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Inside polish women's psychology and mind


A J 4 | 1,077
2 Jun 2010 #31
abuse something what was not talked about in Poland until very recently

I could definitely date a single mother if her kids wouldn't mind. (And if she really was the type of person I would fall for.) Why? Because those women have really been through something, and in most cases may have learned a lot of valuable life-lessons from such an experience. (No offense, but I think younger women who haven't give up far too easily these days when their boy makes a stupid mistake.) I also like the idea of cheering someone up, and I'm not too selfish. The idea of a dating-site gives me a plastic feeling though, I think it's too fake and too forced.

I have said many stupid things when I was younger, but I've never cheated, and never harmed a woman. (I may have hurt some feelings with stupid decisions but that wasn't my intention.)

I just wanted to reply to this, and I don't mean to flirt with half the planet here, so I don't want everyone to think I'm looking for a single mother now, because I'm not necessarily looking for anyone at the moment.

I just really wanted you to know that there are many guys who aren't as creepy as you may think. (We often just a bit clumsy or a bit too enthusiastic when we're talking to a woman we're interested in, especially if there's a certain expectation!) Just socialize with people and look a bit further, and forget about those dating-sites. It's much better to get to know men in a different environment where dating isn't the expectation, because that's how you really see someone for who he is in everyday life. (When he isn't trying to sweet talk all the time.)

I mean, on dating-sites people are actively looking for something, and so many guys will pretend to be the more than they can be. It's a mistake many guys make, because believe it or not, some guys can get a little insecure too, and sometimes they want to impress someone a little too bad. (I believe the girls call this ''desperate'' behaviour.) Maybe I'm wrong, but you sound like someone who has had a bad experience? Whatever happened, or didn't happen, I wish you good luck, because not everyone who's interested in a woman (With or without children!) necessarily has to be a creep.

:)

Just saying!

I m even worse - if i go shopping when hungry then i buy lots of unnecessary things so i m trying to do shopping after eating but then i dont buy almost anything coz the food isnt nice then so when i m hungry i dont have anything to eat then i go shopping... vicious circle :S

Maybe you should try to develop a taste for the things you haven't tried yet, maybe that will make shopping more interesting? (Even when you're not hungry!)

;)

Single mothers are easier to abuse than childless single women? I dont get it. Or you mean the women are not the person who they are interested in, they are interested in their babies? :S

Oh well, if that's the case, then she should really forget the whole story I've just posted. (Although I do believe it contains a bit of useful information anyway!)

:)

I have said many stupid things when I was younger, but I've never cheated, and never harmed a woman. (I may have hurt some feelings with stupid decisions but that wasn't my intention.) Just to let you know this is coming from a guy who doesn't consider himself to be a creep.

I wanted to edit that, because it probably suggested something I didn't mean to suggest at all.

;)
shush 1 | 212
2 Jun 2010 #32
Maybe you should try to develop a taste for the things you haven't tried yet, maybe that will make shopping more interesting? (Even when you're not hungry!)

I do have the taste for the things i havent tried before but it isnt necessarily a good thing either - i buy them and then when i cant eat it coz it doesnt taste nice to me so i end up hungry lol

yeah i would agree about the forced dates but it happens everywhere, not only on dating websites. Some people are so fixed on having a date that they cant think straight. They tend to ask straight away if a person is interested in a relationship, if she wants friendship first then she is erased from the list. How ridiculous is that?

Just to let you know this is coming from a guy who doesn't consider himself to be a creep.

Only creeps say they are not creepy :P
A J 4 | 1,077
2 Jun 2010 #33
I do have the taste for the things i havent tried before but it isnt necessarily a good thing either - i buy them and then when i cant eat it coz it doesnt taste nice to me so i end up hungry lol

Try a restaurant more often?

;P

yeah i would agree about the forced dates but it happens everywhere, not only on dating websites. Some people are so fixed on having a date that they cant think straight.

Yeah, hormones can be a real bítch sometimes, but they are a part of our nature. It's pretty understandable people don't want to be alone all the time, and I don't think it's very healthy to be alone either.

They tend to ask straight away if a person is interested in a relationship, if she wants friendship first then she is erased from the list. How ridiculous is that?

In all honesty, I think you have some women for that to blame as well. There are a lot of girls who are looking for attention, or a talk-buddy, and the last thing a guy who's looking for a partner needs are those girls who go on about their boyfriends. (And I know some girls love to do this on purpose!) I don't mind female friends, but I don't really want to hear all those bedroom stories either. (Unless I'm involved!)

;)

Just being honest there.

