I really couldn't care less, trust me. (I'm hoping for a better tomorrow though!)
i went for a coffee yesterday with a friend... he was waiting for me already and he got himself a cup of coffee... he asked me what i would like to drink and i said 'don't worry, i'll get it' and i got my coffee... with my own money... what is wrong with that?
Nothing. But if it's a date between the two of you, then wouldn't you expect some kind of a nice gesture? (Ofcourse you do!) If only a flower..
sometime it's confusing, if you pay - the guy doesn't feel macho enough; he pays - he thinks you're a gold digger...
Well, if you paid for me, I'd still feel man enough, but I would definetely buy you something in return. If I paid for you, I wouldn't call you a golddigger. I would only call someone who dumps her guy for a wealthier guy a golddigger, or girls who only date wealthy guys, even when it's obvious they're complete dickheads. I could probably understand if the guy in question really was a nice guy though, but in most cases those types seem to be pretty full of themselves. (Do I sound jealous?)
men, you have to make up your mind :)
I already did, and I guess I'm still waiting for her to do the same.. (Oh wait, she already did!)