nope, i keep my act together and give it my best shot so at the end of the day if things dont work out i don't have any reasons to blame myself. i would never change for anyone, i would get out of my way to please them every now and again but i don't believe there is anything wrong with me that needs fixing! i'm happy with myself
Good. Confident as you are always. Until some day you may realize that there's sth wrong with you that needs to be fixed. Or some day you may want to change yourself for somebody. That day may come, or may not. Any way, you're an optimistic person.
don't let the woman shake you up!
Yes! Gentlemen, don't let the woman shake you up!
I don't want to sound too arrogant, but I don't think I will have much problems with a woman who understands me
Who says the chemistry will be gone if you really found someone you understand and can laugh with?
I guess you would quickly walk away from a woman who doesn't understand you. How much time you would give a woman to understand you? First few minutes, hours? How long you can keep that understanding and laugh, without all the realities (or needs per your definition). You're not married yet. When you are, you may change your mind as how much time is necessary for two people to understand each other, how much effort and change of self and sacrifies are required to keep the laugh in the house. It's not simply a matter of chemistry click. By the way, what is the longest time you have laugh with a woman who understands you, if you don't mind telling? It's a learning experience to me.
Wrong, if there are no happy feelings involved, then you can't possibly convince me that you really understand eachother
There're already some happy feelings among us in other matters, except that in sex. It may take a little more time to get things smooth, or I will have to go away. As I said, I give it a few more months, may be longer if she would think it may work out in the end.
There's a fat chance she'll want to leave you as soon as she'll meet someone who really does turn her world upside down, and if on top of that his financial situation seems acceptable to her, then you can bet your bottom that that's what will happen, if she doesn't feel much for you. (Sorry!)
First, we need to commit into a real relationship with each other. Then, if she would do that, I'll take it a memory to keep, a little bitter, a little sweet, and salty. But before we commit to a real relationship, we will figure out how to solve the financial issue, the children issue (if we will have any), and other issues. We will have to plan for our future. This may sound too much conditioning and not natural, as most people, esp. young people only believe in love and disregard the consequences. They always think that "we love each other, we will solve all the problems, we do not need to talk about money, that's not real love".
I'm sure your intentions aren't too bad, but I'm afraid you are completely ignoring her feelings for you. (Or should I say her lack of feelings for you?) Look, if you can't excite her, can't make her laugh, can't entertain her, and if she can't even tell you that she really loves you, then you're not exactly acting in her - or even your own - best interest by prolonging this emotional emptiness. (You're going to make her feel bad, and I doubt that's what you want.)
How can I have any chance if I ignore her feelings? We had great moments. I believe that she would be fine with me in all aspects, except sex that we do not have sth in common yet, b/c of physical appearance. It may take some time, or never, I don't know by now. I may have been overexaggerating the situation, because all I lack are some biceps, triceps, quadriceps, major pectoralis. As for the Ischio cavernous and Bulbo cavernous, I am fine.
No? So you really think you can tell me that personality doesn't matter?
Personality matters. Other factors do too.
Have you ever looked at a woman you don't know, and she looked back at you, and you knew she'd like to get to know you, too?
I did. Some times I was right, some times I was wrong. How about you, you're always right?
if i tried and tried and tried and i wouldn't get me anywhere then i'd walk away. but i suppose some people just enjoy being hurt.
How long can you try before walking away? Few days, weeks? I may be able to try longer than you are, that's the difference.
Otherwise, do what you're doing - keep paying and being everything you think she needs. And then maybe you'll become so indispensable, she'll stay with you - probably not because she learned to love you though, but out of convenience
To be honest, I never have paid anything for her so far, except some dinners, cookies, drinks, some handicraft souvenirs (not expensive at all), that I consider normal and a man must do.