Only creeps say they are not creepy :P

Haha! Well, you can call me everything you want, but I'm just going to keep telling you I know myself best.

;P
skysoulmate 13 | 1,275
2 Jun 2010 #34
Not a woman but am in touch with my feminine side lol

Seriously though Cool11 - I think women, just like men want to be happy with their lives and make decisions based on what they think will bring them happiness the fastest. Nowadays many want a successful career before they decide to start a family. Therefore many chose not to have children, at least not yet. One could say they now do what we men have been doing for centuries.
shush 1 | 212
2 Jun 2010 #35
the last thing a guy who's looking for a partner needs are those girls who go on about their boyfriends

Yes that's right, works for both.

I don't mind female friends, but I don't really want to hear all those bedroom stories either. (Unless I'm involved!)

If she starts sharing her bedroom stories with you then that's first step in you being involved not only as a listener :P

Yeah, hormones can be a real bítch sometimes, but they are a part of our nature. It's pretty understandable people don't want to be alone all the time, and I don't think it's very healthy to be alone either.

Yes but u dont start a relationship with a stranger. I mean if you are not interested in a person as a friend then u wont make a couple with her or him either. Coz the friendship is a base and on top of that there are the other things.
A J 4 | 1,077
2 Jun 2010 #36
Yes that's right, works for both.

That's not the impression I've had so far..

;)

If she starts sharing her bedroom stories with you then that's first step in you being involved not only as a listener :P

Oh great, and after ten years someone's telling me?

;P

Yes but u dont start a relationship with a stranger.

Unless you feel that there's a crazy chemistry between you and this stranger, and you feel like you want to get to know this stranger.

I mean if you are not interested in a person as a friend then u wont make a couple with her or him either. Coz the friendship is a base and on top of that there are the other things.

I've got nothing more to add to that.

:)
ShawnH 8 | 1,491
2 Jun 2010 #37
I am looking to the profiles of some polish social sites (fotka etc) and I try to understand the female psychology of polish women

That is like looking in the insane asylum, and wondering if all women are psychotic. OK, maybe they are, but looking in such a narrow field of view, you are bound to get a distorted perspective of things. Your scope of study should encompass the polling of 3247 women between the ages of 18 and 40 (prime child bearing years) from a broad range of Polish society (urban/rural, rich/poor, educated/non educated, straight/lesbian). Only then will you get a true picture (+/-3% 19 times out of 20) of Polish women and their perspective on child bearing.
frd 7 | 1,399
2 Jun 2010 #38
I m even worse - if i go shopping when hungry then i buy lots of unnecessary things so i m trying to do shopping after eating but then i dont buy almost anything coz the food

I think it's a pretty common trait, when people go to a supermarket hungry they tend to fullfill their little desire with anything that looks delicious..

Yes that's right, works for both.

I'd say it's relative, I've met some people who were rather exasperated by such stories...
southern 73 | 7,071
2 Jun 2010 #39
Polish women mind is full of gold.
OP cool11 3 | 18
2 Jun 2010 #40
Those that don't likely fear commitment or circumstances don't permit it. There can be a host of reasons.

Always there should be an explanation for specific decisions in life. I agree with you.
hague1cmaeron 14 | 1,368
2 Jun 2010 #41
I'd say that many Polish women do indeed want to have children. Those that don't likely fear commitment or circumstances don't permit it. There can be a host of reasons. Still, I admire those that take the plunge and increase the number of young people here. There are too many old foglets. Not on the scale of Japan, no, but heading in that direction :(

I though that Poland had one of the youngest populations in Europe, did i hear wrong?
OP cool11 3 | 18
2 Jun 2010 #42
I 've heard of it too.

But I examine the circumstances of these women that declare 'do not have children' and 'do not wish to have children'.
They are not the majority of polish women for sure. It is the minority, but that's exactly what we talk about.
nincompoop_not 2 | 192
2 Jun 2010 #43
I went to check out the fotka.pl and home page is enough for me.
They are very very young girls with a very sexed up photos :)

AJ
can I date you? ;)
A J 4 | 1,077
2 Jun 2010 #44
can I date you? ;)

You can try if you like. (I don't know if you can though, or if you'd even have the stomach for that!)

;)
A J 4 | 1,077
2 Jun 2010 #46
I wouldn't know about that, but hey, whatever floats your boat!

;)
paulinska 9 | 86
3 Jun 2010 #47
Mate, this is a very subjective issue - Trying to understand a woman is like winning lottery!. You would be extremely lucky to fully understand whats behind womens' behaviour.

