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Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression?


frd 7 | 1,399
10 Jun 2010 #91
I think you misunderstood, we are not obsessed with our money. I know I'm not. Money is nice but it cannot buy you happiness. Cliché but true. I make good money but I doubt I'm any "happier" than the guy next to me who makes a fraction of what I make, in fact I bet you the opposite is true.

I never paid for any girl, maybe because they usually prefered or insisted on paying for themselves. I remember talking about it with my friends and everyone said that often girl that is being paid for feels like she needs to repay somehow. Anyways, I got used to it, so it would be strange for me to suddenly get the "you pay for everything" attutide. Maybe being a poor student not so long might be another issue here..
A J 4 | 1,088
10 Jun 2010 #92
and my asnwer is always thank you, why the attitude, they're just being polite??

Are you from Mars?? (I like your attitude, so don't worry!)

;)

or on the day you're breaking up with her ha ha... i just hate it when somebody has a problem with something and refuses to talk about it even if you ask them, and then they randomly snap one day for no reason cos they've been bottling it up.

I hate it even more when someone can't forgive you for being perfectly honest, but on the other hand, I realize that if it has to be that way, then it wasn't meant to be. I mean, there's simply no point in having a relationship if you always have to pretend to keep the peace.

in a relationship communication is key and yes it's good to think before you say stuff but don't leave it for weeks and months, it's very frustrating. men who agree to anything their missus tells them and then moan about it in the pub to their mates or on the internet are really really sad.

I used to think too much before I said anything. Now I don't. I just say what I say and sometimes I say funny, weird, crazy things and well, that's me! So they can either deal with how I feel about things or leave me alone. I agree, I wouldn't want to complain about my girl to my friends anyway. Why would I?

what are we supposed to do when you're playing video games? housework?? lol i do like my facebook but if there's something better on the agenda i won't touch my laptop for days. even my bf's ps3 is getting a little dusty now ha ha ha....

And what are we supposed to do when you're on facebook? Huh? (Jerk off? LOL!) If I have something better to do, I won't play videogames either, but in the winter and autumn? Well, if you're allowed to waste your time on facebook, then I'm allowed to play a game every now and then. (I mean, you don't really want to be on eachother's lips all day, do you?)

why would you wanna date somebody you're not impressed with and proud of? doesn't matter what it is about him but there has to be something, be it success, personality, family values, bedroom skills, anything ;D.

Ofcourse, but unfortunately a lot of girls translate pride into things like salary and social status, and not necessarily into personality, family values or bedroom skills. I don't want to sound like ''all girls are golddiggers'' but I think you know what I mean.

if you're not proud to strutt down the street with them then what is the point?

I can't argue with that, but I guess guys and girls are proud of different assets. To me, a girl could be unsuccesful as hell, but still be the funniest, brightest, or sweetest person alive. Know what I mean?

I don't like a man who is too nice or formal, it gets on my nerves its kind of creepy because I don't feel comfortable around him.

I can't stand formal either. (I need to cuss a few times every day, sorry!)

xD

I feel like I can't express what I think if its bad or negative.

I've got some advice for you; No matter how sweet or kind or soft a guy seems, he's always going to be able to deal with negativity. It sure does depend on how you're going to tell him such things, and which attitude you'll put on while doing so, but usually guys can take much more negativity than girls. So you shouldn't always think that nice guys can't be strong guys, because they might surprise you.

But when we go out on a date date, I definitely expect him to pay for everything unless it is serious and we've known each other for a long time.

Unless you're wealthier than the guy. Ofcourse the guy should always make some kind of effort to show you that he doesn't take your company for granted, but it's 2010, and girls are able to have careers aswell. (I guess most girls still wouldn't date a guy who's less succesful, but if they do, then why expect him to pay everything?) I think it's a bit of an old-fashioned attitude to always expect this. He should be happy to pay whatever he can pay for you though. I probably mean to say that it's more about the whole gesture than about the sum of money that's involved.

There is a happy medium between super freak nice and treating you like a doormat.

I'd agree. I don't know your exact definition of ''super-freak nice'', but it would probably disturb me aswell! I can be a bit of a roughneck sometimes, and really do appreciate a bit of an attitude from time to time, because I know I just can't treat her like she's made out of porcelain all the time either.

I just look for someone I can be comfortable around and really relate to.

That's wise. Anything else will probably never work out, or atleast become a very difficult realtionship at some point. Good luck!

If a guy is too nice or formal, I can't relate because I'm always afraid to make a joke or tell him how I really feel about something. That is what makes me eliminate a guy.

Just keep in mind that some guys are trying to be really nice to you when they like you, and not necessarily because they're a bunch of softies. They probably don't wish to hurt your feelings either, because some girls really are fragile. (No offense!)

:)

What I am obsessed with, or at the very least what I truly do care about is to be a good person toward others and would like the same in return. As I said I truly enjoy chivalry but don't like when people make assumptions, men or women.

