What if it does? :) Sankarin is looking for advice and I'm trying to help.
It isn't important what you think matters or doesn't matter, it's important what mattered for those girls sankarin wanted to kiss.
He wanted to kiss them, not to kiss you xD
So I'm giving my perspective on the issue as I'm both a woman and a Polish woman lol ;)
some other nationalities do not have that custom that kiss on the first date is no no.
It's not about some custom. Some girls/women need time. I think women in general usually need more time than men. Think of dating as a foreplay. Men don't need foreplay, but it's often a must for women.
Furthermore, girls/women who are looking for a relationship may be put off by a guy who's moving too fast in the physical direction, because they may see it as a sign of him wanting only sex.
Also, women who are looking for a relationship don't want be seen as "easy", because men (at least in Poland) usually don't consider such women as gf material.
Of course, there are women who will have no problem with kissing on a first date or even having sex on a first date or one-night stands but then sankarin should look for such women.
After all if you agreed to date a guy surely at lest you gonna kiss him.
If it's a first date then I agreed to this date to get to know the guy! lol It doesn't necessarily mean I'll kiss him. Sure, if the guy is really handsome or hot and charming and interesting and altogether irresistible then the woman may just throw herself at him lol
It all depends, really, probably on quite a few factors. It's not a simple mathematical equation that you can apply to every case, to every woman :P
Because the woman may not feel like kissing just yet? Because she needs more time?
Damn, I feel like I'm talking to people from a different planet right now, you know? ;D What the hell...
Well, I don't think all of them was looking for a serious one too. Not that I wasn't but I just prefer letting it go and if it turns out it will become serious, then why not?
OK, sankarin, but you don't know what they were looking for and I don't know that either.
I'm just telling you what impression I got from your attitude shown in your first post.
But something I forgot to mention is that one of them had a bf and still used to hang out with other guys (i know cheating is not only among polish girls, just pointing out this one wasnt in fact looking for a serious relationship).
Um... Hanging out with your male friends isn't cheating yet, so what do you mean by hanging out?
Sometimes beautiful women complain they have problems with making friends among women and so they have male friends mainly.
If that wasn't the case and she was cheating on her bf, then what did you want from her? Sex?
If she was cheating on her bf it was very likely she was a player, so what did you expect from her? That she won't play with you? lol
I'm 23 now.
OK, that's young indeed ;)
I suspect the girls you were after were your age or younger.
I think it may be often the case girls/women at that age aren't terribly mature yet and they don't always know what they want.
Some girls from Poland may also come from traditional regions in Poland and sometimes maybe it's good to take this into account. What I mean is that some girls at your age may still be virgins (which is apparently very unusual in the West). Let's take my example - I'm a rather religious person living in a conservative region of Poland and it took me three years of knowing a guy and then being his gf for almost a year before... you know... :)
And yes it was in the first date, but I knew them from before, so it wasnt like i was a strange.
OK, but some girls/women need time to warm up to a man. To get to know him better, to feel more comfortable around him and comfortable enough to kiss with him. That's like... basic, obvious stuff... for me, at least, apparently o_O
Well, I just found out they are the most beautiful in the world =). And yes, they are all nice, kind, even smiley, although some can look really serious and mad.
Another one bites the dust... lol
But maybe the challenge of not getting a clue from them is making me more attracted to them.
That would be my guess.
Thank you man! Just think the same. People must know how to give and get a no when it's no. Would be much easier than bearing this doubt in mind and wondering what did u do wrong when she went away or maybe.
Then don't date Polish girls xD
Make sense. But come on, why the hell would she accept hanging out with me just to tell she had a bf when I tried to kiss? I made it clear my intentions. Besides, after this day I kept listening from their friends she was jealousy when I was talking to any of them and even my polish boss came to me to tell this girl was into me. I agree it all sounds very childish, but that's how it all happened.
Sankarin, she may see you as a playboy going after many girls at a time. So on one side she may find you attractive, but on other maybe she thinks you're a player or sth.
Or maybe, as I wrote, she needed time. The fact that she didn't kiss you, doesn't mean she didn't like you. Maybe she wanted you to ask her on another date and not hit on other girls at the same time. This is called "courtship" ;)
I honestly don't know, I don't have a crystal ball at my disposal and I don't have all the answers. Maybe she's just weird, or maybe she's shy or God knows what lol Girls have their issues too, you know :)
Did you have any particular interest in this girl, or did you date her only because her friends told you she was into you? If you were interested in her then you should've tried to talk to her and ask her about it. Or simply you should've ask her out again for a second date. Because I guess you didn't?
BS you have really good stuff back there in Brazil
Indeed, it sounds weird coming from a Brazilian lol
@ f stop, I love it :-). I think it's pretty much a universal characteristic of women to want to be desired.
I think it's pretty much a universal characteristic of people in general :)
Besides that, I agree with everything what Englishman wrote. That's a grown up, mature man. Watch and learn, sankarin ;)
Any of these possibilities exists every time you ask a woman out. The trick is to listen to her and understand her and endeavour to work out which is the case. If she wants something different to you, thank her for the date and move on. If you have common ground and you both enjoyed it, ask her again.
Exactly, that's what dating and talking is for, among others.