Answer me this.... why do you think that some people who have lived happily together for 20/30 years but have not wed, but then decide you know what lets do this, then get married and
after a few months or couple of years they separate and divorce.
Such people are living a hallucination. They are afraid of responsibilities, and once it comes infront of them they discover their internal disability and run away from it. They don't really look for a soulmate or a life partner, all they want is a free bed mate ... or something very un-family. You call it freelife? ... I call it misuse of liberty.
I disagree. I think if you have morals and values then however you live life they will remain with you, married or not.
You can very well disagree. I have no objection ... but your disagreement do not convert a wrong into a right.
Its not the right process because it lags the soul of "Love", which is devotion, commitment, responsibility, union and being a "unit". Marriage is a great institution which is devised to bring God in the spiritual sense into a union ... and also in the psychological sense it brings a known and declared commitment, also proves the couples resolve for being responsible to carry on this great support system between each other.
Marriage is also a legal bonding between a man and a woman which helps their rights and the rights of the child.
Marriage is also a great education for the child to know how to conduct himself in life. To know that with the great gift of love, comes the responsibility with it. To know what a family is, how it must work, how it is defined, and how he can grow up and make one of his own. The child can see its mother and father together, a single unit, a parent ... a complete family. THIS IS IMPORTANT.
I am not being religion here. I am all in favor of inter-religious marriage too. My own wife is a Buddhist and I am not. But the institution is vital, universal and holy (its followed in every proper and matured civilization). It is something very significant for humans.
So if you're not married, you are automatically unable to care for your partner, to be understanding, honest, or loving?
It means you are resisting the concept of taking your partners, and this relationships RESPONSIBILITY officially and ceremoniously. Why not? There is a big doubt and it is thus, not love ... but just fulfilling lust.
If you love someone deeply, you are in a committed relationship, married or not.
Marriage is that commitment and that responsibility ... it is a great institution. Just because you call it bullshit, overrated, or any other name ... doesn't make it something less. Only makes you a very ignorant person against it. If you don't like it, stay out of it. No one is forcing... its just about opinions ... and about values. You don't like it, don't take it. Be on someones bed for free no problem.
Being married has nothing to do with being in love.
It has alot ... but being married don't only mean a cake or a dance ... or a dress or a feast. It means much more ... it means the carrying out of it. This one is missed or maybe unknown to you?
So please don't try to tarnish its reality only because you don't know what MARRIAGE actually means in its entirely. Its not a "stage show" which many do and then suffer.
Marriage is about children, property, and inheritance rights and / or religion.
Marriage is about Love, it is about responsibility, value, commitment, rights (yes, it is also included), spirituality, sanctity and devotion ... it is the conversion of two into one.
It is a good idea to marry if you have or plan to have kids, just for the added security it gives your family. If it's just you and your partner, and you are not religiously inclined, marriage is IMHO largely overrated.
So this clearly confirms my point. Its a lustful thing, selfish and self centered - this FREESTYLE WESTERN CONCEPT OF LIVEINS without marriage. Its spreading, but it will fall on its face with or a very desolate future awaits for those who follow.
GO AHEAD ... your life at the end of the day.
I thought mothers and fathers just want their children to be happy!
And stay happy ... but just be with drug and with drowsy eyes say "oh I feel coool".
I thought that mothers are generally happy if their daughters are getting married to a decent men... no matter of what nationality.
That is the correct truth :) ...
But how to explain people who meet only the wrong ones in a strip club or perhaps a Polish construction worker and then think the whole of Poland is like that.
===================================As for the topic ... the mother in right in her place. She is disgusted ... and the topic poster can be assured that this mother will not abandon her daughter ... although the daughter certainly did puncture her heart.