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Polish men :( demand forgiveness


Caraj
24 Jan 2013 #1
Am I crazy or what? My polish boyfriend cheated on Facebook in September by messaging some ugly cow he'd met on holiday the year before. She started messaging him saying she really wanted a man like him. Then dropping in things about where he worked and lived (money grabber by any chance?). He like the typical man fell for it and had the cheek to sit by me night after night messaging her. He decided as I can't speak fluent Polish there was no way in this world I could understand written Polish. I questioned what he was saying to her and he told me time after time I was wrong and I didn't understand Polish. In the end I put the whole lot in google translate (amazing invention) and I could see I wasn't as stupid as he thought. But like a stupid woman I've stuck by him but he demands forgiveness and I mustn't mention it again. What do I do? He thought I should have forgiven him after two weeks never mind 4 months. How do I get it through his head what a collasal mistake he made?

Any help gratefully received :) dzięki
pawian 179 | 16,124
24 Jan 2013 #2
What do I do?

The basic question comes to mind: do you want to have kids with him after what he did?
Wroclaw 44 | 5,384
24 Jan 2013 #3
How do I get it through his head what a collasal mistake he made?

stop the sex
OP Caraj
24 Jan 2013 #4
Kocham cię sex :p maybe he is the one... a lifetime of disappointment, sounds like a normal marriage :p haha
Lenka 3 | 2,736
24 Jan 2013 #5
cheated on Facebook

He had internet sex or was he just talking with her?
OP Caraj
24 Jan 2013 #6
He sat next to me saying things like 'if I have to sleep with her (meaning me), I will imagine your face. He told her he'd check how much plane tickets would be to Ibiza to meet up again. He got upset when she didn't talk to him for a few days cos she was out with her boyfriend (classy bird). But I not allowed to be upset.....
Lenka 3 | 2,736
24 Jan 2013 #7
'if I have to sleep with her (meaning me), I will imagine your face.

This sentence is enough to dump him.I guess you don't want to be with someone who doesn't appreciate you.Good luck girl.
OP Caraj
24 Jan 2013 #8
Thanks Lenka I know the answer. Just fooling myself I still love him :( xx
Lenka 3 | 2,736
24 Jan 2013 #9
Just fooling myself I still love him :( xx

You may still love him-that's not a crime.Sometimes we love ppl that treat us badly but for your own sake-dump him.You gained 20 kg (and as a women myself I know it's not something that helps you with your self esteem) then he writes things like that(another blow right were it hurts) and all that makes you vulnerable.Soon you're going to be with him just because you'll be afraid of loneliness.Love him but from distance.
OP Caraj
24 Jan 2013 #10
I know. I need to go back to the confident girl I was before Met him otherwise I will always be unhappy. The diet starts tomorrow and I lose about 70kg saying bye bye to him :)
APF 4 | 106
24 Jan 2013 #11
Polish men in reallife are rather good compared to Polish women. But be aware of long-distance or internet relationships with Polish men .. for them it is just an adventure or useful time waste, while playing Starcraft 2.

Polish women are crazy over the Euro, whats the reason is, that they drive through whole Europe to marry foreign men .. in Poland most women are in relationships with "koksy" or foreigners .. thats the reason the typical internet hero is saying to himself "Nauuuu Ai show youu" .. they want to have relationships with the most different women from most different countries .. even if they know that they never pay the flight ticket .. just to show the Polish society, that he is different and he wants attenton from all these girls he never will get ..

If you ever met this Polish man in real, he showed, he willl care for you and he loves you truly .. but dont believe in internet Poles .. cause .. "In the internet everyone has the biggest" ..
Lenka 3 | 2,736
24 Jan 2013 #12
I lose about 70kg

Hey,slim is o.k. but we don't want sceletons :)

go back to the confident girl

That's the right path :)
Good luck and keep us posted :)
zetigrek
24 Jan 2013 #13
"In the internet everyone has the biggest" ..

Biggest what?

thats the reason the typical internet hero is saying to himself "Nauuuu Ai show youu"

Who?
OP Caraj
24 Jan 2013 #14
I live with him :p he sat next to me on his laptop writing in Polish cos he thought I was dozy English ***** who couldn't understand Polish. He went mad at me for checking his laptop, but the best bit was when I pointed out the questions she has been asking about where he lived and worked. He suddenly realised the slapper was expecting plane tickets from Ibiza to uk. I've never seen anyone block someone on Facebook so quick in my life :p I think he thought then do I stick it out with the English ***** who earns good money or fly the slapper over from Ibiza and never have any money haha :p
Lenka 3 | 2,736
24 Jan 2013 #15
checking his laptop,

I don't aprove of that.
How your conversation looked when you confronted him?*
*If you don't mind,of course.
OP Caraj
24 Jan 2013 #16
He denied everything. Said google translate can't translate English to Polish properly. I understand that though from learning Polish - our grammar is completely different. He was really drunk that night, drunk lots of lech :) and forgot to log off Facebook. Once he had slept off all the beer, he admitted I was right then. I don't know why I looked at the laptop but I just knew something not right. He kept saying she was just a girl he'd met on holiday before we we're together :/
ukangel 8 | 56
24 Jan 2013 #17
Polish men rarely apologize and most of the time blame their wife.
APF 4 | 106
24 Jan 2013 #18
There is a difference between Polaks/Polaczki and Polish men ..
Lenka 3 | 2,736
24 Jan 2013 #19
Caraj
I wish you all the best.

