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Are Polish girls forced to marry by their parents?


master 17 | 22
21 Oct 2009 #1
are polish girls forced to marry by their parents?
Wroclaw 44 | 5,387
21 Oct 2009 #3
common sense will tell you the answer is ... No
Wulkan - | 3,251
21 Oct 2009 #4
shouldn't this guy supposed be already suspended?
OP master 17 | 22
21 Oct 2009 #5
its her parents and relatives that keep asking her
plk123 8 | 4,150
21 Oct 2009 #6
so she says.... it's part of the ultimatum scheme.
OP master 17 | 22
21 Oct 2009 #7
i dont now what it is she is in poland coming back tomorrow thinking i will a ring for her or she go back next month
krysia 23 | 3,058
21 Oct 2009 #8
master

Are you a teaher or a teacher?
You sure don't know how to write properly in english. You sound muslim or something, because that's how marriages are there.
beckski 12 | 1,617
21 Oct 2009 #9
are polish girls forced to marry by their parents?

I think Poland has probably changed a bit since the 1850's...
Ced 1 | 54
21 Oct 2009 #10
don't get me wrong...

what do you expect from people here? to take serious life decisions for you? aren't you mature enough to take it yourself? you keep asking strange questions..

if you don't want to marry that girl- don't do it.
Seanus 15 | 19,706
21 Oct 2009 #11
Maybe there is a strong expectation like there is in Japan. 30 seems to be the age where, if they are not married, their families may look unfavourably upon that. My friend Yoko was 31 and her parents frowned upon her for not being married. She is an obasan (grandmother) in Japanese eyes. Be thankful that Poland does have an arranged marriage culture like Japan has.

There will always be pressure from the social unit known as the family. We also have to see where they are coming from and try and accept that the pressure is a little stronger here. Also, it's not like we are not pressured back home either (if you are a Brit).
nomaderol 5 | 726
22 Oct 2009 #12
All parents in the world do that. People like to be copied, doesn't matter right or wrong, they just don't want to be alone between the gears of this economical system on the earth. So, these kinds of marriages are a forced thing all over the world. If you were from poor Tanzania, they wouldn't want her daughter marry to you.
Lodz_The_Boat 32 | 1,535
22 Oct 2009 #13
There will always be pressure from the social unit known as the family

I dont think its totally unjust.

My cousin was married with the son of my mother's friend. Ofcourse they were encouraged to know each other.... but the scenario was more of arranged kind of. Non of the two ppl were dating others or really very active in that dept (more of an introvert kind).

They are one of the most happiest couples I have seen.

Sometimes when family ties and the dynasty itself is reasonably strong... such things may happen...and they are not unwelcome at all.

Its not like 'Either you marry whom I tell you, or you die!'... its just preparing a platform by the people who love you!... A platform which maybe many ppl would love to have themselves.
SzwedwPolsce 11 | 1,595
22 Oct 2009 #14
Its not like 'Either you marry whom I tell you, or you die!'... its just preparing a platform by the people who love you!... A platform which maybe many ppl would love to have themselves.

It's a big difference between suggestion that you can marry a person, and saying that you should marry her/him.
Lodz_The_Boat 32 | 1,535
22 Oct 2009 #15
suggestion that you can marry a person, and saying that you should marry her/him

Exactly :)
polsky 2 | 84
27 Oct 2009 #16
Truth is that polish women have a thing for getting married, women really need it, it is social pressure or the need to take away all the freedom from men... something along the lines.

If a woman is not married by 23 years of age, she is worried and becomes almost very desperate
southern 75 | 7,096
27 Oct 2009 #17
ruth is that polish women have a thing for getting married, women really need it,

The most absurd was when I was asked by a polish girl to marry her and her friend.So much pressure.Unbelievable.
frd 7 | 1,399
27 Oct 2009 #18
If a woman is not married by 23 years of age, she is worried and becomes almost very desperate

where's that trolling coming from.. another lad dumped by a polish girls..
polsky 2 | 84
27 Oct 2009 #19
The most absurd was when I was asked by a polish girl to marry her and her friend.So much pressure.Unbelievable.

:) I think actually is truth.

frd
you start insulting without thinking. I am a girl.
southern 75 | 7,096
27 Oct 2009 #20
Maybe I should marry all of them.To be the king polkakamon.
Ced 1 | 54
27 Oct 2009 #21
I am a girl

so maybe you are afraid of too strong rivals? envious?
esek 2 | 228
27 Oct 2009 #22
If a woman is not married by 23 years of age, she is worried and becomes almost very desperate

I don't agree.... most of girls I know want to get married after they graduate... at age ~25.
frd 7 | 1,399
27 Oct 2009 #23
:) I think actually is truth.

frd
you start insulting without thinking. I am a girl.

anyways, it's pretty obvious looking at all your posts that they are all just trolling, which indicates there was no thinking at all prior to sending them..
SzwedwPolsce 11 | 1,595
27 Oct 2009 #24
If a woman is not married by 23 years of age, she is worried and becomes almost very desperate

Don't you think the pressure has decreased a little in the last 10-15 years? Of course it depends on where in Poland you live (city/countryside) and what kind of family you are from. These days there are very many young Poles who don't get married before 25.

I was asked by a polish girl to marry her and her friend

I've never heard of a Polish girl that feels a pressure to share a man with another girl.
Seanus 15 | 19,706
27 Oct 2009 #25
Yeah, in Japan they exchange photos to scope out potential partners. It's a very odd way of doing it.
SRTFP - | 4
25 Jan 2010 #26
To nie prawda! Dlaczego tyle ludzi pisze zle o Polakach!? I jeszcze jedno pytanie-dlaczego tyle glupich zartow o nas !?
That's not true! Why so many people write bad about Polish people? And one more question, "Why so many stupid jokes about us?!"
jwojcie 2 | 763
25 Jan 2010 #27
Of course they are! For example during this harsh winter, parents use to make igloo-like buildings with steel bars. Then parents lock there their disobedient daughters and wait till they grow wise. It is obvious that poor girls start to dream about knight on white horse, and of course sometimes some brave man with long spear crushes this glacial jail ;-)

One should remeber, that some girls aren't that lucky. Some of them froze to death, or oh horror, instead of white knights on white horses with long spears, white polar bears are crushing the igloo and taking poor girls as a juicy meal.

PS. The rumour is, that a few years ago in the east of Poland some village people saw even a big red dragon with a star on the head, who was trying to break some igloo with hook and hammer. But girl inside of an igloo had some poison in blood and the dragon exploded after eating to much snow.
convex 20 | 3,978
25 Jan 2010 #28
For example during this harsh winter, parents use to make igloo-like buildings with steel bars.

I was wondering what was up with all those igloos along the side of the highway. I'll drop throw some bread out of the car next time I pass (should be good for some positive karma).
jwojcie 2 | 763
25 Jan 2010 #29
Be careful, because some enterprising women with not ortodox moral code are using those igloos as a trap for not cautious man. You may have to pay for your own bread twice ;-)
Medi00
3 Nov 2010 #30
Convex, jwojcie you guys are just unbelievable:D:D:D

Seriously, I think that SzwedwPolsce is right. Althought in my case I was almost forced. My family is one of the respected families in my region and my marriage would be just a business. Thanks to God I moved out with my parents, so they are more easy going right now. I'm still not allow to date, but am optimistic about the future. Am also grateful that things like this don't happen that often in our country.


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