I agree, chivalry should be something you enjoy as a man, and not something that should be demanded. We're al different? I know some girls hate it, some girls like it, others simply don't care that much, and ofcourse the same goes for guys. Whatever suits you, but I still don't understand how some girls can get really nasty if you're holding a door for them. (I usually laugh about it though!) I mean, it's just a friendly gesture, and shouldn't be translated into ''I'm trying to bed you'' all the time.

When a woman expects a free dinner simply because she's a woman than she's just as sexist as the guy she accused of being a sexist pig for expecting sex just because he took her out and paid the bill.

I think there's a difference between expecting and demanding? Let me just say that girls have the advantage of being beautiful, so showing here a little gratitude for her company wouldn't hurt.

:)

omg... guys and their obsession with money...

I'm probably the brokest guy on this forum at the moment, and I really couldn't care less, trust me. (I'm hoping for a better tomorrow though!)

;P

i went for a coffee yesterday with a friend... he was waiting for me already and he got himself a cup of coffee... he asked me what i would like to drink and i said 'don't worry, i'll get it' and i got my coffee... with my own money... what is wrong with that?

Nothing. But if it's a date between the two of you, then wouldn't you expect some kind of a nice gesture? (Ofcourse you do!) If only a flower..

sometime it's confusing, if you pay - the guy doesn't feel macho enough; he pays - he thinks you're a gold digger...

Well, if you paid for me, I'd still feel man enough, but I would definetely buy you something in return. If I paid for you, I wouldn't call you a golddigger. I would only call someone who dumps her guy for a wealthier guy a golddigger, or girls who only date wealthy guys, even when it's obvious they're complete dickheads. I could probably understand if the guy in question really was a nice guy though, but in most cases those types seem to be pretty full of themselves. (Do I sound jealous?)

men, you have to make up your mind :)

I already did, and I guess I'm still waiting for her to do the same.. (Oh wait, she already did!)

;)
southern 75 | 7,096
10 Jun 2010 #93
According to slavic women logic if you invite a woman for a date(usually it happens this way) you have to pay pay as well.The real man also pays,since woman spends time and money to make herself beautiful for him.It is a win-win situation.
Amathyst 19 | 2,702
10 Jun 2010 #94
I would say its "woman" logic, not only Slavic women think like this.
southern 75 | 7,096
10 Jun 2010 #95
Maybe slavic women express it more clearly.
nymph888 2 | 31
10 Jun 2010 #96
Money is nice but it cannot buy you happiness.

true.... agree to that! :)
ZIMMY 6 | 1,601
10 Jun 2010 #97
PGTX:"omg... guys and their obsession with money..."

Aren't women who don't want to 'pay their fair share' the obvious ones who are obsessed with money! You seem to have it backwards (again).
pgtx 30 | 3,156
10 Jun 2010 #98
Aren't women who don't want to 'pay their fair share' the obvious ones who are obsessed with money! You seem to have it backwards (again).

it's not backward... it's called a different point of view... thanks for your "input", as always...
Filios1 8 | 1,336
10 Jun 2010 #99
If I find out she has either a) slept with an arab or b) slept with a black. This is grounds to dump the poor confused girl.
southern 75 | 7,096
10 Jun 2010 #100
In my opinion girls who have slept with Blacks have a very distorted orientation and need a lot of balkan pen1s to see the light again and come to the straight road.
richasis 1 | 420
10 Jun 2010 #101
"a very distorted orientation" = "issues". who needs that?
ZIMMY 6 | 1,601
10 Jun 2010 #102
it's not backward... it's called a different point of view..

I suppose any view that is illogical can be considered "a different point of view" by the illogical person postulating it.

For example; person A is always spending money on person B who is a tightwad and never spends money.Yet, person B accuses person A of being the one obsessed with money.

Yep, that's "a different point of view" alright.
richasis 1 | 420
11 Jun 2010 #103
For example; person A is always spending money on person B who is a tightwad and never spends money.Yet, person B accuses person A of being the one obsessed with money.

You pretty much summed up my former relationship with that. BTW, I am (and was) 'person A'. :)
MareGaea 29 | 2,752
11 Jun 2010 #104
Polish men what is the worst thing a girl can do upon first impression?

For me personally 3 things are a major turn-off: 1) talk about sex when we first meet (and trust me, I have met girls who talked actually what they liked in bed on the very first date); 2) being gross in her language and 3) stupidity.

I like smart, stylish, feminine and classy girls with which I can have a decent conversation and to whom I don't have to explain three times what I mean.

>^..^<

M-G (nuff said)
frd 7 | 1,399
11 Jun 2010 #105
1) talk about sex when we first meet

you liar!!!

2) being gross in her language

what does being gross in somebody's language means ; o ?
MareGaea 29 | 2,752
11 Jun 2010 #106
you liar!!!

Try drunk British girls abroad. Then you will know what I mean.