Polish men rarely apologize and most of the time blame their wife.

I love these generalisations.
ukangel 8 | 56
24 Jan 2013 #20
Wat the difference...
zetigrek
24 Jan 2013 #21
There is a difference between Polaks/Polaczki and Polish men ..

Which cathegory do you fall into?
ukangel 8 | 56
24 Jan 2013 #22
???? Explain Wat u mean category n Wat r the difference....
pawian 179 | 16,124
25 Jan 2013 #23
But be aware of long-distance or internet relationships with Polish men .. for them it is just an adventure or useful time waste, while playing Starcraft 2.

Yes! We are awful! I remember dropping my girlfriend after having sex with her. Lying in bed after hot love, she asked me when we should start planning marriage. I replied: never! and added I would like to end that relationship. She couldn`t believe it!!! :):):):):):):):) How can you be so fekking deprived of empathy to break up with me after making love to me??? You bastard!!!

Can you believe it?? :):):):)

Polish men rarely apologize and most of the time blame their wife.

Yes, I have always blamed all of my wives. They weren`t worthy of having such a hubby as me.
Rysavy 10 | 308
25 Jan 2013 #24
blamed all of my wives.

0-0 ALL?

LAWLZ are you like a Lothario..? You marry the good girl of the week then dumping her when she created into the harridan of the year?

^_^ "all" that sure sounds awful. I hate that I have one "Ex" I can't imagine having a collection !
MoOli 9 | 480
25 Jan 2013 #25
Can you believe it?? :):):):)

no i cannot.
Rysavy 10 | 308
25 Jan 2013 #26
(Caraj: 'if I have to sleep with her (meaning me), I will imagine your face)This sentence is enough to dump him.I guess you don't want to be with someone who doesn't appreciate you.Good luck girl.

I second that emotion.!!!!

Caraj That kinda of attitude is NOT good for you. I don't think that specifically is Polish thing. But it is BAD thing. And every day you spend with Mr Right Now is a day you will never spend with a possible Mr. Right.

While he was my BF, my Fiance didnt demand forgiveness during our one break, he pleaded.. (and he did nothing even CLOSE to such disrespect to me and to us! kicked me to the friend zone when he had heavy familial pressure) and it has been nothing to this day but what was promised for 11 mos as engaged.

Love can fade or be mistaken.. and it's removal is painful... but disrespect or mistreatment is intolerable.

If you peek at threads with those that positively promote Polish men, you will realize...if a traditional male like most Polish are respects you and KNOWS wishes to spend his whole life with you ..you are his best friend, his Princess, his Lady, his Queen , his goddess; all in one. And he will rope the moon for you.
el_easy 2 | 54
25 Jan 2013 #27
Caraj:
checking his laptop,

I don't aprove of that.
How your conversation looked when you confronted him?*
*If you don't mind,of course.

Everybody in this forum say ''I don't approve that'' but if she doesn't do that, she wouldn't find out!!... Caraj good job kick that bastard out of your life...
cristophercoll - | 9
25 Jan 2013 #28
Every man has a need to be appreciated maybe you didnt give him a interest which he damanded.
or maybe he is just an ass. i think that you can speak polish fluenty is just a excuse.
OP Caraj
25 Jan 2013 #29
How would men like it if we took that attitude? I think he hates the UK. He slags Britain off all the time. Food, weather beer etc. I asked why he wanted to live here then, I've told him in the past if it makes him happier I will go to Poland with him. His answer was the money. I asked him if the countries were the other way around and Poland paid better wages, how would he like it if British people went to Poland and slagged everything off about a beautiful country simply because it wasn't British? I doubt Polish people would like it. U have to accept the culture wherever u live in my opinion. He is just a typical man - always right. And as to not paying him enough attention I make so much effort. Getting him out and socialising so he can meet more people and try to integrate more. He has this thing about Polish people though. He couldn't believe that a Polish person lived in Ibiza! I notice this quite a lot though. Polish people live all over the world, so why do you think it's amazing to meet a fellow Pole in a different country?
iheartpolishmen
25 Jan 2013 #30
he sounds like a tool.
if he doesnt like it here he should feck off.
as for the way he treats you, you should not permit it.
it is entirely down to your low expectations.
dump him and be single for a while.


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