I dont want to lose him, but he wont listen when i say, marriage is big commitment in Ireland, he says when polish men fall in love they want to get married quickly.
Are you sure about it?
People don't get married in Poland after 4 months, usually it's after one year, sometimes a bit longer, two or three years...
I'd think 10 times before taking the decision about marrying the Polish man.
I think he expects from the commitment something more then just You and Your love.