I kid you not.

>^..^<

M-G (and besides that, she was ugly anyway)
lowfunk99 10 | 397
11 Jun 2010 #107
1. Smoking
2. Stupidity as someone above suggested
3. Smoking
4. Talking about past reations
5. Smoking
6. Talking about material things
MareGaea 29 | 2,752
11 Jun 2010 #108
2. Stupidity as someone above suggested

Ehm, that would be me :)

4. Talking about past reations

Oh yeah, forgot that one, a major turn off. It's like when you're holding an interview and the applicant is giving out to his previous work...Disgusting.

>^..^<

M-G (off to hit the sack. Goodnight)
frd 7 | 1,399
11 Jun 2010 #109
and besides that, she was ugly anyway)

showing your true colours are we!!! HA HA
ZIMMY 6 | 1,601
11 Jun 2010 #110
[quote=]ZIMMY:
For example; person A is always spending money on person B who is a tightwad and never spends money.Yet, person B accuses person A of being the one obsessed with money.

Richasis:You pretty much summed up my former relationship with that. BTW, I am (and was) 'person A'.

Here's one for you: "I'm the woman, so open my doors, pay my way, buy me gifts, be chivalrous, but don't complain that you are the one spending money and not me - BUT TREAT ME LIKE AN EQUAL!"

.....and my one of my favorites: ""All women have done the last 30 years is to prove men were right for the last 30 generations"

Times up ladies.....
southern 75 | 7,096
11 Jun 2010 #111
I also don't like small nails.For me village polish girl appearance on first date is perfect.
OP Allison 5 | 118
11 Jun 2010 #112
You mean, you like those big ridiculous looking fake nails? I wouldn't call that perfect, its unnatural and tacky.
southern 75 | 7,096
11 Jun 2010 #113
I like big coloured nails showing that girl is not involved in manual labor.I also like big slavic girls style golden earrings,tight pants and heavily shadowed eyes.High heels are also not bad although russian girls often overdo.But generally polish girls have excellent taste in fashion every time they seem like belonging to the candyshop.
shush 1 | 212
11 Jun 2010 #114
I like smart, stylish, feminine and classy girls with which I can have a decent conversation and to whom I don't have to explain three times what I mean.

>^..^<

What do you mean??

I'm the woman, so open my doors, pay my way, buy me gifts, be chivalrous, but don't complain that you are the one spending money and not me - BUT TREAT ME LIKE AN EQUAL!"

What about cooking and washing? but in general i guess you are right.
ZIMMY 6 | 1,601
11 Jun 2010 #115
What about cooking and washing?

Funny thing; I've been happily single for quite a few years now and "cooking and washing" never presented a problem to me. It isn't exactly astrophysics or nuclear science.......

in general i guess you are right.

Logic and common sense are difficult to argue against. Unfortunately, most women prefer their 'feelings' when making decisions. My advice to women is this; be the kind of person you would like to know. ... and stop nagging and testing men with those silly wiles.
Amathyst 19 | 2,702
11 Jun 2010 #116
What do you mean??

He's being a condesending tw*t..whoops there goes my chance with him, I just used foul language!

Funny thing; I've been happily single for quite a few years

No sh*t, Im in shock..how can this be???????????????????????
ZIMMY 6 | 1,601
11 Jun 2010 #117
m in shock..how can this be??????

By choice my dear, by choice. ... and my relative modesty prohibits me from tantalizing you with my robust full-bodied social life.
aphrodisiac 11 | 2,443
11 Jun 2010 #118
oh, boy, this thread it too funny:)

I like smart, stylish, feminine and classy girls with which I can have a decent conversation and to whom I don't have to explain three times what I mean.

smart is somebody who knows what is going on in the world and has his/her own opinion
stylish- has her own style, but is not going to wear something just to follow the fashion, she knows what she looks good in and she wears it,

feminine- I guess I don't have to explain that;)
classy: wild in bed, good manners at breakfast;)
and on, and on , and on.....:)
PlasticPole 7 | 2,649
11 Jun 2010 #119
Guys get pissed when women talk about other guys they like

They hate it when women talk about themselves (unless they ask about her first)

They don't like it when women hate on other women

They don't like obsessive madness in women

They don't like it when women want all their money
Amathyst 19 | 2,702
11 Jun 2010 #120
By choice my dear, by choice

Keep telling yourself that, you might believe it one day ;0)

and my relative modesty prohibits me from tantalizing you with my robust full-bodied social life.

You mean by that the lonely nights you spend on here? Being completely agressive towards women in the virtual world because there isnt a woman in front of you to be agressive to.

smart is somebody who knows what is going on in the world and has his/her own opinion
stylish- has her own style, but is not going to wear something just to follow the fashion, she knows what she looks good in and she wears it,
feminine- I guess I don't have to explain that;)
classy: wild in bed, good manners at breakfast;)
and on, and on , and on.....:)

Bingo!

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