I personally stick to the more objective stuff like.....England can't win the world cup b'se they're rubbish at taking penalties or which wine tastes better.

I really hope i dont sound like a nerd cos you seem quite serious and focused with this adventure of yours but honestly, there's NO MANUAL for women. I actually think weather is more predictable than women.

I think the best way to approach it is to do it at a personal level rather than trying to understand women as a whole...Now thats some assignment. Let me know how you get on!
A J 4 | 1,077
3 Jun 2010 #48
You would be extremely lucky to fully understand whats behind womens' behaviour.

No, you wouldn't be lucky. At all. You would have extreme bad luck if you did.

;)

Let me know how you get on!

We usually don't.

xD
paulinska 9 | 86
3 Jun 2010 #49
You would have extreme bad luck if you did

AJ - much as i think i would regret it, i can easily snap someone's hand off for this particular bad luck. There are some very trivial issues i struggle to understand on a daily basis with the missus. This would make my life much easier...err sorry not easier, abit like smoother!
A J 4 | 1,077
3 Jun 2010 #50
much as i think i would regret it, i can easily snap someone's hand off for this particular bad luck.

For some reason that doesn't sound too healthy?

There are some very trivial issues i struggle to understand on a daily basis with the missus.

Like?

This would make my life much easier...err sorry not easier, abit like smoother!

Shoot! (I'm sure the girls will love your questions!)

:)
paulinska 9 | 86
3 Jun 2010 #51
Like?

Oh No no no......This is a NO GO Zone. i promised myself NOT to ever again contemplate on them - i dont wanna end up like Cool11. Lets just leave it at luckily striking the bad luck or wait for cool11's report.
A J 4 | 1,077
3 Jun 2010 #52
Oh No no no......This is a NO GO Zone.

I guess I'm brave.

i promised myself NOT to ever again contemplate on them - i dont wanna end up like Cool11.

You don't have to contemplate. You just have to learn how to listen between the lines. That's all.

Lets just leave it at luckily striking the bad luck or wait for cool11's report.

It would be funny to read what he has learned so far, that's for sure!

:)
vetala - | 382
3 Jun 2010 #53
I can't speak for every Polish woman but I don't want to have children for the same reason why I don't want to have a dog - too much trouble, filth, costs and in addition to that I wouldn't be able to leave house whenever I want for as long as I want for some 20 years. No, thanks.
A J 4 | 1,077
3 Jun 2010 #54
Marry me. Immediately.

:)
Seanus 15 | 19,670
3 Jun 2010 #55
Vetala, you came across as sb who likes to sidestep challenges. Don't you think that other women think that way yet still bite the bullet? How about the thought that you could be more youthful when your child is growing up? It depresses me to think that our future kid will be 15 and me 50. It's heading that way :(
OP cool11 3 | 18
3 Jun 2010 #56
I can't speak for every Polish woman but I don't want to have children for the same reason why I don't want to have a dog - too much trouble, filth, costs and in addition to that I wouldn't be able to leave house whenever I want for as long as I want for some 20 years. No, thanks.

You are welcome to our conversation! I am really glad to hear that there are actual reasons for some women for not wanting to have kids.

Please tell me, do you imagine yourself without having kids for the rest of your life?
shush 1 | 212
3 Jun 2010 #57
You guys are saying as only women were hard to understand but thats not the case. Men are as hard to understand as women are and it is not coz of gender, it's coz every particular person is different and has own ways.
A J 4 | 1,077
3 Jun 2010 #58
You guys are saying as only women were hard to understand but thats not the case.

Oh, but I'm not saying they're hard to understand, they're just hard to talk to.

;)

Men are as hard to understand as women are and it is not coz of gender, it's coz every particular person is different and has own ways.

*nods*

:D

So there is hope afterall!
vetala - | 382
3 Jun 2010 #59
Marry me. Immediately.

;)

Don't you think that other women think that way yet still bite the bullet?

I can only feel sorry for them.

How about the thought that you could be more youthful when your child is growing up?

I don't want to waste my youth sitting at home 24/7 waiting for my children to come back from a school trip and tell me about all the exciting places they've been to which I'll never get to see and they didn't like because they're more interested in touring playgrounds than museums. My mother and aunts were younger than me when they had kids so I know what to expect from motherhood. It's not something I'm looking forward to.

Please tell me, do you imagine yourself without having kids for the rest of your life?

Perhaps one day nature will kick in and I'll start wishing for kids. It won't happen anytime soon, though.
A J 4 | 1,077
3 Jun 2010 #60
;)

I somehow suspected that. (Gee, now why would I think that?)

;P


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